As much as kids can be cruel, I think it's the teachers who are the ones who are most cruel. They see what goes on and ignore clear signs of problems, and in some cases even become the bullies themselves.
Bryanston High treated my younger sister very badly. Our father died just before my youngest sister's prelim exams, and she missed a few key days at school (no exams were missed). When she went in to explain what had happened a teacher accused her of lying and the school offered no support. Meanwhile, another student also had a parent pass away and he was recognized and was supported across the school. Still angry to this day about it.
Now seeing my nephew go through two different top SA schools (he moved due to a physical move) and I am still so unimpressed. It feels like schools are just a conveyor belt for these kids.
Yep. I caught a rugby coach quite literally standing with kids from his team mocking the players from another team, from the same school, same age group, about how kak they are, how stupid they are... kids he actually coaches himself. It was astonishing, especially considering the kids he was mocking were winning comprehensively and his team later went on to lose their respective match.
And to really highlight the issue, parents and coaches from the other school who witnessed it too complained about it to the school. And still, NOTHING happened, not even achnowledged.
It was so bad, the kids who were making Sharks academy were being excluded from A-team selections, played in C and D team. Teachers, especially those who are old boys at these schools, are genuinely at the core of the problem, jobs and spots for pals, nothing more, nothing less.