Chasing a girl - ye or ne

[wazup]

Ok so I though dating would get easier when you get older (as Grampa Simpson said in one of The Simpsons' episodes)

So since it is a slow morning at work, I thought I would humour myself and ask the fellow MyBB forum members for opinions.

Met a girl at a party of a mutual friend, chatted a bit, few days after the party I invited her for coffee, she accepted, we went and had a great time. Thanked her the following day and she replied that she also had a nice time.

Couple of days later (two days ago), I invited her again, for drinks after work sometime this week, she takes a full 24hrs to reply, says this week is crazy and she can't make it. Doesn't propose any alternative times.

I know we all have busy weeks every now and then, but on the other hand I also can't help but wonder if she is not interested in any future dates, and trying to brush me off politely. Won't you make time or at least suggest next week to show that you're interested, if you are interested?

So do I just leave it and move on, or try one last time? Don't want to give up too easily but also don't want to waste my time if I can't read a bad sign...if I should give it another shot, how long should I wait until trying again? Don't want to appear desperate or anxious...

Oh and for the record I'm in my mid-30's and she is early 30's.

 

[Haldex]

Wait 2 weeks and ask her again.

 

[smallearth]

Wait 2 weeks and ask her again.

+1

 

[azbob]

Leave it. Ain't nobody got time to be chasin'

 

[Griz]

Going to require a pic

 

[gregmcc]

Try once more in 2 weeks. If she is still busy then forget it.

 

[CamiKaze]

I think you being a bit hasty and jumping to conclusions after she said that this is a bad week. Relax, maybe it is a bad week for her, who knows?

I suggest you try again, ask for next week. And after that, if nothing happens, you can fall back and leave it up until she decides.

 

[F1 Fan]

I agree with waiting two weeks. If she says no again, then you have your answer. In addition, she may just call you before those two weeks are up

 

[cerebus]

You had to go and wear your Google Glass prototype on the date didn't you?

 

[I.am.Sam]

Leave it. Ain't nobody got time to be chasin'

tooo many ladies out there for one in her early 30s

 

[Pooky]

The problem with instant messaging/text is that it is so hard to deduce tone from the text. I have many a time got the wrong impression from reading something and worked myself up into a huge stress only to find out the intention behind the text was completely different to how it was intended.

Honesty is always the best policy and I find more and more I don't like instant messaging as it results in problems with reading people which I'm generally quite good at.

Ask her in person or phone call whether she would like to go out sometime again (just sometime, no specifics) and then if she says yes then ask her when a good time would be...

 

[ShaunSA]

Leave it.

If she was interested she would have made time/taken a rain cheque.

 

[RazedInBlack]

So do I just leave it and move on, or try one last time? Don't want to give up too easily but also don't want to waste my time if I can't read a bad sign...if I should give it another shot, how long should I wait until trying again? Don't want to appear desperate or anxious...

Lol! Don't do either! Try something different, that will totally be unexpected of you. Make something up if you have to. That way you won't come accross as desperate.

And don't see it as a waste of time. Like I always say . . . Have fun!

 

[RazedInBlack]

The problem with instant messaging/text is that it is so hard to deduce tone from the text. I have many a time got the wrong impression from reading something and worked myself up into a huge stress only to find out the intention behind the text was completely different to how it was intended.

Honesty is always the best policy and I find more and more I don't like instant messaging as it results in problems with reading people which I'm generally quite good at.

Ask her in person or phone call whether she would like to go out sometime again (just sometime, no specifics) and then if she says yes then ask her when a good time would be...

Err, you giving advice . . . .

 

[Nick333]

Leave it.

If she was interested she would have made time/taken a rain cheque.

+1.

If she was at all into you she'd have replied sooner and said how about next week or whatever.

 

[rubytox]

Pursue her if you really like her but don't stalk her.

 

[Pooky]

Err, you giving advice . . . .

Is it bad advice?

 

[Bona Botse]

Leave it.

If she was interested she would have made time/taken a rain cheque.

Is she were not interested she wouldn't have bothered to reply. The late reply is also consistent with being busy.

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Man the fsck up and call her, tell her you're interested in her, and if she doesn't feel the same you'd appreciate it if she tell you.

If she tells you she has a boyfriend, tell her you don't care because you'll take her away from him anyway because you are that into her

 

[RazedInBlack]

Is it bad advice?

Yes.

Most guys guys think they have to sooo careful talking to girls, never say a rude word, be curtious, ask a girl out. You guys need a complete paradigm shift!

WTF are you? A monk! Fuck that!

When I started chatting to my girlfriend I have now, I asked her to write a 500 word essay motivating why she wants to date ME!

Granted, she laughed at me but thats what you want . . . FUN!