Chasing a girl - ye or ne

[Bona Botse]

In replying she is hoping he gets the message and does not bug her again.

Being busy is always a handy excuse. If you are interested in someone you make the time.

Asking someone once to go out for coffee is hardly bugging them. Had he asked a few times then maybe your theory would make more sense, but as it stands I don't think she's shooing him off.

 

[RazedInBlack]

I disagree that my advice was bad.

Lets see. Your advice:

Ask her in person or phone call whether she would like to go out sometime again (just sometime, no specifics) and then if she says yes then ask her when a good time would be...

If you gonna ask you gonna get a NO! Its not that girls want specifics but OFFER specifics in anycase. It displays confidence and and makes her feel that you have a plan at least. She's feeling unsure but she doesn't want to feel unsure for you as well.

 

[Pooky]

Lets see. Your advice:



If you gonna ask you gonna get a NO! Its not that girls want specifics but OFFER specifics in anycase. It displays confidence and and makes her feel that you have a plan at least. She's feeling unsure but she doesn't want to feel unsure for you as well.

It seems to me that you are stereotyping girls behaviour?

EDIT: reason I said no specifics was to not give her a chance to say oh I'm busy at that time, and she is more likely to give you a positive or negative answer...

 

[senyetse]

I haven't read the other replies but wait a week or two and give her a call, not SMS/text. That way you can judge from her voice how she feels. Maybe she was really very busy and could not suggest any alternative plans. If she still gives the same response then you provide an alternative, ask her when would be a good time. If she is still hesitant then you know she's not interested. Don't ***** foot about, life is too short for that.

 

[Pho3nix]

I actually agree with this. Granted, we all get busy sometimes, but if you really into something/someone you make time for it. If I was into a girl, but had back to back meetings for an entire day, I would make 5mins available to respond to her.

Then again, she could be playing hard to get. Who knows...

Hard to get at 30? Women still playing those games even then??

 

[OGroteKoning]

Who was it that once said "Don't take relationship tips from the same guy who gives you Linux tips"?

 

[I.am.Sam]

if you in your 30s and rejecting people then something is wrong

she must be crazy

OP stay away

 

[Bona Botse]

Who was it that once said "Don't take relationship tips from the same guy who gives you Linux tips"?

chiskop?

 

[RazedInBlack]

It seems to me that you are stereotyping girls behaviour?

EDIT: reason I said no specifics was to not give her a chance to say oh I'm busy at that time, and she is more likely to give you a positive or negative answer...

Ok Pooky. When last have you gotten laid?

 

[Pooky]

Ok Pooky. When last have you gotten laid?

How is this relevant to anything?

 

[shooter69]

Try in 1 weeks time. If she cant, then move on. Maybe she has a good looking friend? lol

 

[Hobbs zn]

rather walk away and move on. Not worth waiting and seeing.

 

[OGroteKoning]

if you in your 30s and rejecting people then something is wrong

she must be crazy

OP stay away

Or her diary is full

 

[moose007]

2 weeks is good advice, doesn't make you appear desperate and if she says she is busy, you know its not right. Leaving it is not good advice seeing as she accepted first time after having already met you.

Unless the date went badly, but you said she enjoyed herself and took time responding to all requests.

 

[Ninja'd]

I don't like calling females who are 30 years and older girls. Maybe it's just me.

 

[I.am.Sam]

Or her diary is full

she probably has a cat as well

 

[I.am.Sam]

I don't like calling females who are 30 years and older girls. Maybe it's just me.

milfs right ....

 

[azbob]

she probably has a cat as well

F off. Nothing wrong with having a cat.

 

[I.am.Sam]

F off. Nothing wrong with having a cat.

if you 30+ single and have a cat ...im sure there is nothing wrong

 

[bobby_digital]

you probably messed up the first date though you think it was great.
Cut your losses and move on, if she wants she will contact you.