Porn and your brain.

[DrYes]

Check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com

Last year I met a girl who I am going to marry in November. I used to use porn as a substitute for sex and to avoid promiscuity but noticed that it affected me more than I realized when I started spending time with an actual person as opposed to digital fantasies.

Been porn free since about September last year and I must say it truly has improved my life in all aspects. I have "rebooted" my brain to respond to normal stimuli and I am far less cranky and moody than I used to be. Quite a strange feeling knowing that I have been a slave to porn in one form or the other since about the age of 16.

It was hard at the beginning, but with someone to support and help you through the rebooting process it is really worth considering if you were like me.

Just my 2c.

For guys starting out in a relationship it could be a problem but what about the married okes.
Surely its a lot easier for them to 'fake' intimacy and thus the effects of porn are not as detrimental.

[droplet]

the more i watch porn, the more i look at women in a sexual manner. when i am porn-free, i am able to interact with women in a far more platonic manner. also, sex with my wife is INFINITELY better when i am free of porn. there is nothing lingering around in my memory that can distract me from the wonderful time with her. when porn is around, i find myself thinking of other women when having sex. i HATE that. it's tough to quit porn, and i struggle continually, but i for one am glad that i am trying. one day i will be free of that awful addiction

[Cloud]

For guys starting out in a relationship it could be a problem but what about the married okes.
Surely its a lot easier for them to 'fake' intimacy and thus the effects of porn are not as detrimental.

How does faking intimacy affect the marriage? I'm not married yet so I cannot give my opinion on it, but could only hope that if porn is out of the equation intimacy would improve with your wife?

[buyeye]

the more i watch porn, the more i look at women in a sexual manner. when i am porn-free, i am able to interact with women in a far more platonic manner. also, sex with my wife is INFINITELY better when i am free of porn. there is nothing lingering around in my memory that can distract me from the wonderful time with her. when porn is around, i find myself thinking of other women when having sex. i HATE that. it's tough to quit porn, and i struggle continually, but i for one am glad that i am trying. one day i will be free of that awful addiction

We should make this the porn addicts support group thread .

[DrYes]

It does not necessarily affect the marriage but it does affect the abuser, but unlike other forms of abuse the effects are much harder to recognise.
That is until you get caught, like in the movie Auto Focus.
Great expose on porn addiction within a marriage.

[ChocolateBadger]

Stigma Stigma Stigma. If you have an addictive personally, you may get addicted to porn. I agree with every sexologist out there, sex/porn addiction only becomes a problem if it effects your life negatively. Eg. Missing work, sexual harassment stuff like that.

[Freaksta]

Interesting. TBH i did try give it up a while ago, it worked for a while!!!

I find im most often susceptible to it when im bored and have nothing to do! Are erotic pictures of you wife/GF considered to be porn?

[droplet]

We should make this the porn addicts support group thread .

we should totally start a thread like that...

[buyeye]

Interesting. TBH i did try give it up a while ago, it worked for a while!!!

I find im most often susceptible to it when im bored and have nothing to do! Are erotic pictures of you wife/GF considered to be porn?

I would say so , try keeping busy with work when the forum is slow because you will prolly get bored with those and look for newer pics.

So not a good idea.

[droplet]

i nominate buyeye to start a porn addict support group thread

[buyeye]

i nominate buyeye to start a porn addict support group thread

When I get home to my pc . I can't google stuff or post links on my galaxy.

[Freaksta]

I would say so , try keeping busy with work when the forum is slow because you will prolly get bored with those and look for newer pics.

So not a good idea.

Yea i guess so! Its a really interesting topic! The thing is from my point of view, i dont really know if its bad!? I have a girlfriend, our relationship is what i would call pretty normal, ups downs, lefts rights!

While i KNOW i do waste time with it, its time i would have wasted doing something else anyways! Yes maybe i could have rather been reading something interested, but its not making me skip class, stopping me from learning, making me abuse anyone etc. I would say i have a rather high drive (im only 22, ready to go always haha) im rarely ever stressed... Its just not something i do, its a waste of time and i work far better under pressure! (Busy with my honours in Acc towards CA) SIDENOTE:Write exams in a week and a half, basically only started learning now even though ive been on break for a week and a half, maybe a dumb move but i physically struggle to sit down and concentrate if there is no pressure!

On the other hand my GF stresses like there is no tomorrow and is often busy during the weeks with uni work etc! I would say this partly effects her drive and i would put her on medium to low end. This kinda leaves a gap between me and her and i use it to half fill this void. As said before the other part is when im bored....

Does it effect our relationship? I have no idea, ive never been totally free? obviously been long periods where ive gone without it, sometimes a month or so! Never been totally free though! I know for a FACT that it doesn't effect my performance, but other areas? Maybe! It would be an experiment, so i may give it a shot!

[buyeye]

Freakster it's actually a self perpetuating phonomina it starts with mild interest or boredom but you find that it becomes a habit that you get used mastubating on a regular basis whereas if you didn't start watching porn then you woildn't get aroused.

Your sexdrive would be normal or on par with your girlfriends one.

There is also the influence of the media which I'll prolly add to thread this evening.

[STS]

Stigma Stigma Stigma. If you have an addictive personally, you may get addicted to porn. I agree with every sexologist out there, sex/porn addiction only becomes a problem if it effects your life negatively. Eg. Missing work, sexual harassment stuff like that.

porn has also been very beneficial for some people, it serves as a substitute for something they'd go out looking for

[buyeye]

porn has also been very beneficial for some people, it serves as a substitute for something they'd go out looking for

Please take this in the way it's intended which is constructive.

There are better alternatives. Like using that energy with work or volunteer services .