Family viewing on DSTV - Channel 122

ColonelJAck

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I came home from work now.
My 11 year old daughter is watching Big Bang Theory.
As I walk into the lounge, I hear Leonard saying to Penny that he only watches some films with her so that they can have sex. Penny then said something about the two of them having sex.
I quickly grabbed the remote and changed channels.
I then asked my daughter why she is watching adult programs (we're are very strict in my house with age restricted movies/programs).
She argued that its a FAMILY movie.
I went back to the channel and realised that she was correct.

Am I over-reacting ?

I don't want my pre-teens to hear about people wanting to have sex and I certainly don't want this to be witnessed on a channel / program rated FAMILY.

I had a quick chat with my wife and she was saying that on numerous occasions she has had to quickly change channels on FAMILY rated programs while couples are lying naked in bed (nothing explicit, but still) or while they're talking about getting into bed with each other of remembering having sex in someones car, etc etc etc

I think that Multichoice needs to become accurate on the ratings.
Perhaps most of these programs should have a 13 age restriction by default.

Anyone else have an opinion ?

I apologise if there is a similar thread already. I was too annoyed to look.
 

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If the good and bad of sex is discussed openly with them, I don't see a reason why they cannot hear discussions about sex on TV. As long as they know what is right and what is wrong. They are going to be exposed to it everywhere they go anyway. The worst thing you can do is to try and hide sex from your children, like a lot of our parents did...
 

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Big bang theory carries a 13SL warning before each show.

Isnt it easier just to use the parental lock?
 

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I saw one of those meme's about kids the other day.

Dad: Son it's time we talked about sex.
Son: Ok dad, what would you like to know?


# Reality.
 

ColonelJAck

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Big bang theory carries a 13SL warning before each show.

Isnt it easier just to use the parental lock?

If you press 'i' it shows Family.
I dont think parental lock works on Family rated movies.
I will check tho.
 

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ColonelJack, no offence, but I do not think it is a good thing avoiding issues of sex with your kids (sorry if it is not that way with your family, but it sure comes across that way). Rather talk to them about what they have seen and heard. Making it a taboo issue is going to make them want to know even more. They are going to be exposed to it, whether you like it or not, so talk about the good and bad of sex etc. There are some really nice sex education books available for kids. Sex is a natural part of life, don't make it seem dirty and bad, that can lead to issues eg guilt etc.

I don't mean any offence but I find people to be too careful when it comes to sex and their kids. Knowledge is power!
 
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ColonelJAck

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ColonelJack, no offence, but I do not think it is a good thing avoiding issues of sex with your kids (sorry if it is not that way with your family, but it sure comes across that way). Rather talk to them about what they have seen and heard. Making it a taboo issue is going to make them want to know even more. They are going to be exposed to it, whether you like it or not, so talk about the good and bad of sex etc. There are some really nice sex education books available for kids. Sex is a natural part of life, don't make it seem dirty and bad, that can lead to issues eg guilt etc.

I don't mean any offence but I find people to be too careful when it comes to sex and their kids. Knowledge is power!


Sex is neither dirty or taboo in my family.
We have had THE TALK with my older son.
My 11 year old daughter has been given a brief overview since starting with menstruation at the beginning of this year.

We are strict about my kids watching channels and movies that have age restrictions.

The point I am making is that I don't believe FAMILY rated programs should discuss 'free sex' as blatantly as they do.
We've explained that men and women fall in love and blah blah blah.
But the FAMILY shows tell them that you take a girl to a movie that she likes and you get to shag her later.
This is a reality of life, I agree.
But if these are the behaviours of the characters, then the age restriction she be amended.
 

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Would you have reacted any differently if they were talking about a decapitation? If so, then the issue is with you. Sex is natural, don't stigmatise it if you're the one who feels uncomfortable about it.
 

Mike Hoxbig

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Sex is neither dirty or taboo in my family.
We have had THE TALK with my older son.
My 11 year old daughter has been given a brief overview since starting with menstruation at the beginning of this year.

We are strict about my kids watching channels and movies that have age restrictions.

The point I am making is that I don't believe FAMILY rated programs should discuss 'free sex' as blatantly as they do.
We've explained that men and women fall in love and blah blah blah.
But the FAMILY shows tell them that you take a girl to a movie that she likes and you get to shag her later.
This is a reality of life, I agree.
But if these are the behaviours of the characters, then the age restriction she be amended.
Like it or not, they've probably heard of and seen much dirtier things outside of your control. Being a control freak is probably going to make them want it more. I know I did at that age - my folks avoided the topic like the plague and used to get super uncomfortable whenever a boob popped up on TV. I ended up paying random hobos to get porn mags and videos for me. It's much easier for them these days with the internet.
 

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Sex is a very small part of TBBT and mostly innocent or humorous.

Are you more relaxed about violence? There's plenty violence in Family/PG shows but most people seem ok with that while sex/nudity or just the mention of it is verboten! :D

You might stop your kids from watching stuff at home but they will get it somewhere else whether you like it or not, I would prefer it if they got it in the home environment where you could provide guidance. I think you are going a bit overboard, that said I don't have kids & how you raise yours is your business but you did ask ;)
 

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Although I agree with the above comments, I think the op is trying to gauge why MultiChoice don't stick to the correct show ratings - if his family choose to use the decoder parental restrictions based on show content (irrespective of type of content), then providers like MC should adhere to this; they seem to advertise every 5 minutes about "you as parents having control f what your little ones watch". What's the point of having a parental control feature if the show isn't classified correctly?

Op, I would complain to MC, as you have the right to. Unfortunately they will probably ignore you...
 

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The big bang theory is tame to say the least.
If you feel the things they discuss in the show are bad for an 11 yr old then the big world will scare you more.

Educate them rather then sheltering them.
 

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Although I agree with the above comments, I think the op is trying to gauge why MultiChoice don't stick to the correct show ratings - if his family choose to use the decoder parental restrictions based on show content (irrespective of type of content), then providers like MC should adhere to this; they seem to advertise every 5 minutes about "you as parents having control f what your little ones watch". What's the point of having a parental control feature if the show isn't classified correctly?

Op, I would complain to MC, as you have the right to. Unfortunately they will probably ignore you...

Yes I think that's what the OP is saying. Channel 122 appears to be rating the Big Bang as family unlike Mnet where it is 13SL
 

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Although I agree with the above comments, I think the op is trying to gauge why MultiChoice don't stick to the correct show ratings - if his family choose to use the decoder parental restrictions based on show content (irrespective of type of content), then providers like MC should adhere to this; they seem to advertise every 5 minutes about "you as parents having control f what your little ones watch". What's the point of having a parental control feature if the show isn't classified correctly?

Op, I would complain to MC, as you have the right to. Unfortunately they will probably ignore you...

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