Chasing a girl - ye or ne

[bwana]

The reason you wait 2 weeks is to show her that you are not obsessed with her. That you have a life of your own and are actually yourself "too busy" to meet up with her. If she says something like "where have you been, I haven't heard from you in 2 weeks", then you simply say you've been busy with work, friends, family and gone on one or 2 dates. Women love a man that has his own ambitions, his own life and is confident. If he makes the mistake of constantly chasing her, she will pick up that he's obsessed and will turn him down in a heart beat.

Agreed, it gives them something to work on.

 

[Looney]

Keep chasing. If you stop chasing girls, your dick is gonna fall off.

A true suave man never chases. He is always the one being chased. The more you chase the more you will get rejected. The key is to show you are interested but at the same time play it cool.

 

[Looney]

My advice to the op is to show her his interest in her, but never to actually admit it. Once you admit at such an early stage, it's game over. There are many ways to get a woman to realize your interested in her without saying it outright. Once she knows your interested, it's your turn to play hard ball. Now the ball is in your court and she will be wondering why you haven't been in contact with her even though she knows your interested. This will drive her crazy and she will want to find out why.

 

[WaxLyrical]

The reason you wait 2 weeks is to show her that you are not obsessed with her. That you have a life of your own and are actually yourself "too busy" to meet up with her. If she says something like "where have you been, I haven't heard from you in 2 weeks", then you simply say you've been busy with work, friends, family and gone on one or 2 dates. Women love a man that has his own ambitions, his own life and is confident. If he makes the mistake of constantly chasing her, she will pick up that he's obsessed and will turn him down in a heart beat.

I'd agree with you if he only wanted to be freinds but a mature woman in her 30's wants to get on with it.
She wants a man to be straight forward and express himself, not make hints and play psycho games. Those things we reserve for teens.
After 2 weeks of being too "busy" with other stuff do you think she cares what he feels or thinks especially since he found "time" to go on some dates.

The older a woman is the more direct a man has to be.

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

Why do people have all these rules, as if it's set in stone? Waiting two weeks doesn't guarantee you anything. If she's not interested, then she still won't be interested. If she is interested, then she will think that you're not if you ignore her for two weeks. State your intentions upfront and ask them what theirs are. Really, it all comes down to being able to read a person. Your days of playing stupid games are behind you, and I'm sure at that age, hers are too.

Keep your options open if you have to. Meet with other women, it's ok. If something happens with one of them then great, you can kill your interest in the others since you haven't committed to any of them. Interest works both ways, sometimes you let them down, sometimes they let you down (you don't know that they're not doing the same thing). There should be no hard feelings either way. This way you won't be obsessed over one woman's interest, and it will allow you to develop your ability to read people better as well as how to act around women.

 

[Pho3nix]

Why do people have all these rules, as if it's set in stone? Waiting two weeks doesn't guarantee you anything. If she's not interested, then she still won't be interested. If she is interested, then she will think that you're not if you ignore her for two weeks. State your intentions upfront and ask them what theirs are. Really, it all comes down to being able to read a person. Your days of playing stupid games are behind you, and I'm sure at that age, hers are too.

Keep your options open if you have to. Meet with other women, it's ok. If something happens with one of them then great, you can kill your interest in the others since you haven't committed to any of them. Interest works both ways, sometimes you let them down, sometimes they let you down (you don't know that they're not doing the same thing). There should be no hard feelings either way. This way you won't be obsessed over one woman's interest, and it will allow you to develop your ability to read people better as well as how to act around women.

Great advice. Applicable to all ages

 

[cpu.]

Send here a message:

Yes or No?

If her reply is Yes, then send: When?
If No, move on.

If the reply is neither, improvise.

Or

Talk.

 

[Humberto]

Rather get a dog; they're much better companions.

 

[OGroteKoning]

Rather get a dog; they're much better companions.

Don't let abzo se this...

 

[zippy]

A true suave man never chases. He is always the one being chased. The more you chase the more you will get rejected. The key is to show you are interested but at the same time play it cool.

Obviously I am giving that advice in the hope that most take it, leaving me looking like a gentleman, and the best option. It takes great skill to pull this off though. So far it's worked once in 40 years, so I need to fine tune it

 

[spiderz]

Rather get a dog; they're much better companions.

/PK's

Catz Rulez!!

 

[spiderz]

/sigh

Just get a cat...sounds like less hassles.

http://www.gumtree.co.za/fp-cats-in-johannesburg/c9124l3100003

 

[RaeBlue]

Ask her out maximum three times. If each time is no, then leave it. Don't ever ask more than three (found it works best) - with friends as well who are busy. If they want to see you after that, then they must contact you.

Just get a cat...sounds like less hassles

If third time is a no... get a cat!

 

[Frankie23]

I didn't realise people fell in love after the first date?

Confusing love and lust is easy sometimes.

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

Ask her out maximum three times. If each time is no, then leave it. Don't ever ask more than three (found it works best) - with friends as well who are busy. If they want to see you after that, then they must contact you.



If third time is a no... get a cat!

:wtf: You shouldn't have to ask more than once. If you do then you've already screwed up.

Btw you can't fsck a cat/dog, unless that's your thing :erm:

 

[OGroteKoning]

:wtf: You shouldn't have to ask more than once. If you do then you've already screwed up.

Btw you can't fsck a cat/dog, unless that's your thing :erm:

That last bit IS frowned upon

 

[muazzamb]

Keep chasing. If you stop chasing girls, your dick is gonna fall off.

+1

 

[Tinuva]

Pretty long thread...but I think everyone missed the real point. Have you kissed her at the end of the first date, ie. after coffee?

You know, you walk her back to her car, then usually she stand outside waiting for you to make the move, at which point this is where you move in and give her a goodbye kiss. This is where you seal the deal, and it makes all the difference between her blowing you off like you described, or going out with you again. Because at this point, she really is uncertain about how serious you are, because words are just words, actions speak much more than words alone.

If you didn't kiss her, well this is now where it gets tough, because you have to get it in, but to do that, you need to meet her again. You can try and try, maybe she will go out once more with you again, but who knows, chances are real slim.

You don't have to believe me, but I have seen the difference it makes. Best of luck.

 

[OGroteKoning]

If she has not contacted you by now without you making contact since your OP, then you are now in the friend-zone

 

[rubytox]

Pretty long thread...but I think everyone missed the real point. Have you kissed her at the end of the first date, ie. after coffee?

You know, you walk her back to her car, then usually she stand outside waiting for you to make the move, at which point this is where you move in and give her a goodbye kiss. This is where you seal the deal, and it makes all the difference between her blowing you off like you described, or going out with you again. Because at this point, she really is uncertain about how serious you are, because words are just words, actions speak much more than words alone.

If you didn't kiss her, well this is now where it gets tough, because you have to get it in, but to do that, you need to meet her again. You can try and try, maybe she will go out once more with you again, but who knows, chances are real slim.

You don't have to believe me, but I have seen the difference it makes. Best of luck.

In Cape Town a "move" has a different meaning.