Gay marriage. Do the surnames change?

[BinaryJack]

Alrighty then.

 

[upup]

a Friend of mine play at marriages. So this lady came to ask him to play at her wed. So he ask her where her man is. She was sitting next to her. quite a shock.

 

[ShaunSA]

I kept my surname and he kept his. We felt this was a lot simpler and hated the thought of spending our honeymoon at Home Affairs getting the paper work sorted out.

Same here. Sides with me being indian and him afrikaaner white either one of us taking the others surname would have been weird as heck. Same goes for the double barrel thing.

As someone mentioned earlier Home Affairs gives you 3 choices. Keep your own, take your partners or opt for the double barrel.

Must admit that no-one so much as blinks an eyelid when we do official business and indicate married and a males details for spouse.

 

[DigitalSoldier]

Same here. Sides with me being indian and him afrikaaner white either one of us taking the others surname would have been weird as heck. Same goes for the double barrel thing.

As someone mentioned earlier Home Affairs gives you 3 choices. Keep your own, take your partners or opt for the double barrel.

Must admit that no-one so much as blinks an eyelid when we do official business and indicate married and a males details for spouse.

To quote Scrubs:

How pissed off were his parents ?

 

[Ockie]

To quote Scrubs:

How pissed off were his parents ?

I wanted to ask the same thing but did not want to cause offence. Perhaps they are open minded though?

For many Afrikaans families that would be a real double whammy though.

At the end...as long as Shauny is happy then thats all that counts. Its his life to live....not theirs.

 

[MickeyD]

I wanted to ask the same thing but did not want to cause offence. Perhaps they are open minded though?

For many Afrikaans families that would be a real double whammy though.

At the end...as long as Shauny is happy then thats all that counts. Its his life to live....not theirs.

Damn right - who gives a schit??? :twisted:

 

[DigitalSoldier]

I wanted to ask the same thing but did not want to cause offence. Perhaps they are open minded though?

For many Afrikaans families that would be a real double whammy though.

At the end...as long as Shauny is happy then thats all that counts. Its his life to live....not theirs.

Also didn't mean it in an offensive way, but meant as a joke I am Afrikaans and know that some Afrikaaners are still very conservative.

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[ufis]

I believe anyone can legally change their last name, so it's really a matter of preference.

Juice

^this

Surnames do not auto change when you get married. You still have to go to internal affairs to change it - if you want it changed.

kOEKE-lErOUx!

le Rouxemoer?

 

[Juice]

I personally would do the double-barrel thing.

I imagine that would make you sound a bit like our average South African politician...

Juice

 

[Ancalagon]

Thanks. It will be 2 years in October. Was gun-shy at first but now I believe it was the best move I made. Also had sales people ask me what my wife's name was. My reply was a dead-pan "Donovan".

I bet at least a few people will say, "Donovan? Thats an unusual name for a girl."

 

[Occludude]

I bet at least a few people will say, "Donovan? Thats an unusual name for a girl."

Nah. The penny usually drops at that point. Although the oblivious few will burn through a few brain cells before catching on.
I must say I am pleased at the gay-friendly vibe on this forum. Maybe the level of intellect is higher than on forums such as News24.

 

[ShaunSA]

To quote Scrubs:

How pissed off were his parents ?

His dad had already passed away when he came out let alone married a charo lol. Doubt he would have been impressed.

When he took me home I was the first Indian boytjie he had brought home to introduce to his family lol. They were all pretty cool. His mum wasn't impressed initially especially considering she had like his previous white boyfriend quite a lot. But she eventually got over her initial reservations.

Nine years down the line she thinks I am the cat's whiskers and we have an awesome relationship

The fact that my mum feels the same way about him is a huge plus in our relationship

 

[Ockie]

le Rouxemoer?

mwhahahahah

Oh no...that made me laugh so hard now! hehehehe

 

[Ockie]

His dad had already passed away when he came out let alone married a charo lol. Doubt he would have been impressed.

When he took me home I was the first Indian boytjie he had brought home to introduce to his family lol. They were all pretty cool. His mum wasn't impressed initially especially considering she had like his previous white boyfriend quite a lot. But she eventually got over her initial reservations.

Nine years down the line she thinks I am the cat's whiskers and we have an awesome relationship

The fact that my mum feels the same way about him is a huge plus in our relationship

Sweet man! So when you take him home he gets fed curry and when he takes you home you get fed Bobotie! What else is there to life I ask you? hehe

9 years....wow....thumbs up Shauny. May there be many more! *wink*

 

[NativePaul]

How do you change your name?

Hi all

I'm resurrecting a really old thread here because there is so little information online and this is one of the few discussions I could find.

Can anyone tell me how they managed to change their surnames as a man?
I'm a recently married straight man and my wife and I would like to assume a double barreled surname. It is insane how difficult it is to find any information on what a man needs to do for that to happen. Every home affairs official tells me a different story.

Some have said I need to de-register my birth and apply for a new birth certificate in my new name (which can take 2-3 years). That seems really unnecessary.
Others have said it is the same process that women follow when they get married, simply apply for a new ID and passport with a covering letter.

So now I'm turning to the gay community (hopefully more progressive than my straight brethren).
If any men have successfully changed or double-barreled their surnames after marriage, then please let me know how you did that.

Any help would be hugely appreciated!

 

[ponder]

I personally would do the double-barrel thing.

http://www.locksleynet.com/2010/05/27/when-not-to-double-barrel-your-name/

 

[Necuno]

...who is the woman in this marriage?

 

[SoulTax]

Hi all

I'm resurrecting a really old thread here because there is so little information online and this is one of the few discussions I could find.

Can anyone tell me how they managed to change their surnames as a man?
I'm a recently married straight man and my wife and I would like to assume a double barreled surname. It is insane how difficult it is to find any information on what a man needs to do for that to happen. Every home affairs official tells me a different story.

Some have said I need to de-register my birth and apply for a new birth certificate in my new name (which can take 2-3 years). That seems really unnecessary.
Others have said it is the same process that women follow when they get married, simply apply for a new ID and passport with a covering letter.

So now I'm turning to the gay community (hopefully more progressive than my straight brethren).
If any men have successfully changed or double-barreled their surnames after marriage, then please let me know how you did that.

Any help would be hugely appreciated!

Logic says that it should be the same as with the woman. She is going through a name change due to her marriage. You are doing the same thing. You should both have the same red tape and hoops to jump through. Anything else would be gender discrimination.
Although Logic and South African Law do not always go hand in hand.

The one thing I do know, you will not need to deregister your birth. Dont listen to the imbecile that spouts that kind of crap. Most of the Home Affairs people couldn't quote the correct procedure for taking a piss. Unfortunately they do seem to know the correct procedure for breathing, or our lives would be greatly enriched.

I imagine the name change due to marriage form is generic. IE, it asks for your gender, it asks for your partners name etc.... It wouldn't simply assume that you are a woman.

 

[ponder]

Can anyone tell me how they managed to change their surnames as a man?

For the googely challenged.

http://www.home-affairs.gov.za/index.php/amendments

Assuming a different surname (Section 26 of Births and Deaths Registration Act, 1992)

A woman may assume her husband's surname, or revert to her maiden surname or a prior surname she legally bore, and since 1997 a woman may also join her surname with that of her husband's as a double-barreled surname.

No application to the Department of Home Affairs is necessary in these instances, but to enable the Department to update the Population Register, women should notify the Department of such changes in writing.

Apart from the aforesaid exclusions, no major may assume another surname unless such change of surname has been approved by the Director-General of Home Affairs and has been published in the Government Gazette. Applications in this regard may be lodged at any domestic Home Affairs office or any South African embassy, mission or consulate abroad.

Applications must be on a duly completed Form BI-196 and a good and sufficient reason, in writing, for the change must be furnished.

http://www.southafrica-newyork.net/homeaffairs/personalamendment.htm

Application to Assume Another Surname

Checklist of Documents to be Submitted:

Form BI-196 (majors), Form BI-193 (minors), Application to Assume Another Surname
Form BI-795, Affidavit for the Insertion of a Surname (if registered without a surname or if adding a surname to an existing surname);
Form BI 24, Notice of Birth, to indicate the surname to be assumed;
Certified copy of Birth Certificate
Certified copy of Statutory Declaration, Adoption Papers and Court Order or in the absence of these an affidavit motivating the necessity of the change of surname.
Administrative fee of $36.00 for majors, $8.00 for minors in money order payable to the appropriate South African representative office. No personal checks will be accepted.

 

[STS]

Nah. The penny usually drops at that point. Although the oblivious few will burn through a few brain cells before catching on.
I must say I am pleased at the gay-friendly vibe on this forum. Maybe the level of intellect is higher than on forums such as News24.

The best reply I've ever heard was "Oh, hi ThisismywifeAnne, that is such an unusual name, are you roomates?"