Gay marriage. Do the surnames change?

[Ockie]

We did it for the legal/financial reasons otherwise we wouldn't have bothered tbh. A piece of paper doesn't make a relationship. Something a lot of heterosexual couples need to realise.

How romantic. Do you give him a pair of work socks for Valentines also?

 

[ShaunSA]

How romantic. Do you give him a pair of work socks for Valentines also?

Something like that except more techno-gadget than socks

He lives in hope that one day I will become a romantic like him. Sadly I think he is destined to be forever disappointed

I did buy him a chocolate once!

 

[Ockie]

I did buy him a chocolate once!

What, one of those PS chocolates? What was the message on it? "PS: Bend over and not a sound!? ?

 

[Nick333]

We did it for the legal/financial reasons otherwise we wouldn't have bothered tbh. A piece of paper doesn't make a relationship. Something a lot of heterosexual couples need to realise.

Gays lecturing straights on marriage? Now we know for sure that the leftist agenda has come to fruition.

You're married? For some reason I would never have pictured it.

 

[Zewp]

Like Ockie, I'd also like to get married for the sentimental value that comes with it. There's not really any need for gay guys to do it, but it will still be nice. Just living together won't quite feel the same as having a day where you can invite all your family and friends to share in it.

Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned that way.

 

[Lycanthrope]

There's not really any need for gay guys to do it...

*pricks ears*

I need to ask... Is there any less a need for gay guys to get married than there is for straight couples?

 

[USZA]

*pricks ears*

I need to ask... Is there any less a need for gay guys to get married than there is for straight couples?

One of the reasons, and not necessarily a primary one . . .

Procreation.

We can't, but we have a hell of a lot of fun trying

 

[Aghori]

I can picture ockie and marine1 tying his knot together in the pulpit

 

[ShaunSA]

Like Ockie, I'd also like to get married for the sentimental value that comes with it. There's not really any need for gay guys to do it, but it will still be nice. Just living together won't quite feel the same as having a day where you can invite all your family and friends to share in it.

Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned that way.

Two major reasons. Legal and financial

 

[Chevauxza]

A piece of paper doesn't make a relationship. Something a lot of heterosexual couples need to realise.

Exactly how I feel. One of the things I have thought about though is that if he were ever involved in an accident, I apparently wouldn't be allowed access to visit in high care as I wouldn't be considered "Family" (in spite of us being "Family" in more ways than one ). That and also if one of us were to die, I understand being married would simplify the estate process.

 

[ShaunSA]

Exactly how I feel. One of the things I have thought about though is that if he were ever involved in an accident, I apparently wouldn't be allowed access to visit in high care as I wouldn't be considered "Family" (in spite of us being "Family" in more ways than one ). That and also if one of us were to die, I understand being married would simplify the estate process.

One of our major considerations was that we couldn't make a joint will.

Also as much as I love my family he knows best how I want to be disposed off and will stick to my wishes

 

[Ockie]

how I want to be disposed off

Jirre Shaun.....always the romatic ey!

 

[ShaunSA]

Jirre Shaun.....always the romatic ey!

I have a bone... but it isn't romantic

 

[Zewp]

*pricks ears*

I need to ask... Is there any less a need for gay guys to get married than there is for straight couples?

I guess there's no more reason for straight couples to get married than gay couples, but marriage has always been a more heterosexual thing. Many of the gay guys I meet are of the opinion that marriage is something to be left to straight people.

 

[Nick333]

I guess there's no more reason for straight couples to get married than gay couples, but marriage has always been a more heterosexual thing. Many of the gay guys I meet are of the opinion that marriage is something to be left to straight people.

Aside from child rearing I can't see any reason for marriage that isn't sentimental and a bit silly to be honest. No one stays together because a divorce would be too expensive.

 

[Lycanthrope]

I guess there's no more reason for straight couples to get married than gay couples, but marriage has always been a more heterosexual thing. Many of the gay guys I meet are of the opinion that marriage is something to be left to straight people.

That's a bit narrow-minded of them.

Aside from child rearing I can't see any reason for marriage that isn't sentimental and a bit silly to be honest. No one stays together because a divorce would be too expensive.

The simple fact that you have more rights and protection regarding your spouse goes a long way. Imagine arriving at a hospital and being told that you can't see your loved one because you are not considered "family."

Immigration is another aspect--governments are a lot more inclined to respect the seriousness of a relationship by way of marriage than they are one of convenience.

Insurance/financial/disability/medical/whatever benefits.

Adoption, legal status with any step-children, being able to make medical decision on behalf of your spouse, inheritance, etc.

Marriage is hardly just a "silly thing."

As I said in my earlier post--marriage affords many rights, responsibilities, etc and offers protection and respect in the eyes of the government/law/whatever.

 

[Necuno]

So who is the woman in this marriage ?

 

[Nick333]

The simple fact that you have more rights and protection regarding your spouse goes a long way. Imagine arriving at a hospital and being told that you can't see your loved one because you are not considered "family."

Immigration is another aspect--governments are a lot more inclined to respect the seriousness of a relationship by way of marriage than they are one of convenience.

Insurance/financial/disability/medical/whatever benefits.

Adoption, legal status with any step-children, being able to make medical decision on behalf of your spouse, inheritance, etc.

Marriage is hardly just a "silly thing."

As I said in my earlier post--marriage affords many rights, responsibilities, etc and offers protection and respect in the eyes of the government/law/whatever.

Adoption and legal status with step-children falls under the child rearing consideration but, that aside, out of all your points the only two I think have much merit are immigration and medical decisions (not including refusing life support).

I'm pretty sure the rest could be resolved by keeping an up to date will and living will and naming your partner as a beneficiary or dependent in insurance/financial/disability/medical/whatever benefits.

 

[NativePaul]

So who is the woman in this marriage ?

Is this directed at me? My wife is the woman in our marriage.
The woman is the one with the v-a-g-i-n-a. Some marriages have one woman, some have two, some have none. Hope that's not too challenging for you to understand.

 

[Necuno]

Is this directed at me? My wife is the woman in our marriage.
The woman is the one with the v-a-g-i-n-a. Some marriages have one woman, some have two, some have none. Hope that's not too challenging for you to understand.

For real?