Preferring one parent over another

[abzo]

His theories hold true .... and you only understand that if you go really deeply into human behaviour and the human psyche. We as humans often do things for which the explanation can be found in some of these theories.

Yes, a lot of his theories do hold true but even more of his theories have been consigned to the BS files.

[blunomore]

Yes, a lot of his theories do hold true but even more of his theories have been consigned to the BS files.

I am only interested in the former

[YingYang]

Have heard that but for some reason my son ( very very young still ) is fascinated by me.

I've got bad news for you...

[samr1wp]

Have heard that but for some reason my son ( very very young still ) is fascinated by me.

only son ?

I've got bad news for you...

bwahahahhahaahhaahahhaha

[cerebus]

Freud? Aiiii spare me. I read The Interpretation of Dreams as a student; what a load of hogwash. He is important insofar as he fathered the entire psychological, psychotherapeutic movement, but the concrete specifics of his theories don't hold up very well.

[blunomore]

Freud? Aiiii spare me. I read The Interpretation of Dreams as a student; what a load of hogwash. He is important insofar as he fathered the entire psychological, psychotherapeutic movement, but the concrete specifics of his theories don't hold up very well.

His theories of psychosexual development is brilliant and explains a lot i.t.o. behaviour.

[Kosmik]

only son ?



bwahahahhahaahhaahahhaha

first.

Shadddup Let me enjoy my illusions.

[cerebus]

His theories of psychosexual development is brilliant and explains a lot i.t.o. behaviour.

Like specifically what? Stages of fixation? Oedipus complex? Penis envy? Sublimation of the id?

[sutekj]

My daughter, 14 months old, changes her preference for either me or her father on a regular basis. Last night she only wanted to be with me the entire evening. She often prefers her father when she wants to have more fun, because I guess he is more entertaining than me who is feeding, changing, giving her a bath, etc.

When she sees her dad open the door when he comes back from work every day she practically jumps out of my lap to run to him! In her eyes dad means fun.

When she gets hurt or is upset, she often shows a preference for me, though.

Do your kids have such a preference? Does it even out at some stage or does this continue until they are much older?

This is not unusual at all. It works like that in most families. It will probably always be like that. It's good that way. A child needs both.

I watched a documentary some time, which you'd probably find interesting. I think it's this one: http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/biology-of-dads/ but not sure. Youtube is blocked at work so can't check.

[patrick]

With my son's mom and I not together, he always misses me and I don't have to be the disciplinarian hence I'm the favourite

[cerebus]

With my son's mom and I not together, he always misses me and I don't have to be the disciplinarian hence I'm the favourite

That must give him a tremendous sense of security and consistency and help the mother no end.

[chrisc4290]

My daughters were just like that. At 14 months, their natural instincts are more assertive than learned behaviour or what they glean from their peers. From about 8-9 years old they wanted to bath themselves and choose their own clothes, up to a point. My wife and our daughters are like best friends and have continued into adulthood (they are 33 and 35 now)

[iceman23]

my 20 month is the same. changes from day to day as to who to go to. when we go out though she sort of sticks to her mum whereas just before we left she would be with me. i honestly dont get the reasoning but thats what makes them babies i guess..

[patrick]

That must give him a tremendous sense of security and consistency and help the mother no end.

To be honest our boy is an angel. I'm just not as strict as she is. I think she goes overboard and I don't plan onjoining her in that role.

[noxibox]

Normal behaviour for children. Sometimes the favouritism is brief, other times it lasts longer. It doesn't mean anything.