Chasing a girl - ye or ne

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wazup

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samr1wp said:
so lets see we have efitol vs RIB vs pooky vs sam vs abzo vs shaun

nice going OP
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Hehe, not in my wildest dreams did I imagine this thread would become so interesting :)

On topic, thank you for all the replies. Even though I tend to agree with some posters saying if she was interested, she would have responded more positively, I will give her the benefit of the doubt this time only and try one more time - calling, instead of texting, in the next week or two. Given the fact that she at least replied, and that she could be experiencing a bad week.

But if she once again has excuses, then I will not pursue it any further!
 
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wazup said:
Hehe, not in my wildest dreams did I imagine this thread would become so interesting :)

On topic, thank you for all the replies. Even though I tend to agree with some posters saying if she was interested, she would have responded more positively, I will give her the benefit of the doubt this time only and try one more time - calling, instead of texting, in the next week or two. Given the fact that she at least replied, and that she could be experiencing a bad week.

But if she once again has excuses, then I will not pursue it any further!
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You forgot to say that you'll also update the thread ;).
 
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then you say i guess you are too busy with a sad face

and then say we speak soon

and dont call or sms again
 
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No no no, this is all wrong. Here's what you do:

Wait 2 weeks. Give her time. Don't contact her for 2 weeks. If she's interested she will wonder why you haven't contacted her in so long. If she's interested she will contact you before. If not, then don't ask her to go to coffee, tell her to go for coffee, like so, "lets go for coffee this week. I am available on the following days. Let me know when you are available". If she responds and says she cannot do this week because she's busy, she's not interested. Move on. In fact, if that's what she says, then piss her off and ask her if she has any cute friends for you.

She will either point you in the right direction or she will get jealous and all of a sudden her "schedule" will clear up.

Best advice on this thread, I promise.
 
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I didn't realise people fell in love after the first date?

I've met many girls who after the first time they've met me haven't particularly been interested. Couple of meetings later and they dig me and want to spend time with me.

Speak to people who are married and you'll find out from many that after the first date, one of them wasn't interested in seeing the other again. The other one persisted and 10 years later they're happily married with kids.

So yes wait 2 weeks and contact her again. I'd phone her, not sms/whatsapp/bbm/facebook/im.
 
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i remember meeting my SO on a monday ...1st date on sat ..next date tuesday

almost 5 years later :crying: ...been so good
 
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Looney said:
No no no, this is all wrong. Here's what you do:

Wait 2 weeks. Give her time. Don't contact her for 2 weeks. If she's interested she will wonder why you haven't contacted her in so long. If she's interested she will contact you before. If not, then don't ask her to go to coffee, tell her to go for coffee, like so, "lets go for coffee this week. I am available on the following days. Let me know when you are available". If she responds and says she cannot do this week because she's busy, she's not interested. Move on. In fact, if that's what she says, then piss her off and ask her if she has any cute friends for you.

She will either point you in the right direction or she will get jealous and all of a sudden her "schedule" will clear up.

Best advice on this thread, I promise.
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+1 great advice! even more so the last bit
 
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Stickfigure said:
I didn't realise people fell in love after the first date?

I've met many girls who after the first time they've met me haven't particularly been interested. Couple of meetings later and they dig me and want to spend time with me.

Speak to people who are married and you'll find out from many that after the first date, one of them wasn't interested in seeing the other again. The other one persisted and 10 years later they're happily married with kids.

So yes wait 2 weeks and contact her again. I'd phone her, not sms/whatsapp/bbm/facebook/im.
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True - one of my best friends also struggled to get a 2nd date (girl was also too busy) - and that is also after the first date went well - he persisted and now they have been happily married for three years.

The mutual friend (through whom I met this girl) declined a guy three times but he persisted, and now they are also happily married.

So therefore I will give it a last shot - just to feel I did not give up too easily - I really like her - but yes life is too short and there are many girls out there, so if she declines me again, I'm moving on!
 
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