For the ladies...

[AcidRaZor]

Okay so many of you know I have had some solid advice for heartbroken or scared guys trying to ask a girl out. Going into the psychological aspect on what gets a girl going and unique ways to approach getting her to go out with you and how to tell when she's interested etc.

But now I need advice.

Met a girl, dated for 6 months, broke up for various reasons I won't discuss here. Stayed friends (because the level ground friendship was awesome, everything went well, no awkwardness) and then me leaving for Dubai somehow awakened something in her again. That interest was obvious and was there for about 2 weeks before it dissapated.

Now I know I probably overly indulged in speaking with her every day, or calling once or twice a week. She's coming to Dubai in June anyway, so before you go "Long distance don't work etc"

Anyway, she's hinted several times (before the recent dissapation of interest which is noticable) that she might want to date me again when she's here. Citing silly little reasons etc. Now I know its going to be an open field sort of, there are guys interested in her and she might be interested back. So the window of opportunity is there.

I won't mind getting back together with her, because our friendship survived the breakup and the feelings again arose (haven't spoken directly about that day in fear of "pushing" too much for an answer she's not sure about yet). She's mentioned several times that she still loves me.

Now because of this interest that was there, thats not there anymore (from her frequency of wanting to talk to me and cute nicknames like skattie and liefie that was thrown from her side and the obvious "impressed and in love" vibe I got from her when I dropped the word baby or skattie as well once or twice)... it's started to decline again and feel like it's been right before our break up (we broke up 3 times and got back together etc in a space of a month)

So. Your opinion. How can I "plant" that seed of "want" again in her?

I know there's still a chance there. I just want her to feel the feeling that she had 2 weeks ago when I left again and wanted to be with me. Now you're going to say that me leaving had a big part in playing towards this "OMG I'm going to lose him" type feeling, but things have happend in the past that makes me think otherwise. So knowing that I have already considered that fact....

Any advice on how to get that feeling stirred back up in her?

[blunomore]

Well, what with all the rich Arabs over there in Dbx, the competition is gonna be stiff, but best of luck!

Do you have a clue as to why (maybe something you did or did not do) she fell back in love with you the 2nd time? If yes, try that tactic again.

[dominic]

show her your neon white boep

[AcidRaZor]

I know what I did, but that is a bit useless from over here. So any advice?

Thanks for the good luck, I know there are quite a few rich arabs... don't rub it in okay

[blunomore]

I know what I did, but that is a bit useless from over here. So any advice?

Thanks for the good luck, I know there are quite a few rich arabs... don't rub it in okay

Do it again as soon as she arrives in Dxb.

[Nocturnity]

Simple. Don't give her much attention. If she feels like you really want her, she'll lose interest. Women want what they can't have.

[Arzy]

Just give her a slap on the rump as soon as she arrives and say "Now your mine!!!" then start laughing like maniach!

j/k

[Surv0]

Tell her how you feel, if you dont ull never know unless you both hint like crazy and follow through with it.
I say if you want to get with her again, tell her that and take it from there.

[Fuma]

Simple. Don't give her much attention. If she feels like you really want her, she'll lose interest. Women want what they can't have.

That's risky. I know it usually works, but not in all women. You know these people are so unpredicatable
He might lose her for good.

[AcidRaZor]

She knows how I feel. And she has made it clear how she feels back. I just think it's a typical yo-yo can't make up her mind situation and that is what I'm trying to do, make up her mind on me sort of.

I'm not worried about getting back together immediately or anything, if she wants to date around first I'm fine (still jealous) but fine and HAPPY being her friend still. I just know I'm the best thing that has ever happend to her, she knows it, but can't really "judge" till she has worse again.

She's still young. And I don't mind the wait. Not for this woman.

I just need to find a way to wake up that emotion again. Finding it difficult...

[blunomore]

That's risky. I know it usually works, but not in all women. You know these people are so unpredicatable
He might lose her for good.

These people?

You people are so undiplomatic.

[Surv0]

is she moving to Dubai to work?
If so youve already got both feet in the door, no girl will want to be single in a new country when she has somebody like you...in a general sense

[Fuma]

These people?

You people are so undiplomatic.

The truth hurts, I know.

[blunomore]

The truth hurts, I know.

Errr .... nope.

I repeat, it's just not nice to be undiplomatic.

[Surv0]

Errr .... nope.

I repeat, it's just not nice to be undiplomatic.

would you like a lovely cup of tea i say?