Fortnite: Raging teenager

[Purply]

First off, my condolences, so glad I don't have kids.

Would be an interesting experiment if you could disable the mic completely every time said loudness limit is reached for a set period of time, with his knowledge that it would happen of course.

 

[UrBaN963]

Honestly all jokes aside though - how old is your son?

Seems to me if he is playing violent video games (where he has to kill people) and then is getting super angry, perhaps he should play something else, or just get out more. The way kids rage online isn't healthy. He gets the idea it's okay to talk like that and tries it one day to a fellow motorist or oke at the club - could be the last thing he ever does. Not to be all doom and gloom, but honestly that stuff happens.

Not to mention the fact that he just sounds like an arsehole. I think you should be addressing why he is behaving like that, rather than trying to stem the outbursts.

 

[schuits]

Thanks for the replies.

As to the parenting style it's sort of out of my hands. I'm not his biological father. Also I was bought up in a very strict way, but my SO won't let me "be like my father was" as she puts it.
If it were up to me the game would be deleted and he would lose all rights to my PC.

 

[LazyLion]

Have the same problem with my 15 year old son with various games. He's gotten a lot better at it, but when it gets out of hand he gets banned from the computer for the rest of that week. You do know that you can set up a system password in the BIOS?

 

[schuits]

Honestly all jokes aside though - how old is your son?

Seems to me if he is playing violent video games (where he has to kill people) and then is getting super angry, perhaps he should play something else, or just get out more. The way kids rage online isn't healthy. He gets the idea it's okay to talk like that and tries it one day to a fellow motorist or oke at the club - could be the last thing he ever does. Not to be all doom and gloom, but honestly that stuff happens.

Not to mention the fact that he just sounds like an arsehole. I think you should be addressing why he is behaving like that, rather than trying to stem the outbursts.

He's 13 years. Plenty of aggression and energy.

 

[Ho3n3r]

Thanks for the replies.

As to the parenting style it's sort of out of my hands. I'm not his biological father. Also I was bought up in a very strict way, but my SO won't let me "be like my father was" as she puts it.
If it were up to me the game would be deleted and he would lose all rights to my PC.

Ah. The source of the problem has been found. And probably the reason for her first divorce.

Son can get away with whatever he likes, because mom, and he knows it.

 

[schuits]

Ye I think after reading some comments I'm going about this wrong.
I need to treat the cause not the symptoms.

 

[UrBaN963]

Thanks for the replies.

As to the parenting style it's sort of out of my hands. I'm not his biological father. Also I was bought up in a very strict way, but my SO won't let me "be like my father was" as she puts it.
If it were up to me the game would be deleted and he would lose all rights to my PC.

Your PC? In that case, as it is your possession, parenting style doesn't even come into it.
I think you have more to deal with here than aggressive outbursts. Does he do any sports or activities? Seems to me like the dude needs to get out more.

He shouldn't legally be playing that game anyway. Just a thought.

 

[UrBaN963]

Perhaps you can get a voice-activated water squirter. Everytime the mic input >X Db, it squirts water in his face. Might work.

 

[newby_investor]

Thanks for the replies.

As to the parenting style it's sort of out of my hands. I'm not his biological father. Also I was bought up in a very strict way, but my SO won't let me "be like my father was" as she puts it.
If it were up to me the game would be deleted and he would lose all rights to my PC.

I think this is a keyword here - your SO can raise her son how she wants to, but nothing forces you to let him play games on your PC. "Mixed" families do make things difficult, but even if her father was overly disciplinarian, the solution to that is not no discipline at all.

 

[Toxxyc]

Ye I think after reading some comments I'm going about this wrong.
I need to treat the cause not the symptoms.

To be honest I'm quite surprised by your response. Most parents will go "THIS IS MY KID YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO RAISE MY SON YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION". Respect.

Thanks for the replies.

As to the parenting style it's sort of out of my hands. I'm not his biological father. Also I was bought up in a very strict way, but my SO won't let me "be like my father was" as she puts it.
If it were up to me the game would be deleted and he would lose all rights to my PC.

This post gets me. If it's your PC, why not just change the password and deny him access? Like mentioned, inform his mother that he's not legally allowed to play that game, as it carries an 18 age restriction, IIRC.

 

[schuits]

Your PC? In that case, as it is your possession, parenting style doesn't even come into it.
I think you have more to deal with here than aggressive outbursts. Does he do any sports or activities? Seems to me like the dude needs to get out more.

He shouldn't legally be playing that game anyway. Just a thought.

He used to play soccer, but gave that up, probably to play more games.
Next year he's being home schooled......
Not that I'm a great role model, but then again you won't ever see me shouting at my computer.

 

[schuits]

To be honest I'm quite surprised by your response. Most parents will go "THIS IS MY KID YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO RAISE MY SON YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION". Respect.

Sometimes it helps to get an external perspective.

 

[Soul Assassin]

Like mentioned, inform his mother that he's not legally allowed to play that game, as it carries an 18 age restriction, IIRC.

I'm pretty sure it's rated PEGI 12+, which really is beside the point, why try and do all these other stuff and not have a conversation, the three of you.

 

[UrBaN963]

He used to play soccer, but gave that up, probably to play more games.
Next year he's being home schooled......
Not that I'm a great role model, but then again you won't ever see me shouting at my computer.

Why is he being homeschooled? He clearly already sucks at dealing with people - his PC behaviour and the fact he does no extra-murals point to that (based on VERY limited info).

Seems he should be sent to a boarding school or at least a normal school with no PC access, or a crappy laptop. Bring home three friends, earn 5 hours gaming time. Get a girlfriend, get to game every weekend.

 

[Deadmanza]

Seems he should be sent to a boarding school or at least a normal school with no PC access, or a crappy laptop. Bring home three friends, earn 5 hours gaming time. Get a girlfriend, get to game every weekend.

Sounds like your read the "Parenting guide by EA".

 

[UrBaN963]

Sounds like your read the "Parenting guide by EA".

Nah, just sounds like the kid needs less PC and more "life" in his life.

 

[newby_investor]

Not that I'm a great role model.

Kudos. It takes a big man to admit that. Might be a good time to reflect on your own habits. If you don't feel that your gaming habits are a problem, then at least you'd need to have a conversation around what constitutes acceptable behaviour and what doesn't.

Get a girlfriend, get to game every weekend.

At 13? That will start introducing some other kinds of parenting challenges...

 

[Soul Assassin]

Sounds like your read the "Parenting guide by EA".

Does that mean chores are microtransaction, mind blown.

 

[schuits]

Why is he being homeschooled? He clearly already sucks at dealing with people - his PC behaviour and the fact he does no extra-murals point to that (based on VERY limited info).

Seems he should be sent to a boarding school or at least a normal school with no PC access, or a crappy laptop. Bring home three friends, earn 5 hours gaming time. Get a girlfriend, get to game every weekend.

He's ADHD and the teachers can't cope. There's also no suitable schools in the area.
HAHA I wish could send him to a boarding school!