Fortnite: Raging teenager

[S.Claus]

This has so many solutions without you raising a finger against him.

1. Keep nagging his mom to sort out the problem (she's gonna get tired eventually and solve the problem)
2. Lock your PC and tell his mom to buy him his own pc/console if he wants to play games
3. Have a sit down with him and his mom and explain how this has gotten out of hand

 

[GoB]

Although my son doesn't shout, he needs to learn good sportsmanship. So I'm working on improving that.

Then I limit the time spent gaming, but the issue is that I need him to do something productive without devices even when I'm not around. Otherwise if I'm busy he just waits around until he can game again.

This weekend I'm letting him mow the lawn and do some woodworking with a jigsaw. A bit of a stretch, but he doesn't want to come up with something productive to do on his own.

Then although it's on a PC, I will set goals on Khan Academy.
I think if he completes the Computing section, he'll be able to build games in Unity.

 

[newby_investor]

@schuits, so after a few months I'm curious as to how things have turned out?

Prompted by the recent article:
https://mybroadband.co.za/news/gami...ion-is-forcing-kids-into-video-game-rehab.htm

 

[kolaval]

Kid probably took him out.

 

[GoB]

Lol... I had to ban all device use until the end of exams for my son by the way, ~3 weeks.

Surprisingly, he accepted this.

 

[D4N_CPT]

So my teenage son is addicted to fortnite. Fine, I guess, I play games too.
The problem is he's constantly shouting at the computer and his friends, like way too loud.
The SO and I are getting tired of reprimanding him.

So I'm writing a system app that will monitor the microphone input levels. When it exceeds the limit I deem acceptable the program takes action. Now at first I thought it would give him 1 warning, and then kill the Fortnite executable. But this will probably just fuel his rage. So instead I have now written it to play back his own microphone input when he starts getting loud. Creating a sort of feedback loop. Any thoughts?

In response to the original posted question: Maybe do a force shutdown on the 3rd/5th offence... And accompany said shutdown with a good old hiding, or in your case a day or two ban.

And also an update on the method implemented vs effectiveness of said method would be nice.

 

[Moosedrool]

 

[newby_investor]

In response to the original posted question: Maybe do a force shutdown on the 3rd/5th offence... And accompany said shutdown with a good old hiding, or in your case a day or two ban.

And also an update on the method implemented vs effectiveness of said method would be nice.

Plenty of such suggestions were given, and OP if I recall correctly had a proposed course of action. A follow-up would be nice ;-)

 

[schuits]

Follow up:

It hasn't gotten much better, or much worse. But I think being at work I don't really have a good idea of how much he plays.

When I'm home I limit his game time. Also he's now homeschooling so there's a rule, no gaming before 15h30.
He seems to be screaming at the PC less.

The wife keeps suggesting I do things limit his play time. So I keep on reminding her, we are the parents, he's the child. We shouldn't revert to sneaky tricks to limit his game time, he should just listen to us.

 

[GoB]

The wife keeps suggesting I do things limit his play time. So I keep on reminding her, we are the parents, he's the child. We shouldn't revert to sneaky tricks to limit his game time, he should just listen to us.

The last system which my son didn't follow and resulted in the ban, was that he needed to write down start/end times.

 

[acidrain]

After a while all I needed was to hear the snap and I would beg for mercy and fix my ways. Alas times have changed but looking back on my beatings, I certainly believe I am better off as a person because of it.

 

[GoB]

After a while all I needed was to hear the snap and I would beg for mercy and fix my ways. Alas times have changed but looking back on my beatings, I certainly believe I am better off as a person because of it.

To be fair, we were simply kicked out into the street when we were on the NES for a few days. Not possible anymore.

 

[eXisor]

OP, I vote for no hidings. Zero.

Time for a confession... I also game, and I'm sometimes also loud. Failing at a particular boss for the umpteenth time, say in one of the Dark Souls games, or being sniped by the same dude in a MMO shooter yet again, is likely to lead to a bit of loud venting. I don't even hear myself. And I'm sure my doctor would say it's good for me to get it out.

Maybe you should accept you've got a passionate gamer on your hands and playing loud noise (his own especially) is probably not going to work: the game is probably just as loud, if not louder.

Either get him setup in the garage, as far from you guys as possible, or encourage him to play at a mates house, (maybe they've got a garage?), or set specific times he can play and then try live with the odd creature that is your child for that time.

Or limit how much fortnite he can play at a time. Not all games make me vent loudly. Most shooters hardly get a peep out of me, and RPGs are downright relaxing if you play them alone.
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[The Voice]

OP, I vote for no hidings. Zero.

Time for a confession... I also game, and I'm sometimes also loud. Failing at a particular boss for the umpteenth time, say in one of the Dark Souls games, or being sniped by the same dude in a MMO shooter yet again, is likely to lead to a bit of loud venting. I don't even hear myself. And I'm sure my doctor would say it's good for me to get it out.

Maybe you should accept you've got a passionate gamer on your hands and playing loud noise (his own especially) is probably not going to work: the game is probably just as loud, if not louder.

Either get him setup in the garage, as far from you guys as possible, or encourage him to play at a mates house, (maybe they've got a garage?), or set specific times he can play and then try live with the odd creature that is your child for that time.

Or limit how much fortnite he can play at a time. Not all games make me vent loudly. Most shooters hardly get a peep out of me, and RPGs are downright relaxing if you play them alone.
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Git gud son

 

[eXisor]

Git gud son

True dat, but even the best get gotten sometimes.
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[Deleted member]

Five Across the eyes...........

 

[Surv0]

So my teenage son is addicted to fortnite. Fine, I guess, I play games too.
The problem is he's constantly shouting at the computer and his friends, like way too loud.
The SO and I are getting tired of reprimanding him.

So I'm writing a system app that will monitor the microphone input levels. When it exceeds the limit I deem acceptable the program takes action. Now at first I thought it would give him 1 warning, and then kill the Fortnite executable. But this will probably just fuel his rage. So instead I have now written it to play back his own microphone input when he starts getting loud. Creating a sort of feedback loop. Any thoughts?

Genius... Would love a video of the first use please....

 

[Marcell1992]

As a fellow Fortnite player, I can agree with extracurricular activities being the best way to reduce aggression. When I was younger, I use to break tons of playstation remotes(10+), and the one that lasted the longest is the one I had when I started playing rugby IRL. It was all good until about 2-3 years ago when I stopped exercising, now I play Fortnite and broke my keyboard a few weeks ago, it was a good sign I need to start doing other things again.

 

[WraithFiend]

Sounds more like people need to learn how to vent aggression properly.

 

[ShloshMalosh]

What you should be doing is telling him how much he sucks.
The reason hes yelling is cos he sucks... he should git gud or get a game more in line with his abilities or you'll delete his fornite acc and uninstall the game cos he isnt worthy of playing it.