So yea

[AcidRaZor]

Remember the girl I almost asked to marry me?

Spoke to her last night and it came out that I'm not welcome anymore. We're not friends anymore...a year down the line of friendship (and 6 months worth of dating) and we're not friends anymore... just like that

That hurt more than her "no" to my question. I seriously thought we were friends. She even said "Yes we were" and I told her explicitly that I was fine with that and SHE was the one who made the move again which I just picked up on. She admitted she made a mistake but now our entire friendship is the victim of her choices.

I'm hurt more than I am mad about this and it feels like I lost a part of myself. Silly to say that but yea. Ties into the post the other day about you want to hold on so tight to those people who means the world to you as friends and the person's memories of what once were...

Ag I don't know. There is nothing anyone can tell me to make me feel better.

[Pooky]

Ag I don't know. There is nothing anyone can tell me to make me feel better.

Ok, well... if that's the case then I hope you get over it soon.

[waynegohl]

sorry to hear that.

[AcidRaZor]

Took me nearly 6 years to just get over my first girlfriend so having her as one of my best friends ... i dont know. I'm very torn up

[bwana]

Love Stinks (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-KX3XuUXpc) ;)

[killadoob]

remember a clock on moves in one direction :)

[BT6LW]

go take a **** - go take a shower - you've already done your teeth - you're losing weight - you're earning a crap load of money -

Move the **** on -

Go walk on the beech - aren't u in the chick capitol of the world ? 6 woman to 1 man or something?


meet new people!

[Just_Ice]

go take a **** - go take a shower - you've already done your teeth - you're losing weight - you're earning a crap load of money -

Move the **** on -

Go walk on the beech - aren't u in the chick capitol of the world ? 6 woman to 1 man or something?


meet new people!LOts of ****'s lol

[Highflyer_GP]

Go walk on the beech - aren't u in the chick capitol of the world ? 6 woman to 1 man or something?

I seriously doubt that he's in Japan :D

@noone: sorry to hear man. But revenge is sweet, do her sister or something.

[alf101]

Get another one.

She'll have "Rebound chick" written on her forehead.
Only u can read it.

And whatever u do, don't talk about your ex to the new one.

[quik]

Took me nearly 6 years to just get over my first girlfriend so having her as one of my best friends ... i dont know. I'm very torn up

We sound very much alike... it's been 18 months since I split up with my girlfriend of 4+ years, and to be honest, I'm still not over her. I'd very much like to be, because it feels like I'm stuck between a rock and hard place at the moment.

I know it's over, she's moved on and even has a child with some other guy (which I had to find out about from her mother btw :() but it's hard not knowing if someone who you were very close to and care for very much is ok. I know she's not happy, and I can't help but feel sad about the whole situation.

I decided a year ago to let her get on with her life after an awkward meeting, and didn't speak to her again for 11 months. Decided to phone her this week just to hear how she was doing. I could hear in her voice she was shocked to hear from me and she didn't even sound like the person I knew.

It's her birthday soon and I don't know if I should call again, I though we could be friends again given enough time but at this stage I don't know...

[Elfreako]

Don't validate your existence on that of another :)

[thedutchman]

yeah i went through the same stuff earlier this year, i really wanted my relationship to work, but than we broke up.. for about 2 months, i was devestated, sad, angry and didnt know what to do, lost weight, didnt want to be entertained, i know it sounds harsh, but the only quick way to forget about her is to get on top of another one and that really helps i must say. She's not worth all the heart feelings...

hope u get over her quicker than i did . how old are you btw ?

[spidaman]

My sencere condolences

[jsheed_sa]

Seriously I am going to sound like a right prick here - but build a bridge and get over it - I have a friend who is doing exactly the same thing - his ex broke up with him and is bonking another guy, its been like a year and he's still doing the pathetic woe is me thing - its driven almost all of his friends away, its no fun hearing my ex this my ex that all the time - shes bonking another guy get the **** over it and build your bridge - seriously I cannot stand emo people who dont take their knocks and get the **** on with living - im sorry if thats harsh but its true.

J

[AcidRaZor]

No its not that. I'm over us not being together anymore. I've built that bridge in January already when we broke up. We gelled good as friends, clicked very well and there were a lot of fun times. I even helped her with the guy she had feelings for (who was/is a drug addict)

There are so many things I helped her with. I was there for her when she needed me as a friend. And I really needed a friend in her, not a girl friend or someone to bonk.

Then April before I left for Dubai she told her family she thinks she's falling for me again, and I think this is what spurred on everything, I suspect things between her and this other guy might be getting serious (which I don't mind at all) and with her mom (who lives in Dubai, visiting) there... I reckon she asked her what is going on between us and they probably had a talk again.

She said it would be awkward for her with me being at her birthday party and said some bull**** reason. I'm pretty sure the only reason for that is because her family would wonder what the **** is up if I show up there, probably because she told them again there is nothing between us.

Did say she'd want to come to my birthday thing if she was invited but again, I'm not sure if she meant that either. (And that I'm invited to come around for cake or whatever on her birthday (party is on a different day))

According to her we're just acquintances now but we're going to the Seether concert that Sunday. This girl is really confused. And even though I know I should stop this **** and just get on with my life her friendship to me meant the world.

It's really hard for me to give that up so easily.

Hell, she even might be the one who needs to move on and that is why she said this, because she knew if we stay friends that down the line she'll feel guilty going with other guys or that I might even get jealous or that she might get feelings for me again. WTF? I don't like people making my mind up FOR me. But hell... I don't know...

I'm 28 this year btw

[hyperian]

I suppose what it comes down to is you have to take care of yourself. Worry about yourself. I presume that you are chosing to carry on with life, and time is going to pass anyway. Might as well just try carry on as best you can. Because if it does come to a point in time in the future when you two reunite, im sure you'd be in a much better position if she can see (as well as you) that you have progressed and have moved on. I know that "move on" is cliche; ive tried to use it as an opportunity to do the things i always wanted to do but never got round to doing.

[AcidRaZor]

its a party for all my friends. Will see what and how she reacts toward me when it happens. I dont enjoy losing a big influence in my life. But yea.

[Gothan]

In the immortal words of type o negative :

Never let your happiness depend on the deeds of others, cause that which is given can be taken away...no hope no fear

[Fuma]

Biatches come and go man. Never ever base your life/happiness on somebody. You are a moron if you do that!

[CathJ]

It's tough to lose a good friend, I've been there.

But she really does sound confused. I've had friendships like that too - sometimes, eventually, it's better to just break it off entirely (even though it kills you to do it) because it's less hurtful than the on-again, off-again relationship.

[AcidRaZor]

friends I try to keep in my life if they meant a lot to me

Thanks guys, its going to take me some time but I guess I have no choice in the matter

[bwana]

friends I try to keep in my life if they meant a lot to me

Thanks guys, its going to take me some time but I guess I have no choice in the matterYou shouldnt have to try if they're true friends - imo they should just stick.

Anyhow - time heals all wounds and all that crud. :)

[dablakmark8]

No women as i believe is worth all the emotion....except your mother.Move on cause there is a big world out there,nothing stands in your way,if you hit a crossroad.......think...recollect and choose the path less traveled..

[Fuma]

No women as i believe is worth all the emotion.
That's what I'm talking about! :D

[Nocturnity]

Forget about the friendship thing. Seriously. I tried the same with my ex and 3 years later everything exploded. It's not worth it man. Don't be friends with your exes. Pick up your chin, write her off (by wishing her the best for the future) and move on. At the end of the day you don't really have a choice. If she doesn't want you, there's not much you can do to change that so let it be.

[AcidRaZor]

I hear what you guys are saying and sometimes i feel good about things moving on and letting it be, but right after that comes a terrible stabbing pain you know?

Will probably get better eventually. Let's all hope I get over everything before the end of time :P

[Nocturnity]

We sound very much alike... it's been 18 months since I split up with my girlfriend of 4+ years, and to be honest, I'm still not over her. I'd very much like to be, because it feels like I'm stuck between a rock and hard place at the moment.

I know it's over, she's moved on and even has a child with some other guy (which I had to find out about from her mother btw :() but it's hard not knowing if someone who you were very close to and care for very much is ok. I know she's not happy, and I can't help but feel sad about the whole situation.

I decided a year ago to let her get on with her life after an awkward meeting, and didn't speak to her again for 11 months. Decided to phone her this week just to hear how she was doing. I could hear in her voice she was shocked to hear from me and she didn't even sound like the person I knew.

It's her birthday soon and I don't know if I should call again, I though we could be friends again given enough time but at this stage I don't know...

Don't. Leave her to live her life and do the same. There are more than enough other people in the world who deserve your attention and will be a good fit. Leave the past where it belongs. You experienced a relationship with someone and learned from it. That does not mean it should govern the rest of your life.

[AcidRaZor]

Its hard to make friends for me. Its even harder making best friends as there are little to no people out there that gets me enough to know what i will say or react (which is quite random and to them, suprisingly funny)

Its tough hey, very tough....

[Fuma]

Its hard to make friends for me. Its even harder making best friends as there are little to no people out there that gets me enough to know what i will say or react (which is quite random and to them, suprisingly funny)

Its tough hey, very tough....
You sound like a 10 year old every time say something. :D
Move the f**king on man!

[CathJ]

Its hard to make friends for me. Its even harder making best friends as there are little to no people out there that gets me enough to know what i will say or react (which is quite random and to them, suprisingly funny)

Its tough hey, very tough....

Sounds like you're the male equivalent of me :D

As I say, I've been through something similar, and I know that stabbing feeling. But it does get easier with time.

[Fuma]

Sounds like you're the male equivalent of me :D

So it is confirmed then, he is gay!
It all makes sense now!:D

[CathJ]

So it is confirmed then, he is gay!
It all makes sense now!:D

Huh? I was just saying that I'm the same in that I find it difficult to make friends who understand you.