How many friends do you have?

[Jehosefat]

2 really close friends (neither of whom still live in Joburg unfortunately) then about 10-15 reasonably close friends (most of whom are still in Joburg) that I hang out with on a fairly regular basis.

 

[satanboy]

Regarding the damaged friendships, would you initiate repairing them?

One of them I tried. It worked out great for about 2 years, then the lies started. Gave up on that one. If we see each other at gatherings we chat and have a drink together, no problem. I don't dislike them. I just don't see them as real friends anymore.
The other one has become a superficial friendship and I will leave it in their hands to move to the next level. If they don't want to, it's fine.

 

[thestaggy]

looking at the results we have some lonely mofos here

This may be a sweeping generalisation, but I have always suspected that the average forum user is on the less sociable side or doesn't have many social outlets.

 

[Demented!]

This may be a sweeping generalisation, but I have always suspected that the average forum user is on the less sociable side or doesn't have many social outlets.

This is true

 

[Pineapple Smurf]

This may be a sweeping generalisation, but I have always suspected that the average forum user is on the less sociable side or doesn't have many social outlets.

could be, i come to the forum to get away from my friends and aquaintances

 

[satanboy]

I don't even visit my mother unannounced. If that were my criteria I wouldn't have any friends.

I never visit anyone unannounced....I just mean that no invitations are needed for a visit.

 

[satanboy]

This may be a sweeping generalisation, but I have always suspected that the average forum user is on the less sociable side or doesn't have many social outlets.

Sounds judgemental.

 

[Matt91]

1 best friend who I've had for 13+ years but even then, our friendship isn't like it used to be, granted we do live in different provinces now. I find it difficult to make meaningful friendships as an adult.

 

[Hemi300c]

Enough

 

[satanboy]

True story:
Our friends contacted us and stated that they wanted to discuss something with us. It was something that concerned them. Took us aback. So we accepted the invitation to come over for drinks and the discussion.

We arrived to find another coupe there. So we thought they just popped in earlier and would leave. Nope incorrect. More than 10 other people also arrived shortly thereafter and it was a drinking session and braai.

We were a bit shocked by this. So the next day we contacted them and asked what had happened to the discussion. Their response was, don't worry it wasn't important.

What would you make of this situation?

 

[ArmatageShanks]

Friends in my mind are as simple as someone you like spending time with whom you do not want to fsck. That excludes best or very close friends.

 

[ArmatageShanks]

True story:
Our friends contacted us and stated that they wanted to discuss something with us. It was something that concerned them. Took us aback. So we accepted the invitation to come over for drinks and the discussion.

We arrived to find another coupe there. So we thought they just popped in earlier and would leave. Nope incorrect. More than 10 other people also arrived shortly thereafter and it was a drinking session and braai.

We were a bit shocked by this. So the next day we contacted them and asked what had happened to the discussion. Their response was, don't worry it wasn't important.

What would you make of this situation?

They probably did that because if they phoned and asked do you want to come for a braai and meet some of our other friends you would have said no.

 

[KleinBoontjie]

Think I'm growing to old for having too many friends. Have 1 great friend (SO excluded) and about 5 that for some reason thinks we're bff.
For real, I have a few great friends.

 

[ArmatageShanks]

could be, i come to the forum to get away from my friends and aquaintances

+1

 

[Goosfrabba]

Imaginary included?

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

True story:
Our friends contacted us and stated that they wanted to discuss something with us. It was something that concerned them. Took us aback. So we accepted the invitation to come over for drinks and the discussion.

We arrived to find another coupe there. So we thought they just popped in earlier and would leave. Nope incorrect. More than 10 other people also arrived shortly thereafter and it was a drinking session and braai.

We were a bit shocked by this. So the next day we contacted them and asked what had happened to the discussion. Their response was, don't worry it wasn't important.

What would you make of this situation?

Failed intervention....

 

[pinball wizard]

Not really a social person. Prefer the company of my SO and that's about it tbh.

Ditto. And she has enough friends so I have those ones vicariously as well.

 

[mushroom]

the kwai thing bout staying by a kallit area like serepta is you have the hele brasse and we all stiek8 when the brasse braai on the weekend thats also how you meet kinnes

 

[PsYTraNc3]

Used to have many.
Now only 1friend (besides the wife and dogs ) and a few acquaintances

 

[ShaunSA]

Ditto. And she has enough friends so I have those ones vicariously as well.

Same here. SO forces me to socialise and then I do enjoy it a bit. But only in small doses