Heed these words...Originally Posted by DJ...
Heed these words...
You are the ever-wise forumite DJ.
I'm not adamant about everything.
In all honesty, you need a girlfriend/boyfriend to set you straight. Stop trying to please everyone else - there is no point and will not endear you to anyone. You will not develop decent, long-lasting friendships that way. Drinking to please these people is quadrupling your problems. Not only as a student are you focusing on the wrong things and spending cash you really don't have, but you're setting yourself up for how you will act as an adult for the rest of your life. You're setting up the worst possible foundation by creating false friendships based on alcohol fuelled binges and then finding yourself drinking at home without them - as you're doing now.
Whatever you need to do to stop this - DO IT! Before it becomes a problem you don't even realise you have...
Thanks and your advice is sound.
Thing is, I don't drink to please other people, I drink to please myself.
No you don't. And you're not a better person with alcohol. You're just more social, which doesn't make you a better person. In fact it can be really awkward to watch introverts lose the plot like you're doing...Thing is, I don't drink to please other people, I drink to please myself.
If I drink to please other people; why would I be drinking now on my own? (I am bored, that's why. :P)
Yes, I am an introvert; but this is a whole other conversation, and yes probably the thread title is wrong. I just feel better and more able to be myself; because my stupid head isn't telling me not to say stuff.
Because it is already starting to become a problem?
Because you see online activity as social?
Because you are bored, as you say - which is a problem.
Never drink because you're bored...
I don't get drunk every day. Online activity like posting on forums is a form of social activity, but I know it is not like face-to-face social.
I suppose it is good advice not to drink when bored.
The question is : If u not your(real)self when u drunk then how could u ever know if are or not drunk and making a fool of yourself???
Clearly people that know the real you and see a different u when u sloshed will know u are worth poking fun at!
The thing is I am my real self when under the influence.
No. That's the person you want to be. There is a difference...
No you aren't...
Like DJ said, you might just be letting your guard down, but it has other effects like certain of your own inhibitions become less rigid.
Your real self is the sober you. You just don't like what you see when looking in the mirror. Alcohol makes one a little bit more "gutsy" and you're boosted with self-confidence...to the extent where you think you can do anything or just say anything in a conversation - the end result: Pooky gets laughed at.
Okay good point. Then how do I become the person I want to be?
Make peace with yourself for who you are. All people are not equally strong in each department of our make-up. Concentrate on your good points, build the weaker aspects that can change and accept the things that cannot change. You know the difference between right and wrong decisions - stick with the right ones.
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