A question for those who got married in the past few years

[OrbitalDawn]

Thought I would add my 2 cents, long time reader never a poster.

Ring(her) - 7500 this was 7 years ago and almost 5 month salary at the time. I bought a complete set then which made things simple when we finally got hitched last December.

Wedding - 200K 75% father in law, 25% us.

Boose for said wedding - 50K my family contribution, 100 people

Honeymoon - 0, havent had time yet hopefully soon. Budget for this 40-50

We saved for a long time for all this if it came down to loans etc.. would rather have a small family get together. +1 on not bankrupting yourself for the 1 day

You haven't had chance for a honeymoon/holiday in more than 7 years? Your doing something wrong.

 

[krycor]

Scary.. Seems people spend more on the event than rings or honeymoon.

Honestly if I were to get married if rather spend on the ring and honeymoon and lesser on the actual wedding.. Just makes more sense to me

 

[Shah33m]

6k, 14k, 0. This was in 2011 and fresh out of university. Oh she lost she ring already

 

[SauRoNZA]

15K ring for her. R400 for my ring.

That seems like a bad and terribly off balance investment.

I hope it's not a reflection on the rest of your life.

 

[Grep]

FWIW, spend the money on her ring. Yes it is superficial, but that's what they love the most! I personally don't do jewelery, but it seems that most women feels it completes them.

 

[SauRoNZA]

FWIW, spend the money on her ring. Yes it is superficial, but that's what they love the most! I personally don't do jewelery, but it seems that most women feels it completes them.

For sure spend money on hers, she gets more of them normally so that makes sense.

But 3700% more? That's insane.

 

[Ianvn]

How much money did you spend on:

• rings?
• the wedding?
• honeymoon?

2012

12k on ring
40k on wedding
60k on honeymoon

 

[rorz0r]

That seems like a bad and terribly off balance investment.

I hope it's not a reflection on the rest of your life.

My wife's wedding band was about 10x the cost of mine, and then there's the engagement ring. I lost mine though :/

 

[Carol35]

About 15k total 10 years ago. We bought a ton of beer and had a spit braai, was an awesome happy informal day. Church was R500, my dress was R500 and I'm still waiting for my ring haha.

 

[dreamrobin]

Scary.. Seems people spend more on the event than rings or honeymoon.

Honestly if I were to get married if rather spend on the ring and honeymoon and lesser on the actual wedding.. Just makes more sense to me

Ditto

 

[Francois Marais]

Weddings aint cheap.
Last quote we got was R50000 for 50 people. My folks would give R30000, but hers none.
So I will have to fork out R20000 just for the reception.
And to be frank, I am not willing to spend that amount of cash on a wedding. I will have to drag myself out of debt later.

 

[I.am.Sam]

Weddings aint cheap.
Last quote we got was R50000 for 50 people. My folks would give R30000, but hers none.
So I will have to fork out R20000 just for the reception.
And to be frank, I am not willing to spend that amount of cash on a wedding. I will have to drag myself out of debt later.

if your SO knows you would be in debt and still wants this wedding ..i got bad news for you son

 

[Francois Marais]

That is why we are not married yet...

 

[OGroteKoning]

That is why we are not married yet...

You don't need thousands to get married. Not an excuse dude

 

[I.am.Sam]

You don't need thousands to get married. Not an excuse dude

yep but if he cant afford to and is getting himself into debt then there is an excuse to not get married now

 

[OGroteKoning]

yep but if he cant afford to and is getting himself into debt then there is an excuse to not get married now

I might be missing something here, but he can get married in front of a judge it pastor with a couple of witnesses. That is inexpensive. They might be living together already, so if your reference to debt is by moving in together, then it is not an argument. If however they live with their parents, then there could well be debt, but most of us started with debt on a house when we got married.

 

[Francois Marais]

I might be missing something here, but he can get married in front of a judge it pastor with a couple of witnesses. That is inexpensive. They might be living together already, so if your reference to debt is by moving in together, then it is not an argument. If however they live with their parents, then there could well be debt, but most of us started with debt on a house when we got married.

I am already in debt.
And I tried to get the cheaper route, but got shot down on this. It is as if some people think money grows on trees.
I am sorry but I am not going to go deeper in debt just for one day. I can rather use the money to invest in a deposit for a place or get a new car. I see no need for a expense that I do not need and can't afford.

 

[OGroteKoning]

I am already in debt.
And I tried to get the cheaper route, but got shot down on this. It is as if some people think money grows on trees.
I am sorry but I am not going to go deeper in debt just for one day. I can rather use the money to invest in a deposit for a place or get a new car. I see no need for a expense that I do not need and can't afford.

Understood. If that is her attitude, tell her and her family to save a bit more.

 

[Francois Marais]

A lot more. I can't dig into the savings of my folks. My dad is near retirement age, and I can't imagine myself digging into their retirement fund. They did not raise me like that.

 

[Necuno]

nothing. i don't believe in spending my money to make people have a good time at my expense.

i also didn't need a honeymoon to prove i am now married. bugga that i could spend my money on things i need in the home i.e. tumble dryer, washing machine etc. i do not see the point of spending money for such things. :wtf:

You've never thrown a party?

You asking someone whois afraid of a Bachelorette :erm: