Bad sex ruins a long relationship?

[Mila]

There is no reason why the same banana should be boring....

There are many ways in which to eat it!!!

But if you like cucumbers bananas is not going to cut it in the long run

 

[ponder]

But if you like cucumbers bananas is not going to cut it in the long run

Yeah Mila, we all know you have a preference for big totties

 

[RiaX]

In short yes.

if you a normal oke volume of good sex is all you want. Handjobs, blowjobs, vaginal, mad sex, naughty sex doesnt matter as long as its good

Women tend to be selfish when it comes to sex in a long relationship. Now no one is saying you must be a ho but seriously if you sexually active with the oke and youve been dating long and serious there is absolutely no reason to be a miser.

and sex becomes bad when its not enough (advice for the girls)

physiologically size doesnt matter however culturally its a different story if your girl is complaining about you not lasting long enough there is a few things one can do:

- More foreplay you dont need to penetrate a girl to make her orgasm (and its nonsense that penetration orgasms being different)
- Confidence the little you has manned up so your attitude should too
- Slow down you dont need to go top speed from the get go and switch positions that gives you a start stop advantage
- Let her go on top its just as stimulating for her and you wont climax too quickly
- Ladies need to be warmed up gotta let the engine idle before you hammer it
- learn how to stimulate the clitoris (google it)

 

[Hosehead]

Cape Town has a very big jewish community, not as big or observant as Joburg, but big enough!

Big enough to run Cape Town, to keep the top end motor dealers in Business, To own most of the wealth, and the most exclusive properties and the numbers are huge. The platinum mile from Fresnaye thru Seapoint, bantry Bay, Clifton and Camps bay could easily be a suburb of Tel Aviv minus the pretty girls there.

I've always said the time to start getting nervous is when you see the Jewish community putting up for sale signs outside their homes and the moving vans arriving. They are a good barometer of the Political situation in SA.

 

[ChilliGirl]

But if you like cucumbers bananas is not going to cut it in the long run

You do get a few really big bananas.

And who wants to be the nun in the cucumber field? Toys are only partially good

 

[Nick333]

I don't think I've ever had bad sex as such. Sometimes a partner can be resistant to what you like in bed and you're faced with the possibility of never being completely satisfied with your sex life in which case the long term potential of the relationship takes a huge knock.

I once had a GF who didn't like to give BJs and wasn't all that keen on me going down on her because she felt obligated to go down on me at some point afterwards. For me oral should be freely given and received. It's a huge part of good sex for me.

Then again I had another GF who was very generous giving oral and not all that mad about receiving it. Which was strangely disappointing to me but, not any sort of damper on the long term potential of the relationship for me.

 

[faniebraai]

You do get a few really big bananas.

And who wants to be the nun in the cucumber field? Toys are only partially good

This is pretty big, nê?

 

[senyetse]

- More foreplay you dont need to penetrate a girl to make her orgasm (and its nonsense that penetration orgasms being different)

In my experience the majority of women can only climax from clitoral stimulation. Of course there are exceptions.

- Let her go on top its just as stimulating for her and you wont climax too quickly

I second that. Guys, place a pillow beneath your hips. This elevates your pubic bone - much more stimulation for her. This position is less stimulating for guys but it will allow you to last longer giving her time to climax. It is also a great position if you were a bit too excited and jumped the gun, she can get on and finish off.

- Ladies need to be warmed up gotta let the engine idle before you hammer it

Nice long foreplay always works, give her a sensual massage with oils. At first stay away from the sensitive regions but do tease and build up to stimulating the erogenous zones. the trick is to start slowly. If she's willing, a couples friendly adult movie or erotic literature will get her motor revving (this one works very well!). Another one that works really well is an erotic board game - one called "Monogamy" is really fun and can get very hot! :twisted:

- learn how to stimulate the clitoris (google it)

If you're both keen, sex toys (vibrators) work very well for this. There are a myriad of sex toys out there - google for appropriate ones - the smaller bullet vibes are less intimidating but get the job done. Otherwise train those fingers/tongue!

 

[Hosehead]

You do get a few really big bananas.

And who wants to be the nun in the cucumber field? Toys are only partially good

So why limit yourself then. Go wild. Clean out Fruit and Veg City. They've Massive Butternuts.

 

[RiaX]

In my experience the majority of women can only climax from clitoral stimulation. Of course there are exceptions.

Well ... I have to disagree with this my personal experience says so lol

 

[ChilliGirl]

So why limit yourself then. Go wild. Clean out Fruit and Veg City. They've Massive Butternuts.

Butternuts can only perform in City Hall

:erm:

 

[senyetse]

Well ... I have to disagree with this my personal experience says so lol

. I mean women I have been with, spoken to, and from general reading on the topic (it is an interest of mine, in another life I may become a sex therapist ). Let me rather say the experts say that most women can only climax from clitoral stimulation (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm#Clitoral_and_vaginal_categories)

 

[syntax]

In short yes.


- More foreplay you dont need to penetrate a girl to make her orgasm (and its nonsense that penetration orgasms being different)
- Confidence the little you has manned up so your attitude should too
- Slow down you dont need to go top speed from the get go and switch positions that gives you a start stop advantage
- Let her go on top its just as stimulating for her and you wont climax too quickly
- Ladies need to be warmed up gotta let the engine idle before you hammer it
- learn how to stimulate the clitoris (google it)

From what I have been told there is a difference between clitoral orgasm and penetration (whether this is a mental thing or not, there is a difference)

Her on top depends, I have had partners who dont get much joy on top, and others who can only orgasm on top. For me, her on top is a visual thing, and im a very visual person, so it just kills me

. I mean women I have been with, spoken to, and from general reading on the topic (it is an interest of mine, in another life I may become a sex therapist ). Let me rather say the experts say that most women can only climax from clitoral stimulation (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm#Clitoral_and_vaginal_categories)

I would say most of the woman I have been with can orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation. Some of them do manage to do a "grinding' motion that im sure stimulates it in some way. Not sure whether this counts to the above as its not "focus'd direct stimulation'

 

[senyetse]

I would say most of the woman I have been with can orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation. Some of them do manage to do a "grinding' motion that im sure stimulates it in some way. Not sure whether this counts to the above as its not "focus'd direct stimulation'

From what I read on that wikipedia link I posted above it is direct or indirect - some experts reckon vaginal penetration indirectly stimulates the clitoris since most of the clitoris and associated nerves extend way beyond what you can physically see. Also, according to the article above, most women masturbate only through direct clitoral stimulation. I assume that is probably because most nerve endings are concentrated there.