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Bad sex : Worth leaving for?
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Screwing a hooker is cheaper...
What I am reading from this thread is that there are a lot of people that feel that they are entitled to sex, and if they don't get it, or if its not up to their standards, they are entitled to end it, well guess what, you are not entitled to anything, if someone cares enough for you to have sex with you, that already is something special.
And what do you rate as good sex? Sex with someone you love dearly, or some girl that can wrap her ankles behind her head and do the taiwanese ping pong ball trick??
And what do you rate as good sex? Sex with someone you love dearly, or some girl that can wrap her ankles behind her head and do the taiwanese ping pong ball trick??
Definitely the ankles behind the head...
Bull****. There are chicks out there who use sex as a power tool and there are guys out there who use chicks just to get laid. Yes, in a loving and commited relationship the act of love making is a special and intimate thing, but saying that ALL sex is special is hogwash. There are times where sex is just a quick screw against the wall with a one night stand - never to be seen again. And before the lynch mob comes in my direction let me just say that I in no way condone or partake in the above described behaviour - I am just pointing out that it exists and shouldnt be forgotten when idealising an act that can be both beautiful and destructive.
I know that sex is used daily as a tool or a weapon, but I am talking about it in a relationship, one night stand <> relationship
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I also find nothing wrong with this. Sometimes you just need to get your end off and happen to find someone with the same need, and no need for commitment or pleasantries.
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It's also important to note that to some people it's just not an important thing. As with anything that involves 2 personalities, there's a delicate thread that runs between a couple. If the man has a higher libido than the woman, there may be a problem. If sex just isn't important for the woman, same thing. If the man is tired after a hard days work and his sprightly nympho girlfriend wants some action, problem.
In many of these cases, it's a part of the relationship where the two individuals are incompatible and because it's such an intimate part, it could easily bleed over into other aspects of their lives. It doesn't matter how much you "communicate", if she has a low sex drive and isn't really interested, you're going to have a problem.
In many of these cases, it's a part of the relationship where the two individuals are incompatible and because it's such an intimate part, it could easily bleed over into other aspects of their lives. It doesn't matter how much you "communicate", if she has a low sex drive and isn't really interested, you're going to have a problem.
Fair enough, but that wasn't the question. Would you leave over bad sex?
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I'm not against one-night stands, as long as it's safe. It's great for self-confidence, gives you a feeling of well-being.
Eventually I would. It's either that, or resort to cheating.
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I know that wasn't the question : I asked it initially
I'd never leave over bad sex. I think a relationship is alot more than that - and to ruin something good over sex is stupid :/
To the guys that would leave - what if she delevoped a problem that prevented her from having sex (frequently or well)?
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You'd be surprised how important sex is in a relationship.
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I know it is ... but to lose a soulmate? Someone that may understand you better than anyone?
I know that wasn't the question : I asked it initially
I'd never leave over bad sex. I think a relationship is alot more than that - and to ruin something good over sex is stupid :/
To the guys that would leave - what if she delevoped a problem that prevented her from having sex (frequently or well)?
+1 : I would never leave someone because the sex is not 100%
To your question:
From the responses that I have seen here, she will be out the door on her butt faster thank you can say missionary positition as she would be "sexually Inefficient"
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Yes, it is THAT important. To both.
I know that wasn't the question : I asked it initially
I'd never leave over bad sex. I think a relationship is alot more than that - and to ruin something good over sex is stupid :/
To the guys that would leave - what if she delevoped a problem that prevented her from having sex (frequently or well)?
No well thats a different story and remember women have more than 1 hole
Look i would not leave a lady if the sex was bad, i would only leave if the sex happened once a month and it felt like a chore more than her wanting it.
Maybe to you, but certainly not to all. A soulmate? A best friend? That person? You'd let go of all those years of emotional and mental satisfaction for sex?
I'm going to jump to a wild conclusion and say that you have probably never met anybody that means that much to you - or you have but she screwed you over and now you wallow in self indulgent cynicism and bitterness.
Sex is that important for most men, super if your boyfriend hardly ever kissed, hugged or showed any sort of feelings that he was sexually attracted to you would you leave him? Now remember this is your soulmate and best friend. What about if he hugged badly like with one arm and pecked you instead of kissed you nicely would you leave him?