Bad sex ruins a long relationship?

[moondoggie86]

From a guys perspective. Sex is like pizza. When its good its good. When its bad...its still pretty good

 

[SoulTax]

I think that the only way that the sex can be bad, is if one or both of the partners are not willing to learn/experiment. Also variety matters. You can get the hottest woman on the planet, that has the most amazing hip gyration. But if that is the only thing that the two of you do, you will get bored, and boring sex is bad sex.

 

[ShaunSA]

Then she met a nice guy, decent, friendly, funny, cute, caring, rich, from a very wealthy family. But it turns out his portobello was not even a enoki (if you catch my drift).

Pooky has an enoki

 

[chrisc]

Kissing don't last, cooking do

 

[SoulTax]

Kissing don't last, cooking do

I dunno so much, I can cook for myself. I would much rather have a koek than a cook thanks.

 

[Compton_effect]

Female Comedian - 'My mother once told me that the past to a man's heart was through his stomach. But I've found a handy shortcut through his pen!s.'

I dunno so much, I can cook for myself. I would much rather have a koek than a cook thanks.

 

[Grant]

My undoing ( was discussed here some time back ) was getting caught with the remote in my one hand changing channels on TV in the middle of "the deed"

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From the original post:
"" so last nite while performing conjugal duties i managed to reach the remote for the tv.

in total stealth mode i managed to change channels a couple of times until i inadvertantly hit the volume button.

needless to say i was caught in the act, my indiscretion went down like a lead balloon.

it is with certainty i now face the proverbial 7 lean years.

anyone else been caught out while not paying absolute & full attention & what suffering were you forced to endure ? ""

 

[Ockie]

My undoing ( was discussed here some time back ) was getting caught with the remote in my one hand changing channels on TV in the middle of "the deed"

I am not a violent person ... but I swear to god .... if you had done that to me you would have gotten a blue eye and very tender balls.

Het jou ma jou nie maniere geleer nie???

 

[Grant]

. if you had done that to me . . .

if it were you, there may have been no need to change channels on tv - or in the other extreme - get out my needlepoint & crochet work

 

[azbob]

Strange how women would stay faithful to a lover but not sleeping with their actual boyfriend/husband :wtf:

Because maybe he became #1 and you were relegated to the bench?

 

[Ockie]

if it were you, there may have been no need to change channels on tv -

You got that right buster! Besides ... if it were me you were with .... that remote might have been in use somewhere else already ... so you would have to aim your bum to the TV and press your navel to change channels! ROFL! Ok ok ... wont derail this thread.

 

[EMAM]

Let me answer this from my perspective. Where there’s a deep love, nothing else should matter. Been with my hubby since I was 15 – together for 27 years, married for 18 and, believe me, the sex life was abominable – maybe once every 6 weeks, and me begging for it. Yes, it got me down very often but I would never have left him because of this – he was (and still is) my soul mate and best friend and we have 2 kids and a wonderful life together. I just thought he had a very low libido. Everything fell into place when he came out to me a couple of months ago, and yes, for all these years, he’s been getting it off with other men without my knowledge. He had been hiding this deep, dark secret since the day we met but let me explain something now.......since him coming out, our sex life has been better than ever and we have reached an emotional bond that not many married couples will ever reach all due to the fact that this weight has been lifted off his shoulders. So, yes, you can still have bad sex and be in a relationship, as far as I’m concerned.

 

[Ockie]

So, yes, you can still have bad sex and be in a relationship, as far as I’m concerned.

But surely it puts undue strain on the relationship? My ex was rather cold in bed. I always also had to plead for it ... and we did not get to see each other all that often to begin with. I would often start cuddling him in bed looking to get some ... only to get a shoulder in the ribs and told to behave. He was 45 ... so his interest in sex was very low. But damn ... the though of pushing his face into the pillow and forcing myself onto him sometimes popped into my head ... but then of course it would dissapear as quick as it came and I would dissapear into the bathroom .

I was getting very frustrated and unhappy. Did not change how I felt about him at all. I still loved him ... but FCK .... a boy has got to eat!!!!!! I also were monogomous ... so getting take-way was not a option for me.

 

[Went_For_Beer]

Depressing thread. Married with a 1 year old baby. I'd take bad sex rather than no sex right now.

I was married and before we had kids, sex was a daily thing... then after our first kid it became more like once every 3 - 6 months if i was lucky.

 

[EMAM]

Oh, absolutely, it puts undue strain on a relationship - as I said, it got me down very often, and, yes, we fought alot about it but, and it's hard to explain to others, we have a very deep love. I would never have left him because of sex, and I didn't even leave him when he came out to me, so go figure. And there was many a time when I could have also pushed his face into the pillow but that would have been to suffocate him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I should have gone out and gotten take-aways - oh, there were plenty times I thought about it but I believe marriage is a commitment - but obviously somebody else we know didn't think the same!!!!

 

[DJ...]

Yes and yes...

 

[ShaunSA]

All this take-away talk is making me hungry

 

[Ockie]

Oh, absolutely, it puts undue strain on a relationship - as I said, it got me down very often, and, yes, we fought alot about it but, and it's hard to explain to others, we have a very deep love. I would never have left him because of sex, and I didn't even leave him when he came out to me, so go figure. And there was many a time when I could have also pushed his face into the pillow but that would have been to suffocate him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I should have gone out and gotten take-aways - oh, there were plenty times I thought about it but I believe marriage is a commitment - but obviously somebody else we know didn't think the same!!!!

F@kken stout gat! Slaan hom ... slaan hom!

Fact is Mrs Ant ... the relationships out there that is as strong as the one you share with Mr. Ant is very far and in between. Many ... if not most will not survive it. It might not be a direct link to bad sex .. or no sex ... but it will have its effect on the relationship and it might have symtoms somewhere else in the relationship. It might not cause a nuclear reaction and blow the relationship into little pieces ... but it could very well cause a slow but progressive rot. My view anyway.

 

[Ockie]

All this take-away talk is making me hungry

So kill two birds with one stone ... go deeptrhoat a hotdog .... sure you will get the hubbies attention with that move

 

[ShaunSA]

So kill two birds with one stone ... go deeptrhoat a hotdog .... sure you will get the hubbies attention with that move

That is one skill that continues to elude me