Am i selfish or its destiny

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HopefulMe

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M based in the eastern cape , i urgently need a genuine sangoma that perfoms ukufemba. Was hoping to get hold of u mr bmamba. I spend sleep less nights trying to get answers even though i know my answe i can inly get thru ukufemba
 
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@OP: as the only son it is your responsibility to care for your parents but NOT your sisters.
 
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Randux said:
What's going on? What is this?
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http://mybroadband.co.za/vb/showthread.php/405991-My-Culture-s-way-of-doing-things
10. Ukufemba- A process done by a Sangoma when communicating with his/her Mdzawu(a powerful ancestor that is used only by a Sangoma to talk live with the ancestors), a Sangoma will trap people that bewitches you and through him/her they can talk and reveal why they bewitch you. Your ancestors can also talk to you in that way, the voice of the Sangoma changes to match that of the person who is supposingly the one caught....
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HopefulMe said:
M based in the eastern cape , i urgently need a genuine sangoma that perfoms ukufemba. Was hoping to get hold of u mr bmamba. I spend sleep less nights trying to get answers even though i know my answe i can inly get thru ukufemba
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I doubt u will get answers with ukufemba that will fill u up with more questions without answers, some Sangomas will deceived u..... so that's a bad idea.....plus I don't like that thing
 
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Zenbaas said:
Ja man don't stress yourself out. The responsibility should be shared equally, I mean with 11 of you it should be easy. It's lazy of them to shift everything onto you.
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sounds like 10 kids who don't give a crap and since he is the only man he must bare the brunt. You need to make a stand and if your parents are the ones making you feel guilty then cut ties, they should be thankful for all you do for them. They need not manipulate you. sure they gave you life and by the sounds of it plenty of effort went into ensuring they got a boy hahah but even though you stick with your parents no matter what, when they start abusing and using you they are no longer your parents. So chill and try do your best without the guilt trips. You may want to look at getting all the kids involved and see if you guys can afford a retirement village for them.
 
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I think you do need to take care of your parents, but not in the was your sisters think.

You need to take control of the situation and become the facilitator that ensures that everyone pulls their own weight in taking care of your parents.
Tho that would depend on your personality and your relationship with your family.
 
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So your birth is kind of like a third world annuity scheme?
 
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Blackmamba, are you a sangoma? Why is HopefulMe requiring your services? :wtf:
 
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Thanks guys for your various advice, I am taking the bull by its horns 2day as I have called in a meeting.... so hopefully by the end of the day I will know my and their faith
 
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