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Ancalagon

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joelus said:
I never claimed that you said do not ever be friends with people of the opposite sex, so why would I try point it out.
You did say don't get into the friend zone.
The friendzone is a place where you are interested in sex/romance but she (or he) is not interested in sex/romance but is interested in friendship. There is nothing wrong with the friend zone. There is nothing wrong with being in it.
Saying "Don't get into the friendzone. Just dont." and then saying "If you like spending a lot of time around someone that you really like but can never have, then by all means, become friends with them." is totally contradictory, you're saying "don't get into the friendzone but if you don't mind then go ahead" :wtf:
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I still stand by my first statement. I've been in the friendzone, and its painful. Its downright ****ty in fact. I am somewhat amazed that you support the friendzone. Yeah, I had some good times with the person I had a crush on, but I also wasted a lot of opportunities and caused myself a lot of pain. And I have to admit it was down to immaturity and not understanding how the dating world works.

My second statement was in fact ironic. I meant it to resemble, "If you really like pain, feel free to drive a rusty nail through your big toe nail."

What's wrong with being in the friend zone is that longing and pain you feel, and how pathetic you become. I was pathetic. And you know what someone should have said to me? Grow some balls.

Really, that was the reason I was there, and that was the reason I stayed there. Its like that for most people in the friendzone.
 
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Ancalagon said:
I've never had anything good happen after 2AM either.
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I've had a lot good things happen. Few bad like the time my friend was stabbed, a chick's dad chased me down the street with an axe at my cousin's birthday party and when I was abandoned at the club while it was pouring down.
 
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Ancalagon said:
I still stand by my first statement. I've been in the friendzone, and its painful. Its downright ****ty in fact. I am somewhat amazed that you support the friendzone. Yeah, I had some good times with the person I had a crush on, but I also wasted a lot of opportunities and caused myself a lot of pain. And I have to admit it was down to immaturity and not understanding how the dating world works.

My second statement was in fact ironic. I meant it to resemble, "If you really like pain, feel free to drive a rusty nail through your big toe nail."

What's wrong with being in the friend zone is that longing and pain you feel, and how pathetic you become. I was pathetic. And you know what someone should have said to me? Grow some balls.

Really, that was the reason I was there, and that was the reason I stayed there. Its like that for most people in the friendzone.
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Okay, thanks for explaining.
I do know what you mean. I've also experienced that in the past when I was younger.
These days, however, if I'm interested in someone and get given the "I only want to be friends" line, I don't wallow in despair.
I still consider myself friend-zoned but I accept that this is the way it is much quicker and move on. I do honestly have a few long lasting intimate friendships with women who friend-zoned me. These friendships have lasted much longer than the romantic relationships I formed - which seldom develop into friendships after breakup. So it's a win/win for me.

On another note, I have once been friend-zoned by a woman who later changed her mind and decided friendship wasn't enough for her a few years down the line! She got friend-zoned by me though as I can't chop and change with my feelings. Once I've been friend zoned by someone I put them into a 'category' friends, which is how I will treat them forever after, as this is better than living with false hope!
 
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I.am.Sam said:
study and study and dont furk around while studying
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Nah, fark around as much as possible - but make sure you pass.

If you've not woken up in bed a few times without remembering going to bed then you've not been a student.
 
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Garson007 said:
Nah, fark around as much as possible - but make sure you pass.
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i did that ...but now im working and earning schit

if i worked hard studied hard and played little less ...i would have been rich
 
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Live life.

There's no such thing as being shy in front of a new girl, pretend you not shy. And go for it.

Understand fully that the friendship zone is a deep dark abyss of never ending denial of any kind of relationship; the equivalent of a black hole.

Never stop saving money and don't live on credit.

It's not true when they say, when you grow up life gets easier, it only gets harder.

Nothing wrong with rejection, it only makes you stronger.

Don't linger too much on the past. It's exactly that, the past.
 
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Ancalagon said:
I still stand by my first statement. I've been in the friendzone, and its painful. Its downright ****ty in fact. I am somewhat amazed that you support the friendzone. Yeah, I had some good times with the person I had a crush on, but I also wasted a lot of opportunities and caused myself a lot of pain. And I have to admit it was down to immaturity and not understanding how the dating world works.

My second statement was in fact ironic. I meant it to resemble, "If you really like pain, feel free to drive a rusty nail through your big toe nail."

What's wrong with being in the friend zone is that longing and pain you feel, and how pathetic you become. I was pathetic. And you know what someone should have said to me? Grow some balls.

Really, that was the reason I was there, and that was the reason I stayed there. Its like that for most people in the friendzone.
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There is no such thing as the friendzone. A woman either wants you as a friend or as someone to have sex with (there is friends with benefits but that is not important for the sake of this discussion.)

Normally they make it clear if they just want to be friends. In this case you are a sad idiot if you keep following her like a lost puppy pining after her. Either accept that you are going to be her friend and find someonme who does want to have sex with you or stop hanging out with her.
 
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I.am.Sam said:
yes ...cause i chose having a "life" knowing my potential
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I think what Garson is trying to say is that that's not necessarily the case in the real world. There are a lot of highly qualified people earning peanuts.
 
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BobsLawnService said:
There is no such thing as the friendzone. A woman either wants you as a friend or as someone to have sex with (there is friends with benefits but that is not important for the sake of this discussion.)

Normally they make it clear if they just want to be friends. In this case you are a sad idiot if you keep following her like a lost puppy pining after her. Either accept that you are going to be her friend and find someonme who does want to have sex with you or stop hanging out with her.
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Uh there is indeed such a thing as the friendzone, although it is self inflicted. Men blame women for it when they should be blaming themselves.
 
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Don't be such a pussy around girls.

Nothing else really.. there are pro's and cons around most big life decisions, I wouldn't risk changing my choices even if I could.
 
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