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Viper25
10-04-2008, 11:43 AM
Ok...
So my gf has guy friends.... i'm fine with that...
Then she asks me if i'll be fine with them crashing at her place when they need a place to stay... :mad:
Am i in the wrong to think she need's to be set straight...?
Cos i'm a guy...and i know how guys think...
Guy's cant be just friends with a female.... (close friends)
They always want more....
I trust my gf though.... but i just feel this is not right....
Am i wrong?
gdiza
10-04-2008, 11:46 AM
We so need a relationship section on this site... haha!
I have to agree... I wouldn't be happy with it, but there are exceptions (some guys can be friends with woman) but it's a better idea to avoid it (not test the waters) than to have to face it at all.
I'd suggest you give her a talking too, it's not a good idea unless you know the guy and you know the relationship between the 2 (like, they very friendly or have known each other for like... ever)
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 11:48 AM
Ok...
So my gf has guy friends.... i'm fine with that...
Then she asks me if i'll be fine with them crashing at her place when they need a place to stay... :mad:
Am i in the wrong to think she need's to be set straight...?
Cos i'm a guy...and i know how guys think...
Guy's cant be just friends with a female.... (close friends)
They always want more....
I trust my gf though.... but i just feel this is not right....
Am i wrong?
BS, they want to nail her.
I only have friends of the opposite sex if I want to nail them ;)
efitol
10-04-2008, 11:48 AM
i banned my gf from having guy friends, coz being a guy i know what i'm thinking everytime i see a girl ;) i guess thats why i was also banned from having girl "friends" :D
Devill
10-04-2008, 11:50 AM
Ask her if its ok if 3 of your chick friends come stay at your place for a while :)
Woman are waaaaayyyyyyyyy more jealous and insecure than guys (yes i am taking this in general terms )
bwana
10-04-2008, 11:51 AM
BS, they want to nail her.
I only have friends of the opposite sex if I want to nail them ;)Thats what he says in the next para ;)
Messugga
10-04-2008, 11:52 AM
lol I have some friends who are girls and the missus has some friends who are guys but a sleepover is a definite no-no
Viper25
10-04-2008, 11:52 AM
We so need a relationship section on this site... haha!
I have to agree... I wouldn't be happy with it, but there are exceptions (some guys can be friends with woman) but it's a better idea to avoid it (not test the waters) than to have to face it at all.
I'd suggest you give her a talking too, it's not a good idea unless you know the guy and you know the relationship between the 2 (like, they very friendly or have known each other for like... ever)
If a relationship section did exist.. i would be a frequent visitor... :o
Relationships are just so complex sometimes... might give you alot, but also takes alot out of you...
Yup.. i will have to talk to her... i know some of her guy friends...
and i dont like any of them...
Pixie22
10-04-2008, 11:53 AM
If they can crash at her place, then you can crash at other girls places and girls can crash at your place. Im sure your gf would see things very differently if the situation was switched around.
furnic
10-04-2008, 11:53 AM
nah, u have nothing to worry about, my daughter has guy friends stay/crash over often, but the BF not allowed in case he gets the wrong idea...
you should have nothing to worry about....unless of course....
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 11:55 AM
nah, u have nothing to worry about, my daughter has guy friends stay/crash over often, but the BF not allowed in case he gets the wrong idea...
you should have nothing to worry about....unless of course....
lmao, pls tell me you're joking :D
alf101
10-04-2008, 11:56 AM
Ok...
So my gf has guy friends.... i'm fine with that...
Then she asks me if i'll be fine with them crashing at her place when they need a place to stay... :mad:
Am i in the wrong to think she need's to be set straight...?
Cos i'm a guy...and i know how guys think...
Guy's cant be just friends with a female.... (close friends)
They always want more....
I trust my gf though.... but i just feel this is not right....
Am i wrong?
Sounds like she wants to keep her options open.
Pixie22
10-04-2008, 11:57 AM
nah, u have nothing to worry about, my daughter has guy friends stay/crash over often, but the BF not allowed in case he gets the wrong idea...
you should have nothing to worry about....unless of course....
Wow, if I was the bf I would be really pissed at you for allowing something like that..
Viper25
10-04-2008, 11:58 AM
BS, they want to nail her.
I only have friends of the opposite sex if I want to nail them ;)
Yup... i have to agree.... i know they want to nail her...
i trust her... but im just uneasy abt having another guy in my territory...
I stay away from female friends when im in a serious relationship..
because i know... being a guy.. i'd want to nail them at some stage...
so having a female friend around while im in a relationship, is a big no no :o
Messugga
10-04-2008, 11:58 AM
Ditto. Double standards ahoy.
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 11:59 AM
Wow, if I was the bf I would be really pissed at you for allowing something like that..
Or in actual fact the BF is her real "friend" and the real friend is the BF bonking her brains out :D
hierts
10-04-2008, 11:59 AM
dude, keep the leash short and an eye on the "friends"!!
acidrain
10-04-2008, 11:59 AM
Id let my daughter ( when i get to that point ) have guy friends sleep over. Only diff is i'll pull them aside and tell them that if i catch them in her room when they shouldn't be there, Ill tie them up, place a rat on the abdomen, place a steel bowl over the rat and start heating the bowl up.
bwana
10-04-2008, 11:59 AM
Wow, if I was the bf I would be really pissed at you for allowing something like that..Its a ruse . . the b/f is really just a friend and the real b/f is pretending they're just friends . . .
edit - seems Pitbull has the same idea :)
icyrus
10-04-2008, 11:59 AM
Either you trust her or you don't.
Natas
10-04-2008, 12:00 PM
Woman don't have guy friends.. men cant really be friends with chicks. A man is a friend with a woman is someone who tried to sleep with that woman but ended up in the friends zone!! chicks are however a little better at truly regarding men as "friends".. but unlike men, woman are cunning.. even these "friends" are kept around for one reason.. these guys are "d1cks in a glass case".... ie break in case fo emergency... when you are not around or you p1ssed her off, then the glass will be broken!!!
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 12:01 PM
Woman don't have guy friends.. men cant really be friends with chicks. A man is a friend with a woman is someone who tried to sleep with that woman but ended up in the friends zone!! chicks are however a little better at truly regarding men as "friends".. but unlike men, woman are cunning.. even these "friends" are kept around for one reason.. these guys are "d1cks in a glass case".... ie break in case fo emergency... when you are not around or you p1ssed her off, then the glass will be broken!!!
QFT !
efitol
10-04-2008, 12:02 PM
Woman don't have guy friends.. men cant really be friends with chicks. A man is a friend with a woman is someone who tried to sleep with that woman but ended up in the friends zone!! chicks are however a little better at truly regarding men as "friends".. but unlike men, woman are cunning.. even these "friends" are kept around for one reason.. these guys are "d1cks in a glass case".... ie break in case fo emergency... when you are not around or you p1ssed her off, then the glass will be broken!!!
ROFL @ "Break in case of emergency" :D
Viper25
10-04-2008, 12:03 PM
Ask her if its ok if 3 of your chick friends come stay at your place for a while :)
Woman are waaaaayyyyyyyyy more jealous and insecure than guys (yes i am taking this in general terms )
The only chick friends i have at the moment are all ex gf's :o
so i dont really consider them as female friends..if that makes sense....
Yup..woman get jealous way easy.... i have to admit tho...
i get jealous quite easily...
gdiza
10-04-2008, 12:03 PM
Either you trust her or you don't.
It's not as always as 'black and white' as you think it is.
Ignorance is bliss :D
icyrus
10-04-2008, 12:04 PM
Woman don't have guy friends.. men cant really be friends with chicks. A man is a friend with a woman is someone who tried to sleep with that woman but ended up in the friends zone!! chicks are however a little better at truly regarding men as "friends".. but unlike men, woman are cunning.. even these "friends" are kept around for one reason.. these guys are "d1cks in a glass case".... ie break in case fo emergency... when you are not around or you p1ssed her off, then the glass will be broken!!!
Chris Rock is that you?
hierts
10-04-2008, 12:05 PM
Woman don't have guy friends.. men cant really be friends with chicks. A man is a friend with a woman is someone who tried to sleep with that woman but ended up in the friends zone!! chicks are however a little better at truly regarding men as "friends".. but unlike men, woman are cunning.. even these "friends" are kept around for one reason.. these guys are "d1cks in a glass case".... ie break in case fo emergency... when you are not around or you p1ssed her off, then the glass will be broken!!!
true true!! my ex-girl bonked every single guy she, in her words "could never sleep with, he's like a brother to me".
icyrus
10-04-2008, 12:06 PM
It's not as always as 'black and white' as you think it is.
Ignorance is bliss :D
Yes it is. Trust is what matters.
If I trust her and she betrays my trust, then its over.
I am not her ruler, she is not my property and therefore she is free to do what she wants with the limitation that I trust her not to lie to me or to cheat on me if she wants the relationship to continue.
Viper25
10-04-2008, 12:08 PM
Woman don't have guy friends.. men cant really be friends with chicks. A man is a friend with a woman is someone who tried to sleep with that woman but ended up in the friends zone!! chicks are however a little better at truly regarding men as "friends".. but unlike men, woman are cunning.. even these "friends" are kept around for one reason.. these guys are "d1cks in a glass case".... ie break in case fo emergency... when you are not around or you p1ssed her off, then the glass will be broken!!!
:D:D:D
Brilliant
Either you trust her or you don't.
Exactly. It's like freaking sex crazed Neanderthals in here. Viper's relationship seems rather poisoned with worry about her having friends of the opposite gender because he wants to screw every woman 'friend' he's sick with worry of getting some of his own medicine. :o
So yes you are wrong Viper not all men are Neanderthals.
mercurial
10-04-2008, 12:12 PM
Lol. Interesting comments.
sox63
10-04-2008, 12:12 PM
Chris Rock is that you?
:D
Looking forward to seeing him live!
Viper25
10-04-2008, 12:14 PM
true true!! my ex-girl bonked every single guy she, in her words "could never sleep with, he's like a brother to me".
Sorry to hear man... I've heard that like a brother line from my gf too... :(
I say let her do whatever she wants to, but warn her that if you don't agree with what she did at any later stage in the future she will receive a spanking.
Devill
10-04-2008, 12:16 PM
Exactly. It's like a freaking sex crazed Neanderthals in here. Viper's relationship seems rather poisoned with worry about her having friends of the opposite gender because he wants to screw every woman 'friend' he's sick with worry of getting some of his own medicine. :o
So yes you are wrong Viper not all men are Neanderthals.
but most are , 95% of men will screw anything that walks.
also when men get drunk they are Wayyyyyyy out of control.
we are testosterone driven :)
accept the fact and embrace your inner caveman today!
Dolby
10-04-2008, 12:26 PM
I put throught a suggestion for a relationship section yesterday ....
Just check how many threads have popped up recently involving relationships? Plus, agree with the other poster than they are very complex and will conitinue to pop up.
Agree with yet another poster (and Chris Rock) that guys are P3nises in glass which are broken in emergency.
Viper25
10-04-2008, 12:29 PM
Exactly. It's like freaking sex crazed Neanderthals in here. Viper's relationship seems rather poisoned with worry about her having friends of the opposite gender because he wants to screw every woman 'friend' he's sick with worry of getting some of his own medicine. :o
So yes you are wrong Viper not all men are Neanderthals.
Point taken, dont agree with you though.
I'm not a sex crazed Neanderthal...
and no i dont want to screw every woman friend i DONT have
jsheed_sa
10-04-2008, 12:30 PM
Yes it is. Trust is what matters.
If I trust her and she betrays my trust, then its over.
I am not her ruler, she is not my property and therefore she is free to do what she wants with the limitation that I trust her not to lie to me or to cheat on me if she wants the relationship to continue.
Dude I feel the same I tell all my gfs that im not here to play policeman or be the jealous type and follow you around like a sick puppy , i give you free reign but mess up and you are gone.
J
Pixie22
10-04-2008, 12:39 PM
Oh yes that "Like a brother" line is the best..
I doubt your brother would take the opportunity, if it arose, to have sex with you hunny..
Point taken, dont agree with you though.
I'm not a sex crazed Neanderthal...
and no i dont want to screw every woman friend i DONT have
Yeah sorry some of the other comments got me thinking along those lines. It takes two to tango and you trust your gf so I can't see a problem. A little uncomfortable maybe but nothing worth causing problems with her over ;)
Viper25
10-04-2008, 12:53 PM
How old is the gf?
26
CathJ
10-04-2008, 01:01 PM
Woman don't have guy friends.. men cant really be friends with chicks. A man is a friend with a woman is someone who tried to sleep with that woman but ended up in the friends zone!!
That, unfortunately, is not true :(
Ok...
So my gf has guy friends.... i'm fine with that...
Then she asks me if i'll be fine with them crashing at her place when they need a place to stay... :mad:
Am i in the wrong to think she need's to be set straight...?
Cos i'm a guy...and i know how guys think...
Guy's cant be just friends with a female.... (close friends)
They always want more....
I trust my gf though.... but i just feel this is not right....
Am i wrong?
Lol. I stayed at a (male) friend's place for a week. There isn't necessarily anything odd going on, other than someone needing a place to stay at a friend's house.
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 01:08 PM
Lol. I stayed at a (male) friend's place for a week. There isn't necessarily anything odd going on, other than someone needing a place to stay at a friend's house.
I would take a wild guess and say he was repaid in kindness and favours ?
Dolby
10-04-2008, 01:11 PM
Lol. I stayed at a (male) friend's place for a week. There isn't necessarily anything odd going on, other than someone needing a place to stay at a friend's house.
I don't believe that can actually happen nowadays in 99% of cases.
CathJ
10-04-2008, 01:19 PM
I would take a wild guess and say he was repaid in kindness and favours ?
I don't believe that can actually happen nowadays in 99% of cases.
You guys are too cynical. I think your percentage is skewed, Dolby.
Dolby
10-04-2008, 01:20 PM
90/10 ?;)
Viper25
10-04-2008, 01:24 PM
Thanks for all the input and comments ladies and gentlemen..
Really appreciate it...
Gave me alot to think about :)
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 01:24 PM
You guys are too cynical. I think your percentage is skewed, Dolby.
CathJ answer this truthfully.
Did you ever or have you ever had a sexual relationship with this guy.
or
Is he Gay ?
CathJ answer this truthfully.
Did you ever or have you ever had a sexual relationship with this guy.
or
Is he Gay ?
You watch to much Jerry Springer
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 01:28 PM
You watch to much Jerry Springer
I just don't believe it, sorry.
A man cannot be a very close and good vriend to a Woman without wanting to jump her bones. Forget it. It's nature, you're telling me that it can ?
CathJ
10-04-2008, 01:32 PM
CathJ answer this truthfully.
Did you ever or have you ever had a sexual relationship with this guy.
or
Is he Gay ?
No, and no. Believe it or not :p
mercurial
10-04-2008, 01:37 PM
Generalising is a very dangerous thing. Not all men are...you know...
I just don't believe it, sorry.
A man cannot be a very close and good vriend to a Woman without wanting to jump her bones. Forget it. It's nature, you're telling me that it can ?
True. All men are dogs, all women are female dogs. :D
A dog doesn't care which biatch to screw.
Natas
10-04-2008, 01:43 PM
I just don't believe it, sorry.
A man cannot be a very close and good vriend to a Woman without wanting to jump her bones. Forget it. It's nature, you're telling me that it can ?
I agree with Pitbull to a certain degree... A guy CAN be good friends with a chick without wanting to jump her bones... This can occur in many circumstantces, but here are a few:
The chick is his sister, cousin, etc (not 100% true, see Jerry Springer)
The chick is ugly or fat or both (not 100% true, see Jerry Springer)
The chick in question is the GF of a friend of his (not 100% true, see Jerry Springer)
He has already had carnal relations with the female in question and sees no point in "reheating old soup"
The man in question is gay
and some more reasons. All of man's actions towards the female specimen is geared towards the ulitmate goal of possibly having s3xual relations with the female in question. Thats just how things work. Its biology!
Guys are good at pretending to be friends with chicks, BUT I almost guarantee it... if the female leans over and kisses the guy or offers him a BJ, If she was all like "hey, wanna BJ?" or somehting, the guy will 99% of the time NOT object...
Killove
10-04-2008, 01:43 PM
Only way that would ever happen, is if the guy friends are total queens.
Not a chance in hell would another guy sleep at my girls place, no no no.
Pitbull
10-04-2008, 01:43 PM
No, and no. Believe it or not :p
Some how I still don't believe you :D
*sigh*
No wonder there are fem nazis :o
CathJ
10-04-2008, 01:51 PM
Some how I still don't believe you :D
Well, maybe I fall into one of Natas's categories:
The chick is his sister, cousin, etc No.
The chick in question is the GF of a friend of his No.
He has already had carnal relations with the female in question and sees no point in "reheating old soup" No.
The man in question is gay No.
The chick is ugly or fat or both Guess it must be this one then?
Seriously, can't a guy just not be attracted to a girl, without her being particularly fat and ugly?
Seriously, can't a guy just not be attracted to a girl, without her being particularly fat and ugly?
He can't - unless he has erection problems.
Pixie22
10-04-2008, 01:55 PM
Well, maybe I fall into one of Natas's categories:
No.
No.
No.
No.
Guess it must be this one then?
Seriously, can't a guy just not be attracted to a girl, without her being particularly fat and ugly?
lol no
I think it was Chris Rock who said: "A man is basically as loyal as his options" hahaha
Mzala
10-04-2008, 01:55 PM
Seriously, can't a guy just not be attracted to a girl, without her being particularly fat and ugly?
There is still a lot you need to learn about men :D
bwana
10-04-2008, 01:55 PM
Seriously, can't a guy just not be attracted to a girl, without her being particularly fat and ugly?Seriously? No.
Natas
10-04-2008, 01:59 PM
Seriously, can't a guy just not be attracted to a girl, without her being particularly fat and ugly?
Yes he can...this can occur when the chick in question is hot, but the guy knows that to get involved with her would be madness... like dating a hot crazy chick.. the kind of chick that would burn your house down if you forgot about the anniversary of the first day that the two of you met.. or a really demanding chick that would consume ALL of your time...
Ladies just need to accept that guys are horny mofo's.... see the thread re the oke that humped a picnic table... need I say more... This basically means that generally speaking... a woman just needs to be hotter than a picnic table, put her in a room with 20 guys and if s3x in on offer htere'll be a taker or two.. the ones that dont accept, are either gay, had a w4nk before they showed up, or are scared that their wife, friends, GF will find out....and then everyone in the room is accounted for
Pixie22
10-04-2008, 02:04 PM
Yes he can...this can occur when the chick in question is hot, but the guy knows that to get involved with her would be madness... like dating a hot crazy chick.. the kind of chick that would burn your house down if you forgot about the anniversary of the first day that the two of you met.. or a really demanding chick that would consume ALL of your time...
Are you kidding? They are potential fk buddies.
Let me also mention that woman create these situations themselves..
They want to have guy friends, but all they ever do is complain about their current bf's to these guys. Not surprisingly the guy starts to think he can be the bf's replacement at some point, seeing as though the relationship is obviously such a mess.
xrapidx
10-04-2008, 02:10 PM
Not sure if its been said...
But just do what I do.... Ask her if its ok if you have a girl friend (singular) stay over at your place... and add something about you'd like to catch up on old times with your 'friend'.
See how your girlfriend likes it :p
Then show her a pic of some superhot friend or ex girlfriend, or friends girlfriend or something, and tell her she has nothing to worry about because the other girl isn't THAT hot.
Viper25
10-04-2008, 02:33 PM
Not sure if its been said...
But just do what I do.... Ask her if its ok if you have a girl friend (singular) stay over at your place... and add something about you'd like to catch up on old times with your 'friend'.
See how your girlfriend likes it :p
Then show her a pic of some superhot friend or ex girlfriend, or friends girlfriend or something, and tell her she has nothing to worry about because the other girl isn't THAT hot.
That sounds like a plan :D
AutoX
10-04-2008, 03:01 PM
Ask her if its ok if 3 of your chick friends come stay at your place for a while :)
Woman are waaaaayyyyyyyyy more jealous and insecure than guys (yes i am taking this in general terms )
Could turn out to be a good argument when you do this:p;):D:):sick:
adamr
19-04-2008, 11:01 PM
my experience with attractive female 'friends' is that if you spend enough time with em something always happens. Even if they have stable relationships. You a guy, a pretty girl gets your juices flowing, if not maybe you turning gay or have a medical condition. Unattractive females are more an acquaintance than a friend to a guy. If a guy sees or talks with a female on a regular basis something will always happen. (A saturday night and i am indoors :()
Syndyre
20-04-2008, 09:01 AM
Exactly. It's like freaking sex crazed Neanderthals in here. Viper's relationship seems rather poisoned with worry about her having friends of the opposite gender because he wants to screw every woman 'friend' he's sick with worry of getting some of his own medicine. :o
So yes you are wrong Viper not all men are Neanderthals.
Exactly. I have girl friends that I'm not desperately trying to shag lol. I guess it just depends on the dynamics between the people, ultimately its all about trust. If you can't trust someone you shouldn't be with them.
Picard
20-04-2008, 09:57 AM
Ok...
So my gf has guy friends.... i'm fine with that...
Then she asks me if i'll be fine with them crashing at her place when they need a place to stay... :mad:
Am i in the wrong to think she need's to be set straight...?
Cos i'm a guy...and i know how guys think...
Guy's cant be just friends with a female.... (close friends)
They always want more....I trust my gf though.... but i just feel this is not right....
Am i wrong?
Tru Dat.