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StonerStuart said:
No the stove and tv do not help at all.
I always have the mindset of meeting someone.

I remember the one thing I read a while ago - "Think fun, not outcome"
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exactly cause while having that fun that one woman might enjoy it and it starts like that

but yeah get yourself some games and sport ...nothing better than that
 
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StonerStuart said:
No the stove and tv do not help at all.
I always have the mindset of meeting someone.

I remember the one thing I read a while ago - "Think fun, not outcome"
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I thought this thread wasn't about finding a gf?..

You're starting to sound a little like Picard (the pathologically lonely MyBB poster, not the awesome, bald space captain.)
 
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TJ99 said:
I thought this thread wasn't about finding a gf?..

You're starting to sound a little like Picard (the pathologically lonely MyBB poster, not the awesome, bald space captain.)
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Ok I see... Dont want to be that guy!
 
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TJ99 said:
I thought this thread wasn't about finding a gf?..

You're starting to sound a little like Picard (the pathologically lonely MyBB poster, not the awesome, bald space captain.)
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Well seeing that he can not handle being alone, I reckon that is the only outcome/way to fix it.
 
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Elimentals said:
Well seeing that he can not handle being alone, I reckon that is the only outcome/way to fix it.
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Yep, either you're the kind of person that is alone and fine with it or need company, the OP seems lonely and needs someone by the sounds of it.
 
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Yep, either you're the kind of person that is alone and fine with it or need company, the OP seems lonely and needs someone by the sounds of it.
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I dont want to labelled as "Lonely".

I am comfortable with being alone, It sucks but its not the end of the world.

I just think it would be Great to have a partner.

So think of me as Optimistically-Single!
 
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Elimentals said:
Well seeing that he can not handle being alone, I reckon that is the only outcome/way to fix it.
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He could also just hang out with his friends, have a braai, play online games, etc. If you want a girlfriend just because you don't want to be lonely, you'll end up far more unhappy in the end. Especially when she leaves you/bangs your friend/etc...
 
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TJ99 said:
He could also just hang out with his friends, have a braai, play online games, etc. If you want a girlfriend just because you don't want to be lonely, you'll end up far more unhappy in the end. Especially when she leaves you/bangs your friend/etc...
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I think I should try that, No I would really not enjoy her screwing my friends!
 
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My friend has mentioned to me that I should try speed dating, but I think that would be a near heart attack every 3min!

I also have the issue of getting to close and entering the "FRIEND ZONE"
 
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Before I left my long term SO a few years ago I had a real yearning to just live on my own, meditate, find some peace and learn to be a truly independent person. In the last four years since leaving her I've had various living arrangements and the better part of two years of living alone and almost a straight year of it up and till now.
My goal is to learn to be happy while being alone as possible without going to live in a cave in the wilderness.

It's been freaking difficult and lonely at times. I really have felt like I'm going nuts sometimes to the point where I would go out drinking or accept any social invite just as a knee jerk reaction. I wouldn't particularly want to do something or spend time with particular people, but I would because the prospect of being alone sucked. Or I would get drunk at home to drown out the feeling of loneliness.

But it's gotten easier now to the point that I'd rather be alone than go out. So far this year I think I've been drunk twice and been to one braai and the truth is, at this point, I'm fairly happy and feeling happier.

I've come to the conclusion that I'm an introvert. I like people but I don't like the vast majority of them enough to want to spend very much time with them. It's not misanthropy. It's just that I don't feel that very many people are capable of adding anything of worth to my life that requires spending prolong amounts of time with them.

I think the problem that most people have with being alone is 1.) We feel like there is something lacking in ourselves that we need other people to provide - there's not. Part of my realisation that I actually like being on my own is that whatever I may or may not be lacking, the vast majority of people are incapable of providing anyway (if at all). And 2.) There is a lot of social pressure to be sociable - people assume that if you spend a lot of time alone you must be depressed and lonely. A lot of that pressure is self-imposed. We worry about what people will think if we don't have a g/f or b/f or go out very much etc. I've had the realisation that it's crazy to worry about the thoughts of people who contribute very little to my happiness anyway.
 
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Nick333 said:
Before I left my long term SO a few years ago I had a real yearning to just live on my own, meditate, find some peace and learn to be a truly independent person. In the last four years since leaving her I've had various living arrangements and the better part of two years of living alone and almost a straight year of it up and till now.
My goal is to learn to be happy while being alone as possible without going to live in a cave in the wilderness.

It's been freaking difficult and lonely at times. I really have felt like I'm going nuts sometimes to the point where I would go out drinking or accept any social invite just as a knee jerk reaction. I wouldn't particularly want to do something or spend time with particular people, but I would because the prospect of being alone sucked. Or I would get drunk at home to drown out the feeling of loneliness.

But it's gotten easier now to the point that I'd rather be alone than go out. So far this year I think I've been drunk twice and been to one braai and the truth is, at this point, I'm fairly happy and feeling happier.

I've come to the conclusion that I'm an introvert. I like people but I don't like the vast majority of them enough to want to spend very much time with them. It's not misanthropy. It's just that I don't feel that very many people are capable of adding anything of worth to my life that requires spending prolong amounts of time with them.

I think the problem that most people have with being alone is 1.) We feel like there is something lacking in ourselves that we need other people to provide - there's not. Part of my realisation that I actually like being on my own is that whatever I may or may not be lacking, the vast majority of people are incapable of providing anyway (if at all). And 2.) There is a lot of social pressure to be sociable - people assume that if you spend a lot of time alone you must be depressed and lonely. A lot of that pressure is self-imposed. We worry about what people will think if we don't have a g/f or b/f or go out very much etc. I've had the realisation that it's crazy to worry about the thoughts of people who contribute very little to my happiness anyway.
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This man. A Bells. Give.
 
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StonerStuart said:
Good morning people

So how many of you guys/girls live alone?

How exactly do you stop the 'craziness' in your mind?

I'm not sure if I am the only one who has this problem!

I live alone, I have lived alone for eight years now, since I was 16.

I find myself growing increasingly 'crazy' at night.
Talking to myself, and replying to myself, then asking myself why I am talking to myself.

Allot of weird things go through my mind at night.

Not sure if this is a common human trait or if it is a select few who act crazy like me?
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Live alone in a new place for the past 9 months. The local pub made a killing off me :p

Now moved in with a new friend and I do not go out in the week at all anymore.

Why don't you join a sports club or perhaps some other social club?
 
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