My life is falling apart - Warning *emo*

[Killove]

So, I know there have been a lot of emo threads lately, but I feel I deserve one too.

I'm 23 and have just started my first job (so obviously I'm not getting paid that much.)
My parents are kicking me out of my house because they are moving to Durban.
My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.

So i'm going to have no home (cant afford a place on my own), no girl, and no money.

If you see a young white guy begging on Grayston drive in Sandton, thats me.
Any small change would be appreciated.

[Alan]

Karma?


when i was 5 i set my grans house on fire.
then in high school i had a crime syndicate at a shopping centre where i would pay poor people to steal computer games from cna for me.
i once tripped a girl on a jungle gym in grade 1 and she broke her neck (shes ok now though, doesnt know it was me)
im going to burn :(

[Killove]

could be :(

[ToxicBunny]

*I shall refrain from kicking a man when he's down.... for now*

China, it'll all sort itself out, just be patient... live within your means for now, even if it means living in a rather nasty place with like 5 other guys cos of the cheap rent.

[Messugga]

It's called sharing a flat in a cheap area. Everyone starts off having it tough and most people survive. You'll be fine.

[Menace]

My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.



huh?

[teraside]

So, I know there have been a lot of emo threads lately, but I feel I deserve one too.

I'm 23 and have just started my first job (so obviously I'm not getting paid that much.)
My parents are kicking me out of my house because they are moving to Durban.
My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.

So i'm going to have no home (cant afford a place on my own), no girl, and no money.

If you see a young white guy begging on Grayston drive in Sandton, thats me.
Any small change would be appreciated.

Take a look at my last blog post on the forum. Are you really sure you are being kicked out? Are you observing it as a kick out? Time heals man, even if you have to be a hard ass about it.

[Scooby_Doo]

Move to Durban?

Its not so bad here, plus traffic is 10000000000000x better than joburg.

[killadoob]

Karma?

dude if that is true omfs

you deserve this

thats pretty hectic breaking someone's neck

Originally Posted by Killove View Post
when i was 5 i set my grans house on fire.
then in high school i had a crime syndicate at a shopping centre where i would pay poor people to steal computer games from cna for me.
i once tripped a girl on a jungle gym in grade 1 and she broke her neck (shes ok now though, doesnt know it was me)
im going to burn

[Killove]

I was a kid and it wasnt intentional, i was 5 ffs.

[teraside]

I was a kid and it wasnt intentional, i was 5 ffs.

That's history, don't worry about it, really, read my last blog post, you might just learn something.

[Bondizzo]

you'll make it, keep your head up

[BCO]

A good friend of mine is looking for a housemate in Melville. Rent's not too expensive. If you want to find out more, send me a PM.

[Lino]

Well I gotta say this, what we say in other forums we should not use against each other. I mean if we do then no one would post anymore.

Anyway back on topic @Killove

I am sure things will turn out ok, try to first clear your head then draw up a plan on how to deal with each situation. Take one day at a time

[The Cosmos]

So, I know there have been a lot of emo threads lately, but I feel I deserve one too.

I'm 23 and have just started my first job (so obviously I'm not getting paid that much.)
My parents are kicking me out of my house because they are moving to Durban.
My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.

So i'm going to have no home (cant afford a place on my own), no girl, and no money.

If you see a young white guy begging on Grayston drive in Sandton, thats me.
Any small change would be appreciated.

Get junkmail, or goto www.classads.co.za/browse.html, and look for properties to rent.

you're bound to have something.
Sandton is way too expensive just to live there.

[Killove]

I always said if things got to a point where i was considering killing myself, I would just pack my stuff up, move to tibet and become a monk.
If you dont see me here in a month, know that i'm 'ohming' on a mountain in asia with no hair. :(

[Lino]

Well as long as you don't kill yourself...

[teraside]

I always said if things got to a point where i was considering killing myself, I would just pack my stuff up, move to tibet and become a monk.
If you dont see me here in a month, know that i'm 'ohming' on a mountain in asia with no hair. :(

Main thing is, don't be foolish, if you feel you've got an opportunity to make it on your own, then go for it. But the fact is, your parents might not be kicking you out of the house, it may only seem that way to you.

I thought I wasn't welcome where I lived, but I received phone calls for a whole month asking me to come back. I'm not saying it will be the same for you, but check out the horizon first, like someone said, work out a plan.

There's nothing wrong with living on your own, or with someone, but living with someone who's not family is not the coolest thing for me ;)

[blunomore]

Take a look at my last blog post on the forum. Are you really sure you are being kicked out? Are you observing it as a kick out? Time heals man, even if you have to be a hard ass about it.


Hey Tera, don't mislead the poor guy. Time heals NOTHING. It is what you DO during that time, that can make a difference.

Killove, I see you say your parents are kicking you out of your house. Do you not mean our of THEIR house? If it were your house, they would not be able to kick you out.

Except for a few people, everyone of us start off relatively poor. Like some other posters said, find a commune to share - it will bring down the cost. And now that you will be alone - no gf, no parents, work hard at your job, put in some extra housrs and you may be promoted or get a performance bonus which will in turn increase your salary and your lifestyle.

Good luck.

[Rainy]

I always said if things got to a point where i was considering killing myself, I would just pack my stuff up, move to tibet and become a monk.
If you dont see me here in a month, know that i'm 'ohming' on a mountain in asia with no hair. :(

Wont you parents and family miss you?

[teraside]

Hey Tera, don't mislead the poor guy. Time heals NOTHING. It is what you DO during that time, that can make a difference.


If I wanted to mislead someone, I would be standing on a street holding a sign saying "collect your cash here". My point isn't to mislead him. Time does heal, not by itself as you said, but with time you progress and take more things into account than the one road block you had a few months ago.

Not everyone's cut out for living in a commune, it may be a good way to save money, but what if you have personal issues, like an illness or some form of anxiety?

You are misleading him to tell him to get out of his parents house, it's not for you to decide.

[blunomore]

If I wanted to mislead someone, I would be standing on a street holding a sign saying "collect your cash here". My point isn't to mislead him. Time does heal, not by itself as you said, but with time you progress and take more things into account than the one road block you had a few months ago.

Not everyone's cut out for living in a commune, it may be a good way to save money, but what if you have personal issues, like an illness or some form of anxiety?

You are misleading him to tell him to get of his parents house, it's not for you to decide.


I did not tell him to get out of his parents house. I said if the house belong to them instead of him, then he has no choice but to leave if they are selling it.

I really do not believe in pampering 23 year olds, which I think he said is his age. If young people get out into the big wide world on their own for the first time, it often means doing without all those things you are used to for a while, but that builds character.

[sdd]

Hang in there mate ... us oldies know that time makes things better ... just as long you also play the game and make the most of every opportunity.

[timgaul]

So, I know there have been a lot of emo threads lately, but I feel I deserve one too.

I'm 23 and have just started my first job (so obviously I'm not getting paid that much.)
My parents are kicking me out of my house because they are moving to Durban.
My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.

So i'm going to have no home (cant afford a place on my own), no girl, and no money.

If you see a young white guy begging on Grayston drive in Sandton, thats me.
Any small change would be appreciated.

Been there, done that. First job, girlfriend moved back to Grahamstown (which subsequently ended badly :/). I gave it up all as a bad idea after 6 months moved to England working my way around for about a year. Came back, found a nice place to live, got my old job back, nice new car. All seemed to fall into place.

So don't get too dispondent. I know it is all a bit overwhelming. Now you don't need to move to another continent to get perspective, just take a step back and realise things are changing for the better. If the change and some things break it is because you are finally taking full control of your entire life and things are just realigning themselves to prepare you for a much better future!

[Cara]

I did not tell him to get out of his parents house. I said if the house belong to them instead of him, then he has no choice but to leave if they are selling it.

I really do not believe in pampering 23 year olds, which I think he said is his age. If young people get out into the big wide world on their own for the first time, it often means doing without all those things you are used to for a while, but that builds character.

Ouch!

[superB]

Ouch!

Yeah it may be the painful truth, but it's still the truth IMO. It's so easy to stay with mom and have your laundry done, and your bills mostly paid for etc, but at some point you do have to get out there and do it by yourself.

Its hard, and it hurts to hear it, but I think its reality. It's also incredibly rewarding at the end of it to look back and say : 'Wow, look at everything I've acheived for myself'.

[blunomore]

Ouch!


A lot of people, myself included, earned a small salary when we started working. I had to live in a dingy little flat and was not able to eat fancy meals. I had to walk to work.

It did not matter to me that I 'suffered' financially. I was proud to be able to say that I earned my money on my own an in an honest matter. Surely that is something to be proud of.

I do not see it as harsh .... just good advice to get someone through life. Sorry if people think it is too strong.

[timgaul]

Yeah it may be the painful truth, but it's still the truth IMO. It's so easy to stay with mom and have your laundry done, and your bills mostly paid for etc, but at some point you do have to get out there and do it by yourself.

Its hard, and it hurts to hear it, but I think its reality. It's also incredibly rewarding at the end of it to look back and say : 'Wow, look at everything I've acheived for myself'.

"Wow, look at everything I've acheived for myself. And now I have no more money for beer? Sigh." :p

[timgaul]

A lot of people, myself included, earned a small salary when we started working. I had to live in a dingy little flat and was not able to eat fancy meals. I had to walk to work.

It did not matter to me that I 'suffered' financially. I was proud to be able to say that I earned my money on my own an in an honest matter. Surely that is something to be proud of.

I do not see it as harsh .... just good advice to get someone through life. Sorry if people think it is too strong.

I understand completely, been there. Fortunately I landed my bum in the butter with my first rental. Bought a house 2 years after that, and damn, if reality didn't come crashing down. These places cost how much???

[teraside]

Not bad advice at all and I agree with it. The 3 months I was on my own (only 2 counted basically) were tough, but I'm glad I did it. Also, I don't stay with my parents, haven't been staying with them since I was 19, but I do stay with a family member.

Don't get me wrong, it's not a bad idea to get out of your parents house and work and live on your own, but you have to be sure that you are moving out for the right reasons, not because of a missunderstanding, or because you "think" someone is kicking you out. Like someone said, plan it, work at it and then go on your own, it doesn't help jumping in the pool if you can't even swim.

I work where I live, I work for the things I use and things I need, it's not always fun, but I have to do it. And it's much better knowing that I stay with someone who loves me, than to stay with strangers who hate me (which is the truth, strangers hate me).

I'm not going to live like this for the rest of my life, I'm going to furthere my education and get to a level where I know I can safely look after myself.

Ciao ;)

[dablakmark8]

All will end well ,just choose carfully on your next crossroad

[JBFRobisher]

Move to Durban?

Its not so bad here, plus traffic is 10000000000000x better than joburg.

That sounds like the best idea!

[Tyson]

You thinks thats bad , My pc Broke and now I have No use living any more. I think I will just drink shampoo or soap or something and end my misery.

[mercurial]

You thinks thats bad , My pc Broke and now I have No use living any more. I think I will just drink shampoo or soap or something and end my misery.

roflol

[ToxicBunny]

Moving to Durban is precisely the idea I have.... or should I say, moving BACK to Durban..... :)

[Messugga]

And it's much better knowing that I stay with someone who loves me, than to stay with strangers who hate me (which is the truth, strangers hate me).

So THAT's why I always get this bad taste in my mouth whenever I see your nick? :p
Anyway, 23's a good age to start thinking of making it on your own. You should have a year or two's experience behind your name by now so you should be able to get a steady job. Just give up smoking, dstv and booz (GF's are CRAZY expensive as well but you already gave that up :D)
Cut your expenses and pull some overtime...maybe get a second job.

[teraside]

So THAT's why I always get this bad taste in my mouth whenever I see your nick? :p
.

:( that's about all I saw in your post :o:o:o:o

[Messugga]

lol tera, I'm just teasing... you're an alright guy ;)
As for this thread: I'd like to remove ALL sympathy for this guy. He has NOTHING to complain about. Just a spoilt brat.

[Killove]

how am i a spoiled brat?

[teraside]

lol tera, I'm just teasing... you're an alright guy ;)

Thanks, I got a bad taste in my mouth too, but it's because a piece of oninion is stuck in my tooth ;) :D :p hehehe.

I think Killove is used to some money, which I'm not used to, but he just needs a nudge in the right direction :)

[blunomore]

lol tera, I'm just teasing... you're an alright guy ;)
As for this thread: I'd like to remove ALL sympathy for this guy. He has NOTHING to complain about. Just a spoilt brat.


'Tis what i said from the start.

[AntiThesis]

Like almost everyone else has said, it'll come right in time. You just have to take charge of the situation and make it work. You may have to rough it for a while but boy it'll be awesome once you get there :)

[Killove]

Ive just never understood how people get out on their own..
how do you afford your own house?
new credit act says I can get an approved home loan for 360k..
360k = park bench in hillbrow.

So im pretty much stuck with renting, and I could instead be paying off a bond (if i had a deposit which I dont)

I just dont understand how people escape the rat race

[Messugga]

By working their arses off and not complaining for no reason. Rent, since you don't actually have a choice, and put some money away until you CAN afford a descent bond. Average age for people from England to buy their own place is up to 32, now, if I'm not mistaken. You have 9 years to go still.

[Ady]

Ive just never understood how people get out on their own..
how do you afford your own house?
new credit act says I can get an approved home loan for 360k..
360k = park bench in hillbrow.

So im pretty much stuck with renting, and I could instead be paying off a bond (if i had a deposit which I dont)

I just dont understand how people escape the rat race

Dude, i've been working for about 12 years now and i still can't afford a house, but atleast i can drive a nice car, drink beer, watch DSTV, braai etc etc. Things fall in place on their own. Go farm if you want to escape the rat race.

[AntiThesis]

Ive just never understood how people get out on their own..
how do you afford your own house?
new credit act says I can get an approved home loan for 360k..
360k = park bench in hillbrow.

So im pretty much stuck with renting, and I could instead be paying off a bond (if i had a deposit which I dont)

I just dont understand how people escape the rat race

It's a bitch. I'm still not out but I'm trying.

You rent, live on 2 minute noodles and drink a lot of water. You can also partner up with a good buddy/SO in order to raise your bond amount.

Sit down, make up a budget in Excel and take a good hard look at the finances. Most times you'll end up going "OMGWTFBBQ!" at some of the costs and where you're wasting money. Then tighten those places and save.

[mercurial]

I think it's ridiculous how hard we have to work and how much we have to suffer, just to keep our heads above water. Crazy.

[alf101]

My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.


huh?

Maybe she's running in the Durban July. :eek:

[Highflyer_GP]

Ive just never understood how people get out on their own..
how do you afford your own house?
new credit act says I can get an approved home loan for 360k..
360k = park bench in hillbrow.

So im pretty much stuck with renting, and I could instead be paying off a bond (if i had a deposit which I dont)

I just dont understand how people escape the rat race

I'm renting and I earn an ok salary. As you say, it's not a wise move to qualify for even R500k and spend it on a crappy place. I think you'll find that most people who seem to be making it on their own are actually still renting until they can afford their own place. Most people who buy early usually have help from their family and such. These things take time so don't worry you're not alone.

[ToxicBunny]

Precisely, one of the things I'm actually looking at doing is starting a family "compound" as it were... but a place with 3 or 4 houses on it... costs go down, and such like luxuries as well.

[CathJ]

Ive just never understood how people get out on their own..
how do you afford your own house?
new credit act says I can get an approved home loan for 360k..
360k = park bench in hillbrow.

So im pretty much stuck with renting, and I could instead be paying off a bond (if i had a deposit which I dont)

I just dont understand how people escape the rat race

Yup, as others have said - you can't afford it. I can't afford it, and I earn a good salary.

Yes, if you're renting you're paying off someone else's bond, but you have to just live with that. It's no good saying "if I had a deposit, and if I had enough for the monthly repayments, I could have my own house" because you don't, therefore you couldn't.

Besides, think of all the problems with owning - geyser bursts, and you have to pay to replace it. Interest rates go up, you have to cover the excess. Anything goes wrong, it's your responsibility. Maintenance, is you responsibility. At least you escape some of that with renting.

[BeVonk!]

Millions of people live in informal settlements in this country (and the world) but they choose to go on with life, processing every day as it is handed to them. Those fortunate enough to have jobs have to get up very early to walk far distances in order to catch a bus/taxi/train (or combo of these) to get to a job that often only pays for the transport in many cases. The same people then get home very late. People must open their eyes to see this reality around them (it's as close as the cleaner).

One must first have a life before it can fall apart.

[Pixie22]

I probably shouldn't say anything, cause I have 4 days to come up with 3k out of thin air before I get kicked out of my place too haha

BUT...

You are 23. You are not getting kicked out, you are being set free. Its awesome to live away from your family =) I was in a similar situation when I was 19. I wouldn't move back in with my parents for a million bucks..

I can't comment on the situation with your gf. Obviously you have talked it out.

Get a room mate. Thats what Im doing. Im moving in with my buddy in May and I will be saving an extra grand on rent =)


And there is actually no such thing as karma IMO

[rwenzori]

You get to afford your first house ( assuming no rich daddy! ) by saving everything you can. R3k saved a month will give you R120k after 3 years. R4k will give you R160k at 10%. Live cheap, cut all luxuries, don't expect to live like your folks, save every bonus, save salary increments. Owning your own place is the first step to financial freedom IMHO. Once you have it, put EVERY SPARE CENT into that bond.

[Voldemort]

Ure not gonna fail friend, trust me there will come a time when you hit that low and you sit down and wondder what the hell you gonna do aboot it, ive been there a million times, i came out with a bunch a bruises but im still alive, dont give up:)

[gboy]

The Secret, read the book or watch the DVD,

Keep a open mind, don't dismiss it.

I read it and it changed my Life and outlook,

If you knew what happened to me today, you would be queuing up to buy it.

[rwenzori]

And, oh yes, do not get sidetracked by the latest mumbo-jumbo-path-to-success-cr@p to be released in book form or on DVD.

[feo]

If you knew what happened to me today, you would be queuing up to buy it.

Go on, tell us..

[mercurial]

gboy we're still waiting.

[ToxicBunny]

Yes do share with us what happened that makes The Secret all that?

[Killove]

From what i gathered, The Secret is quantum physics, just put into a fairy tale, laws of attraction but on a metaphysical level.
Read like 4 pages and stopped

[Highflyer_GP]

From what i gathered, The Secret is quantum physics, just put into a fairy tale, laws of attraction but on a metaphysical level.
Read like 4 pages and stopped

Humour us, in what way is it like quantum physics? People generally seem to like throwing the term about without knowing what it deals with ;)

[adamr]

So, I know there have been a lot of emo threads lately, but I feel I deserve one too.

I'm 23 and have just started my first job (so obviously I'm not getting paid that much.)
My parents are kicking me out of my house because they are moving to Durban.
My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.

So i'm going to have no home (cant afford a place on my own), no girl, and no money.

If you see a young white guy begging on Grayston drive in Sandton, thats me.
Any small change would be appreciated.


in your mcoupe ??? :)

[adamr]

You thinks thats bad , My pc Broke and now I have No use living any more. I think I will just drink shampoo or soap or something and end my misery.

oh and you forgot to add the part with the dog that attacked you ...

[feo]

Humour us, in what way is it like quantum physics? People generally seem to like throwing the term about without knowing what it deals with ;)
Oh no Killove, now you've gone and upset our engineer...:D

[jetpacman]

So, I know there have been a lot of emo threads lately, but I feel I deserve one too.

I'm 23 and have just started my first job (so obviously I'm not getting paid that much.)
My parents are kicking me out of my house because they are moving to Durban.
My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.

So i'm going to have no home (cant afford a place on my own), no girl, and no money.

If you see a young white guy begging on Grayston drive in Sandton, thats me.
Any small change would be appreciated.

Dude no offense but are you dumb or something, just go to Durban. Joburg is a *****hole anyway Durbs is by the sea.
Your priorities are in the wrong order, screw the job.

[Voldemort]

Dude no offense but are you dumb or something, just go to Durban. Joburg is a *****hole anyway Durbs is by the sea.
Your priorities are in the wrong order, screw the job.

I dont agree with this statement, get paid less in Dbn plus this is an opportunity for a chance away from them all, take it!

Ps Jhb is not a ****hole, i come from Toti but ive lived here for like 17 years already, i love it:mad:

[mercurial]

oh and you forgot to add the part with the dog that attacked you ...

And now he wants to become a professional boxer. See the pattern? :)

[Killove]

Humour us, in what way is it like quantum physics? People generally seem to like throwing the term about without knowing what it deals with

: I don't really know enough about the subject, not going to lie.. I pretty much just gathered it from a documentary I had watched prior to reading the book (What the bleep do you know?).. In it, it basically tells us that the things we wish for and think about are drawn to us through the laws of attraction (which to my understanding is a key factor in quantum physics.) In one scene, it shows the particle make-up of water, and when blessed by a monk the particles take on a kind of heart-shape form. When he blesses the same water with anger, you can literally see the change in the shape of the molecules to. I really suggest everyone watches it, very interesting

[AutoX]

truly sad stories:(

[TiredOfWaiting]

Humour us, in what way is it like quantum physics? People generally seem to like throwing the term about without knowing what it deals with

: I don't really know enough about the subject, not going to lie.. I pretty much just gathered it from a documentary I had watched prior to reading the book (What the bleep do you know?).. In it, it basically tells us that the things we wish for and think about are drawn to us through the laws of attraction (which to my understanding is a key factor in quantum physics.) In one scene, it shows the particle make-up of water, and when blessed by a monk the particles take on a kind of heart-shape form. When he blesses the same water with anger, you can literally see the change in the shape of the molecules to. I really suggest everyone watches it, very interesting

What the hell has the world come to? Do people actually believe this rubbish about water molecules deforming because some guy says a few kind words? :p

Even the most infinitely-retarded person MUST be able to realize that this is a crock of *****! :eek:

[Killove]

Humour us, in what way is it like quantum physics? People generally seem to like throwing the term about without knowing what it deals with ;)


What the hell has the world come to? Do people actually believe this rubbish about water molecules deforming because some guy says a few kind words? :p

Even the most infinitely-retarded person MUST be able to realize that this is a crock of *****! :eek:

I don't know so much, maybe it has nothing to do with laws of attraction, maybe its just self-fulfilling prophecies. I actually did an assignment last night based on this, we make ourselves believe something is going to happen and it does, because consciously or unconsciously we have altered variables in the process. As for the water molecules changing, I cant explain it, give it a watch though, seriously

[mercurial]

Does our thoughts not emit frequencies?

[Killove]

Does our thoughts not emit frequencies?

I'd say its possible

[TiredOfWaiting]

Does our thoughts not emit frequencies?

WHAT??? :confused:

Frequency is a measure of the rate at which something happens. You cannot "emit" a frequency, much like you cannot emit weight or length...

[Killove]

Ok TiredOfWaiting, perhaps he used the wrong term. I'm sure you know what he meant to ask though, something along the lines of can't our thoughts emit energy/waves or something to that effect

[mercurial]

WHAT??? :confused:

Frequency is a measure of the rate at which something happens. You cannot "emit" a frequency, much like you cannot emit weight or length...

So basically the scientific proof is wrong? IOW, you're right and the scientists are wrong :rolleyes:

[BT6LW]

Lol @ emit frequencies -

no we certainly do not emit frequencies -

[mercurial]

Go do some reading before you embarrass yourself...

http://www.absbrainstudy.com/brainwave.asp




Our brain is an electrochemical organ. When working, different regions of the brain emit different frequencies called brain waves.

[theratman]

So, I know there have been a lot of emo threads lately, but I feel I deserve one too.

I'm 23 and have just started my first job (so obviously I'm not getting paid that much.)
My parents are kicking me out of my house because they are moving to Durban.
My girlfriend is going back to Durban in July to further her studies.

So i'm going to have no home (cant afford a place on my own), no girl, and no money.

If you see a young white guy begging on Grayston drive in Sandton, thats me.
Any small change would be appreciated.


Go with to Durban,seems logical.

[Killove]

pwned

[Killove]

Go with to Durban,seems logical.

Cant go to durban, my job is here, and i honestly am the luckiest person in the world to have this job, it pays well.
if i moved to durban i'd have zero cash, and with me being white with pretty much 0 experience it would take me another year to find a job

[Safferbeauty]

I wish you luck. It is always better to live on your own anyways. I am going through a tough time in finding a reasonably priced flat for my friend and I. It is tough but you will get through it. You have to just try to keep a positive frame of mind and I know it is hard to do but you just got to do it. PM me if you just need someone to chat to. Sounds pretty random I know lol

[Pooky]

A month later?

[CharlesM]

I quote your signature "If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for everything."

You are too young to let your life fall apart by close people moving away. If your job means a lot to you, think of this situation as being your opportunity to be single, free and happy!

The world is your oyster! Why not go overseaes and have loads of fun for a couple of months then come back and decide what you future plans are?

[Devill]

Stop complaining and take some action.....

im 23 now and damn man i study and work and help my gf pay for her dance classes ectect.....but i know life rewards those who work hard and dont let every thing upset them.

If you want something bad enough then be prepared to work for it

good luck :)