Friends called me a Loser because I always order a Margarita pizza?

[Hamster]

Early 20s

Do you know what makes people like me (winners) pick on people like you (los...not wimmers)? The fact that you react to our comments. You get visibly upset when called a loser over your choice of food - winners feed their ego from that reaction. So grow a pair, wink at his girlfriend and become a winner.












OK for realz, are you taking a piss in this thread or seriously getting put down by these guys?

 

[Hamster]

She still has a mother, right?

BWHAHAHAHAHAHA! ****ing LOL!

 

[Arthur]

First: Simply tell your friends that the richness of your inner life is not determined by pizza toppings. Being is ontologically prior to existence.

Second: Expand your horizons. Become adventurous. Few things are as socially regressive as a fastidious eater. Start simple - try a margherita with salami. Next time, add some avo. Experiment. Finding your pizza topping is more important than job or career. In fact, the secret to a happy life is finding the toppings that add taste and texture to the flat pies of ornery existence.

 

[Mr Monty]

Do you know what makes people like me (winners) pick on people like you (los...not wimmers)? The fact that you react to our comments. You get visibly upset when called a loser over your choice of food - winners feed their ego from that reaction. So grow a pair, wink at his girlfriend and become a winner.

That really could be it, but when others are around and its done more than once I don't want to look weak and not respond. So then maybe it comes down to a balancing act? Handle it, but tactfully?

OK for realz, are you taking a piss in this thread or seriously getting put down by these guys?

No, not a joke thread. The first time it happened it got me thinking and I started to prepare a response in case it happened again (hence the analogy).

Then when it did happen I reacted with flare and used the analogy, but I don't think I got the point across. (While still defending my choice of meal).

 

[Quantum Theory]

BWHAHAHAHAHAHA! ****ing LOL!

The only time that response should not be used, is if the mother ran or passed away.

 

[Mr Monty]

Looks at purple robe... Glares at OP :twisted:

LOL, no harm intended.

She still has a mother, right?

Now, that would of been interesting! Well it might of looked childish, if it shows the person that I'm willing to strike as well - then it's win win!

 

[Mr Monty]

First: Simply tell your friends that the richness of your inner life is not determined by pizza toppings. Being is ontologically prior to existence.

Second: Expand your horizons. Become adventurous. Few things are as socially regressive as a fastidious eater. Start simple - try a margherita with salami. Next time, add some avo. Experiment. Finding your pizza topping is more important than job or career. In fact, the secret to a happy life is finding the toppings that add taste and texture to the flat pies of ornery existence.

A philosophical reply like that would have definitely stunned them and put them in their place, which is what I'm looking to do. Nice one!

 

[Hamster]

That really could be it, but when others are around and its done more than once I don't want to look weak and not respond. So then maybe it comes down to a balancing act? Handle it, but tactfully?

Tactfully?! Fine...the ignore it or roll your eyes and tell him it is getting old in front of everybody. You'll lose him as a friend and possibly split your circle of friends but feel very mature about it.

...or you can punch him in the face!


...or tell him you like your pizza simple and dumbed down...like his mom.

 

[Arthur]

"would have" not "would of"

 

[Tinuva]

Hi Tinuva,

It's very interesting that you would bring up that approach.

I like that idea, it resembles the approach of defending myself, but with another angle.

So for example, she would say "You ordered a Margarita pizza again, you're such a loser".

Then would I hit back and say: "You wear purple alot, are you sexually frustrated"?

Would that be along the right lines?

Indeed yes.

Hamster's got a point though. If you defend yourself, you come forth as weak, and people will keep on doing it. Where my approach is to just attack back, and then people back down, which make the come forth as weak to me. The difference is, even though I am a "winner" as Mr Hamster puts it (call him Mr Rat for the sake of this thread), I don't have the need to tease weak people to make myself feel superior, I let people be and just have a good time. Because in a way, people doing that is actually the real weaklings, and for some reason have a desire to feel superior, and that is why they stand down when I make them feel uncomfortable.

 

[Hamster]

Indeed yes.

Hamster's got a point though. If you defend yourself, you come forth as weak, and people will keep on doing it. Where my approach is to just attack back, and then people back down, which make the come forth as weak to me. The difference is, even though I am a "winner" as Mr Hamster puts it (call him Mr Rat for the sake of this thread), I don't have the need to tease weak people to make myself feel superior, I let people be and just have a good time. Because in a way, people doing that is actually the real weaklings, and for some reason have a desire to feel superior, and that is why they stand down when I make them feel uncomfortable.

/FB friend invite sent

 

[JanvN]

Why not just get something meaty?

 

[S1ght]

Dear Mr Monty, instead of feeling offended or worry what people think or say when you order a starter pizza (Margarita pizza), you should find something about that person which could potentially make them feel offended and tease them about that, completely turning the attention away from you, on to them. Ok maybe not offend them, just make them feel uncomfortable.

Terrible advice imo.

Early 20s

Could have fooled me with this thread :|

My advice. If you're really in your 20's, order whatever the heck you like. YOU'RE paying for it and YOU'RE eating it. Stop worrying about them (especially if they're making L shapes on their foreheads)

 

[chrismine]

Calmly, softly and slowly say : efof....

 

[Creag]

Order a Bacon, feta and Avo pizza. You will love it.

Not this ^

@Op, enjoy whatever pizza you like and ignore the people on the side who need to be critical of others in order to get some obscure kick or cheap thrill to get by.

 

[Lycanthrope]

Either stop taking your friends too seriously, get new friends or don't go for pizza with these friends.

There, three simple options, take your pick.

 

[Arthur]

my approach is to just attack back

I beg to differ.

Going on the offensive and attacking back simply reveals a highly defended personality that feels so under threat that it sees a mild jocund rebuke about food as warranting big guns.

Rather smile lightly and say your taste buds are so evolved that you get flavours in the base and mozzarella that send you into spasms of delight. Educate yourself about mozzarella and talk knowledgeably about the way it's made and the regional varieties.

 

[Hamster]

Or order strong gentlemen alcohol with your meal. If you look him straight in the eye and take a sip from your double Black Label on the rocks (Clint Eastwood style) while he is throwing L signs at you - you win, without even saying a word.

 

[Hamster]

Rather smile lightly and say your taste buds are so evolved that you get flavours in the base and mozzarella that send you into spasms of delight. Soft up about mozzarella and talk knowledgeably about the way its made and the regional varieties.

Ghey

 

[Arthur]

Ghey

Time to man up.