Sign up with GoogleIf you had to choose, which would it be? I'm not talking about the nitty gritty details, rather just general concepts and overall identity as a human being. I.e. are you a family man first and an employee/boss/whatever second or are you a career passionate man who works 60hrs a week to provide for your family?
Do you look in the mirror and think 'I'm an Accountant(or whatever) with a wife and 2 kids' or do you think 'I'm a father and husband and I work as an Accountant' ?
I realise this may seem like an overly simplified question which doesn't address the complexities of the sacrifices that each version of that statement entails, but details tend to blur the bigger picture and I'm just interested in a general vibe here.
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Ok, so, hypothetical situations:
In the below situations your core family unit is hubby, wife, 1 x toddler of 3yrs and 1 x teenager of 14yrs. Both parents work full time.
You get a call from your teenagers headmistress - there has been an incident at school, child is fine but shaken up and needs to be collected early. Wife is traveling and you have an important meeting that day. What do you do? Leave work and postpone the meeting? Ask a relative/friend to collect teenager and catch up with child later when you get home?
Your boss calls you in to tell you you have been promoted. The promotion includes a transfer to a country far far away. It's lots of money/power/corporate back-patting (whatever floats your career boat) etc etc but would either mean leaving wife and kids behind for months at a time for 3yrs until oldest finishes school or moving the whole family. Do you take the job?
Wife's mother gets ill and wife to move to (country/city) to take care of her. Do you go with or do you stay because you've recently been promoted and your job is going really well?
Do you look in the mirror and think 'I'm an Accountant(or whatever) with a wife and 2 kids' or do you think 'I'm a father and husband and I work as an Accountant' ?
I realise this may seem like an overly simplified question which doesn't address the complexities of the sacrifices that each version of that statement entails, but details tend to blur the bigger picture and I'm just interested in a general vibe here.
EDIT:
Ok, so, hypothetical situations:
In the below situations your core family unit is hubby, wife, 1 x toddler of 3yrs and 1 x teenager of 14yrs. Both parents work full time.
You get a call from your teenagers headmistress - there has been an incident at school, child is fine but shaken up and needs to be collected early. Wife is traveling and you have an important meeting that day. What do you do? Leave work and postpone the meeting? Ask a relative/friend to collect teenager and catch up with child later when you get home?
Your boss calls you in to tell you you have been promoted. The promotion includes a transfer to a country far far away. It's lots of money/power/corporate back-patting (whatever floats your career boat) etc etc but would either mean leaving wife and kids behind for months at a time for 3yrs until oldest finishes school or moving the whole family. Do you take the job?
Wife's mother gets ill and wife to move to (country/city) to take care of her. Do you go with or do you stay because you've recently been promoted and your job is going really well?
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