Do you hit your child in public?

[Flowerhat]

i dont have children, but i generally think its a bad idea to beat a defenseless child for misbehaving.

[Carol35]

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I threatened to klap the 16yr this holiday (I wouldnt really because he is much bigger than me), the bugger turned around and told me he would set the welfare on my arse.

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made me think of this... they should have named this clip "Somebody gonna get hurt real bad "

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Hahaha, shyte, I lololed. ' let me get you the phone, tough guy '

[sutekj]

I know for a fact that hitting me only made me more rebellious. Made me rebellious and full of hate. I'll probably not hit my children when I have any.

[sdd]

Sometimes my kids take me to boiling point and I feel that I might snap any moment ... however I don't follow through and hit them.

What works for me is to cut their allowance. That I follow through on.

[cerebus]

Sometimes my kids take me to boiling point and I feel that I might snap any moment ... however I don't follow through and hit them.

What works for me is to cut their allowance. That I follow through on.

The idea behind spanking properly is that you never have to reach the boiling point where you can snap... because that point is when parents can inflict real damage on the kids. That's how actual child abuse happens - the kids wind them up more and more, they start shouting at them and eventually they lash out.

We'll firstly tell the children, stop. Then a second time in a stronger voice. Then a third time in the 'next time you're getting a smack' voice. Now they know it's coming. I don't make further threats, I don't reason or shout or bargain... they get pulled aside and pants down, smacked on the leg, just once and just enough that they really feel it. They cry, they get a big hug, and it's over. 90% of the time I never have to get past the third time of telling them because they know well enough that we mean business.

I don't imagine this will work as they get much older but it does set a foundation where they are learning to listen to our voice. And obviously there are often other reasons for misbehaviour like tiredness and so on which one needs to be careful about; you lose ground if you smack when the child is just physically past the point of no return or has a real need.

[DJ...]

Those of you who do spank, do you spank your child to the point that it does actually hurt them, or do you only do it to shock them, where they cry regardless of how hard you hit?

[cerebus]

Those of you who do spank, do you spank your child to the point that it does actually hurt them, or do you only do it to shock them, where they cry regardless of how hard you hit?

Some friends of ours who were pretty reluctant to discipline at all eventually got to the point where they couldn't take it so they started to spank. But they did the whole 'only doing it to shock' thing because they couldn't bring themselves to pull the pants down and give a hard smack on the bum. At this stage the child has near total contempt for their authority. One nearly can't go into public places with them because of his behaviour.

[ngwenyas]

What do you mean its not legal? They can't seriously think its fine and okay for your kids to do whatever they want without physical reprimanding them. Well, unless its one of those laws that says, it's illegal to spank your child, but don't worry, if you do we don't care.

I think they meant it's illegals to taze your kids, spanking a spoilt brat should not be illegal.