Fortnite: Raging teenager

[UrBaN963]

Kudos. It takes a big man to admit that. Might be a good time to reflect on your own habits. If you don't feel that your gaming habits are a problem, then at least you'd need to have a conversation around what constitutes acceptable behaviour and what doesn't.



At 13? That will start introducing some other kinds of parenting challenges...

I had my first girlfriend at 11 (not setting that as a standard, just an example) and didn't get upto any major mischief until later. The point is he should have his interests expanded, not solely focused on something as irrelevent as a PC game with no real social interaction. Imagine when he finished school and has to get a job or interact with people on the daily?

 

[namzsteve]

Is it just me or does the mentioned son in the thread seem like a d!ck#3ad???

And why do you let him shout if it's a problem for you? Discipline the little idiot. This it's a new world crap is ruining the little ones.
I would belt a child if they don't listen. My parents raised me like that, I would get f&@ked up literally for just walking away if my parent's were talking, not that I will raise my kids like that but if I say no and it goes on, the missus will either throw her shoe in his direction or my belt will eat his arse.

 

[newby_investor]

He's ADHD and the teachers can't cope.

You do realise that home-schooling is going to require an increase in effort? If he is ADHD, then there's even more reason to set limits for him and help him to function within them, not to let him just do as he pleases.

The point is he should have his interests expanded, not solely focused on something as irrelevent as a PC game with no real social interaction. Imagine when he finished school and has to get a job or interact with people on the daily?

Yes, a good and relevant point.

If I might venture a different view though, I personally don't think that "bribing" your child by promising game time in exchange for positive actions will help at all. My parents didn't give me anything for getting good marks at school, or joining sports teams, or cleaning my room or behaving well. I went out and did those things because I enjoyed them, or if I didn't enjoy them at least because I knew they would benefit me in the long run. If there has to be a bribe to do anything, then that screws around with the motivation.

 

[Barbarian Conan]

(although breaking your own PC may not really teach him much of a lesson)

 

[UrBaN963]

You do realise that home-schooling is going to require an increase in effort? If he is ADHD, then there's even more reason to set limits for him and help him to function within them, not to let him just do as he pleases.


Yes, a good and relevant point.

If I might venture a different view though, I personally don't think that "bribing" your child by promising game time in exchange for positive actions will help at all. My parents didn't give me anything for getting good marks at school, or joining sports teams, or cleaning my room or behaving well. I went out and did those things because I enjoyed them, or if I didn't enjoy them at least because I knew they would benefit me in the long run. If there has to be a bribe to do anything, then that screws around with the motivation.

The reward system was tongue-in-cheek. I think there is definitely a place for rewarding good behaviour/results. Life works that way, no reason not to also apply it to parenting.

Bribery though, that's not going to work I agree.

 

[Soul Assassin]

The skill gap in Fortnite is massive so the raging won't stop any time soon so it's time to have a sit down the three of you.

 

[Barbarian Conan]

He used to play soccer, but gave that up, probably to play more games.
Next year he's being home schooled......
Not that I'm a great role model, but then again you won't ever see me shouting at my computer.

All this tells me is that you've never played Dark Souls

 

[newby_investor]

The reward system was tongue-in-cheek. I think there is definitely a place for rewarding good behaviour/results. Life works that way, no reason not to also apply it to parenting.

Bribery though, that's not going to work I agree.

Sorry, my tongue-in-cheek detector malfunctions often on internet forums. Yeah, you have a fair point, there is a place for a reward system. But when you need to resort to bribery to get your children to do basic things that a human being should do anyway, something is pretty wrong.

 

[schuits]

All this tells me is that you've never played Dark Souls

I did! But for a very short time. It's clearly been ported from a console and the clunky key combos didn't work for me.

 

[Sinbad]

All this tells me is that you've never played cuphead

Ftfy

 

[namzsteve]

(although breaking your own PC may not really teach him much of a lesson)

An Asian version of a my dad! Love it!

 

[Batista]

People are jumping to conclusions calling your son out.
I play online and do shout at time to time because I play team based games only and if everyone isnt draggin their weight it gets annoying fast.
My daughter does the same with minecraft lol

 

[UrBaN963]

People are jumping to conclusions calling your son out.
I play online and do shout at time to time because I play team based games only and if everyone isnt draggin their weight it gets annoying fast.
My daughter does the same with minecraft lol

Does that mean a 13-yr old should be doing that online, despite requests to not do it? Just because you are like the kid, doesn’t mean it’s correct.

 

[Ninja'd]

Yea...or you know...... you could unplug and send him to The Outside to catch a glimpse of the real world.

Maybe suggest he goes to talk to the neighbours that way for an hour.

I tried Outside once. Graphics were sub-par, a single save slot and was filled with microtransactions. I immediately went back to Zelda.

 

[UrBaN963]

I tried Outside once. Graphics were sub-par, a single save slot and was filled with microtransactions. I immediately went back to Zelda.

Lolnub

 

[KleinBoontjie]

I never see my kids getting angry at online games.....though they are angry at me for hogging the PC, 24/7.

 

[Batista]

I had my first girlfriend at 11 (not setting that as a standard, just an example) and didn't get upto any major mischief until later. The point is he should have his interests expanded, not solely focused on something as irrelevent as a PC game with no real social interaction. Imagine when he finished school and has to get a job or interact with people on the daily?

Irrelevant?What if this kid becomes the next Zuckerberg,Gates, Champion Call of Duty player?
In a world where Esports WILL BE the most watched event in history(surpassing all major events, except maybe soccer) you do not want to potentially deter a kid from doing what he loves and making $$$ in the process.

 

[Mista_Mobsta]

My 2cents - the ask once only or get moered (read: butt-meets-belt) option works more often than not. I used to go to a LAN party at least once or twice a month when I was younger and it was always a loud affair...especially when CS 1.6 made the rounds. It was mostly at a church or hall because it could get quite loud. Maybe organise a LAN for him and his buddies so his buddies can call him out for being the loud obnoxious one?

 

[UrBaN963]

Irrelevant?What if this kid becomes the next Zuckerberg,Gates, Champion Call of Duty player?
In a world where Esports WILL BE the most watched event in history(surpassing all major events, except maybe soccer) you do not want to potentially deter a kid from doing what he loves and making $$$ in the process.

Congrats. I didn't think you could miss the point so thoroughly but you have exceeded my expectations.

 

[Recallza]

If your SO doesn't want you disciplining the child, why not record the MIC input if it reaches the threshold and relay it your SO via whatsapp voice-notes or something?