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    you know how many woman you can **** for 40k?

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    Quote Originally Posted by imajin View Post
    how does this prove that i don't truly love her?

    i WASN'T going to do this whole traditional bullcrap, but because i love her, i decided to compromise on my belief that human beings shouldn't be bought. but i was only willing to compromise up to R30k. how does this show that i don't love her? she's the love of my life dude, and we've been living together for 2+ years now.
    Ja, so if you love her that much what's en extra 10k? See what I mean?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitbull View Post
    I paid nothing.

    I'm white and in our culture women doesn't BELONG to anyone. Be it her father, her mother or her husband.
    You didnt give her an engagement ring?
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    We all end up paying in the end...
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    Ask if the R10,000 includes the sister Isn't that allowed (see Zuma)

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    Quote Originally Posted by bwana View Post
    You didnt give her an engagement ring?
    I'm pretty sure he needs to do that above the "Purchase" fee?

    I didn't buy my wife, the ring was a gift
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    Do they (her parents) pay for the wedding (like in other "cultures") ? If so, can't the "ransom" ( ) be used for the wedding? If so---> Well, you paid for the wedding yourself

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    Pitbull + 1.

    I also did not pay a cent for the wedding. Did it during lunch time at the court. In-laws also paid the R2 revenue stamp(I did not have it, end of the month salty cracks).

    Anyway, married now for 19 years already. Paid my dues during that time. LOL
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitbull View Post
    I paid nothing.

    I'm white and in our culture women doesn't BELONG to anyone. Be it her father, her mother or her husband.
    That culture is however no less patriarchal than the black culture. Or the Indian culture, for that matter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitbull View Post
    I paid nothing.

    I'm white and in our culture women doesn't BELONG to anyone. Be it her father, her mother or her husband.
    So then why does the bride's father "give her away" after walking her down the isle?


    No but seriously, my colleague is from Lesotho and married a Xhosa girl. When I asked him how much lobola he paid, he said "You NEVER stop paying lobola...".

    He wasn't smiling when he said it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nerfherder View Post
    We all end up paying in the end...
    Like I said ... you get 2 types of sex with women in the world:

    Contract and Pay-As-You-Go.
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    Quote Originally Posted by blunomore View Post
    That culture is however no less patriarchal than the black culture. Or the Indian culture, for that matter.
    I never said that

    The truth behind the matter is, paying for a bride makes the Husband think he owns his woman. That is visible all through Africa and India.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitbull View Post
    I never said that

    The truth behind the matter is, paying for a bride makes the Husband think he owns his woman. That is visible all through Africa and India.
    Er. You may want to check your facts. In Muslim culture, the dowry goes to the bride, not her family. Not allowed to be spent by anyone but her. Seen as a gift. In Hindu culture, I *think* (I do stand to stand to be corrected here) that the dowry is paid by the bride's family to the groom's family. It's not quite the same thing. In neither is he paying for her.

    To the OP: Discuss it with her and see if she can influence the family that enough has been paid?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pitbull View Post
    I never said that

    The truth behind the matter is, paying for a bride makes the Husband think he owns his woman. That is visible all through Africa and India.
    And those ninja women countries...
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    If I had to pay lobola ill take them to spur

    But joh 40k? im sorry that way to much.
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