Chivalry (or whatever it's called that guys are supposed to do)

[Herr der Verboten]

But people are..

no

 

[ShaunSA]

I think so; same if it's an older man.

/spots the sexist ageist

 

[Flash27]

Only if I know where the other chairs are, no way I’m standing like an idiot. I was on time.

 

[Devon101]

Used to get up. Now I ask if they want to sit and hope they say no.

 

[Fulcrum29]

But people are..

People had a mind shift. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I have said previously on this board, I mind my own business, but I won't stand by idly if someone, particularly, women, is being attacked or threatened, though neither would I invite myself into being mobbed for that you need to buy time and trust the system.

The acts of chivalry can easily result in you being a labelled a womaniser, sex fiend or condescending arsehole. Intention doesn't matter, it is all about personal experiences.

 

[saor]

But people are..

Ja, but certain attitudes toward race and gay people have changed so clearly updating our behavior is a thing we all do. Just because a behavior has from your perspective a positive air about it, doesn't mean the behavior should escape your scrutiny.

'Because I was raised that way' is usually a good reason to pause and think about it.

 

[pinball wizard]

Should I stop opening the car door for the Chinese?

 

[Herr der Verboten]

...soar is the girl in the op

 

[saor]

People had a mind shift. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Does feel that way sometimes. But I think I lean more toward which response sits better with me if a girl got upset at either situation:

1.) Stand up and she's angry and asks why I'm standing: "It's just how I was raised."
2.) Stay sitting and she's angry and she asks why I'm sitting: "You seemed like a healthy normal human just like everyone else in the room."

I feel more comfortable with response #2.

But obviously these situations hardly ever arise and the majority of people aren't assholes who get upset over **** like this. Just interesting the things we were raised with and the degree to which we override them as the world changes.

 

[saor]

...soar is the girl in the op

Do you think I'm prettier than Christy?

 

[Herr der Verboten]

Do you think I'm prettier than Christy?

for al we know...

 

[Fulcrum29]

Does feel that way sometimes. But I think I lean more toward which response sits better with me if a girl got upset at either situation:

1.) Stand up and she's angry and asks why I'm standing: "It's just how I was raised."
2.) Stay sitting and she's angry and she asks why I'm sitting: "You seemed like a healthy normal human just like everyone else in the room."

I feel more comfortable with response #2.

But obviously these situations hardly ever arise and the majority of people aren't assholes who get upset over **** like this. Just interesting the things we were raised with and the degree to which we override them as the world changes.

If my seat isn’t booked, I prefer to stand, conditionally I leave a seat open for the next person. A thing I have seen occur, occasionally, is someone else noticing that a woman or elder person is without a chair, but instead of making a seat available or fetching one, the person insist on the others to do so.

 

[saor]

for al we know...

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I've not nicer boobs than Christy. Will pm you pics soon xoxoxoxoxo.

 

[ShaunSA]

I've not nicer moobs than Christy. Will pm you pics soon xoxoxoxoxo.

I think he'd rather take your word for it

 

[Kornhub]

It depends how long I struggled to get a seat but generally would get up

 

[The Voice]

Back on topic, if someone is attending a talk/conference, etc, surely (in 2021 especially) seating would have been reserved? Is this woman trying to come in uninvited? Or is it just a free-for-all?

 

[Fulcrum29]

I think he'd rather take your word for it

 

[ShaunSA]

It depends how long I struggled to get a seat but generally would get up

We're talking about you... not your dick

 

[The_MAC]

Ja, but certain attitudes toward race and gay people have changed so clearly updating our behavior is a thing we all do. Just because a behavior has from your perspective a positive air about it, doesn't mean the behavior should escape your scrutiny.

'Because I was raised that way' is usually a good reason to pause and think about it.

The point I was tying to make is that peoples underlying character is the same, a douche is a douche - just because the world is changing does not mean people are fundamentally changing - their behavior might be modified yes

PS: I am not implying that people cannot change for the better

 

[grok]

Of course not, this isn't the 60/70's, we're all equal now..