A question for those who got married in the past few years

[Celine]

Agree with you here. If I had to pay for my wedding, I would've never had one The money can be put to much better use at that stage of your life. However, it is a union of families and a celebration of love - not to mention a monumental step in both your lives. A honeymoon is not about proving that you're married either - why do you sound so bitter btw? If you can afford a holiday, that's all a honeymoon really is lol. Looking back at it all, the honeymoon was probably the best part of the whole wedding process and probably the best money I've spent in a long time.

Lastly, live within your means and do what makes you happy! If you hate spending money and having fun with your loved ones then do whatever makes you guys happy. In the long run, hopefully you only get married once. And based on that, its a celebration that trumps any birthday, graduation and other major milestones in ones life.

i do not sound bitter at all. do you know what i could do with that money honey? i could put it into my bond that i had at the time. yes my husband to be at the time offered all the frills that went with the wedding i.e. dress, reception, honeymoon, but i said i didn't want it. i wanted the money for my home and for myself. i'm selfish that way. why do i need to spend money on others so they can see i got married? oh bugga that for a joke.

 

[Celine]

You've never thrown a party?

i went to a restaurant for my one birthday and had some of my friends celebrate with me. i spent just over R2000. it was my 40th birthday. that is what i wanted as a celebration not a party. i don't drink alcohol. i enjoyed myself.

 

[Falco]

i do not sound bitter at all. do you know what i could do with that money honey? i could put it into my bond that i had at the time. yes my husband to be at the time offered all the frills that went with the wedding i.e. dress, reception, honeymoon, but i said i didn't want it. i wanted the money for my home and for myself. i'm selfish that way. why do i need to spend money on others so they can see i got married? oh bugga that for a joke.

I like you groove babe. Sensible. Hard to find in the current financial climate. Some people wed themselves into so much debt that they end up getting a divorce because of it

 

[Celine]

That sounds lovely.



You seem like a ton of fun. :erm: I mean, I'm against frivolously spending money you don't have, but daaaammnn.

aha but my bond is paid off .

 

[RanzB]

aha but my bond is paid off .

Yup, I've heard on their deathbeds, most people say "Man I wish I had paid my bond off sooner"

 

[I.am.Sam]

That's cos you're a bottom Sam. Things are different for tops. We have to impress the size queens

furking hell i have no clue whats the top or bottom guy lol

dont want to know

 

[Roxi_B4b3]

My parents are giving us 50k. They said we can spend it however we please. So we are looking to spend some of it on the wedding, and then investing whatever is left.

the entire event planning business has gone crazy. one company I know of organizes parties for 1-3 year olds and they are not cheap. I ask you with tears in my eyes why?

the theory behind the last 2 expensive weddings I've attended is - the album lasts forever. everybody croons over it, everybody gloats over it. absolute waste of money.

we all got married in my mom's garden, hired a marquee and caterers, bought the booze and a couple of the teenage guys played barman, got a DJ to whom we could dictate and a nice big wooden dance floor. we kept it to a maximum of 100 people. those who wanted to party partied, some left, some crashed in the house, others slept on their chairs. always a party to remember.

.... and the pictures always look nice even if you don't spend a fortune.

I'm also considering doing the Marquee thing. could you give me a ballpark figure of how much the marquee tent with dance floor cost?

 

[MickeyD]

R10k for everything....

 

[maumau]

My parents are giving us 50k. They said we can spend it however we please. So we are looking to spend some of it on the wedding, and then investing whatever is left.



I'm also considering doing the Marquee thing. could you give me a ballpark figure of how much the marquee tent with dance floor cost?

Will look for the papers or ask if anyone remembers. It works out really well because booze is paid for at bottle store prices not at restaurant prices.

 

[DigitalSoldier]

nothing. i don't believe in spending my money to make people have a good time at my expense.

i also didn't need a honeymoon to prove i am now married. bugga that i could spend my money on things i need in the home i.e. tumble dryer, washing machine etc. i do not see the point of spending money for such things. :wtf:

But your life is boring...

 

[DigitalSoldier]

10k rings. 90k for wedding and 15k for honeymoon.

 

[SIlvRav]

15k ring, 30k wedding, 15k honeymoon with another 15k honeymoon 3 years later. Got married in 2010

 

[rorz0r]

20/200/50

 

[scudsucker]

15K ring for her. R400 for my ring.

R100K wedding; R3K honeymoon (A)*. R24K honeymoon (B).

Awaiting honeymoon (C), when I can afford it.


10 days away in a very secluded seaside cottage, in case you think I am super cheap!

 

[syntax]

None of it was cheap, and i dont regret a single part of it.
I would say if you had to skimp, you can save money on a wedding and still come off ok.
Spend money on the honeymoon if you can, it lasts longer and is more of a you thing.

I know there are people out there saying the sensible thing is to do everything low key or get married in court etc and thats fine.
But you have your whole life to earn money and all that.

 

[reactor_sa]

Would have been nice to see age included in the details. To see the relationship between age and wedding budget... Just saying it would be interesting.

 

[Kosmik]

Would have been nice to see age included in the details. To see the relationship between age and wedding budget... Just saying it would be interesting.

I stand to be corrected but most folks are married between the age of 25-30 I'd say.

 

[MickeyD]

Would have been nice to see age included in the details. To see the relationship between age and wedding budget... Just saying it would be interesting.

And when...

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

To the guys without at least adding a year to make things relative, would you mind editing your posts? For obvious reasons 10k in 1980 is not the same as 10k in 2014

How much money did you spend on:

• rings?
• the wedding?
• honeymoon?

• R1000
• R250
• R0

This was in 2010

Shotgun FTW!

I should add that I did have her go pick out a proper ring a few months down the line after I've saved up.

 

[Pooky]

Eish it's ridiculous