In that case you may want to consider waiting until you've moved in before buying an inverter. If I were in your shoes my first step would be to decide whether I want three-phase in my house. AFAIK you pay a premium for a three-phase connection, so converting it to a single-phase will probably save you money on your electricity bill.
Most houses have a 63 A mains circuit breaker, which will give you about > 13 kW to play around with. Unless you're planning on running multiple heavy loads simultaneously 13 kW should be enough. Changing the wiring in your DB from three-phase to single-phase should be pretty simple, and then you can stick to a single-phase inverter. If your peak demand is more than 13 kW you can always try to determine which of your loads are so heavy and either decrease them (e.g. a smaller geyser element), or spread them out via timers to make sure that the heavy loads don't run simultaneously.
Disclaimer: I'm a Victron fan, so I'll punt Victron for you.
The Victron Multiplus range can be used in a three-phase configuration, but you will need three of them, making it pretty expensive.