How to mess what could have been a good relationship in 5 min.

[b_crazy]

Not a good idea to start any relationship with a lie.

I would never date a devoutly religious, conservative woman. My sense of humour (toilet) and music tastes (hard rock, metal, punk etc) would have her reaching for her Bible within the first 10 minutes. Imagine getting home and she's burnt all your AC/DC CDs? Imagine her face when you pull out your stash of couples' porn DVDs for movie night? I want someone whose mind is as dirty as mine.

You can tell a harmless little "lie" about something like this. I've met girls that do go to church every other weekend.
She: "Do you go to church?
Me: "No"
She: "Oh, why not?"
Me: "I just don't babe, no reason in particular. So you're going to church this Sunday?"
She: "Yes, wanna join me?"
Me: "Maybe another time. But don't forget to pray for me."
[PAUSE]
Me: "So I know this great place that makes awesome sandwiches. Let's go check it out."

Notice I didn't really lie, but I was kinda adamant I'm not a part of it without making her feel bad about it, and going into a religious discussion that makes it seem I think she is delusional and stupid. No hard feelings, and life really does go on. It's not the end of the world.


Edit: She'll still try to get you to go at another time, but meanwhile....SEXY TIME!

 

[OrbitalDawn]

You can tell a harmless little "lie" about something like this. I've met girls that do go to church every other weekend.
She: "Do you go to church?
Me: "No"
She: "Oh, why not?"
Me: "I just don't babe, no reason in particular. So you're going to church this Sunday?"
She: "Yes, wanna join me?"
Me: "Maybe another time. But don't forget to pray for me."
[PAUSE]
Me: "So I know this great place that makes awesome sandwiches. Let's go check it out."

Notice I didn't really lie, but I was kinda adamant I'm not a part of it without making her feel bad about it, and going into a religious discussion that makes it seem I think she is delusional and stupid. No hard feelings, and life really does go on. It's not the end of the world.


Edit: She'll still try to get you to go at another time, but meanwhile....SEXY TIME!

Point is, for a quick bonk this is fine. But if you actually want to have a relationship with this person then it won't really work.

 

[I.am.Sam]

Point is, for a quick bonk this is fine. But if you actually want to have a relationship with this person then it won't really work.

why not when she goes to church you sleep later on sunday mornings ..if she goes to church on NYE you party with friends

 

[b_crazy]

Point is, for a quick bonk this is fine. But if you actually want to have a relationship with this person then it won't really work.

You can drag it 'til the relationship is established, and by this point if she isn't "getting it", then tell her outright that you don't mind if she goes to church, but you don't want to.

Edit: At the end of it all, you never really lied, but you refused to do something you're not comfortable with.

 

[Noob-Noob]

Point is, for a quick bonk this is fine. But if you actually want to have a relationship with this person then it won't really work.

But why not, why do Christian people always try to push you into their religion, why MUST i also be a Christian for u's to date or get along?, i don’t get why she can’t just follow her believes and I’ll follow mine.

 

[Nick333]

I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with someone religious enough to care about my beliefs or lack there of.

 

[Lordpiet]

Don't lie. It will lead to more trouble than it is worth.

no he could have done what most gay guys do . . . live with the lie and ones he really can't take it anymore tell her you changed . . .

but ye sorry to hear that better now then in 6 months or so . . .

 

[DrewChan]

Tell the religious girl that you're an atheist, instead of lying to her.

/sigh.

I didn't read the thread yet - only the first post- if she couldn't comprimise with the fact that you're atheist she's not worth it.
Close minded people

 

[TJ99]

It wouldn't have been a good relationship. If she's that serious about religion it would probably have ended up as a nightmare eventually.

 

[Lordpiet]

My wife's Christian and we're doing OK - although more and more I notice her not going to church, so I think I'm rubbing off on her.

I think if two people really want to they can make it work, as long as you're just respecting each other's choices.

edit:typos and grammar

yes but do you have kids?? because that is where the problem will come in . . .

 

[bwana]

yes but do you have kids?? because that is where the problem will come in . . .

I have two and haven't experienced any problems yet.

 

[Lordpiet]

or marry STS

hahahaha +2

 

[Lordpiet]

I have two and haven't experienced any problems yet.

ok so you see it can work . . .

 

[STS]

or marry STS

he's not my type

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

Tell the religious girl that you're an atheist, instead of lying to her.

/sigh.

Not worth your time anyway if she has an issue with it.

Unless you're just trying to bonk her, in which case you don't say anything at all...

 

[SoulTax]

My wife identifies herself as Christian. Although she has not been to church once in the 10 years that we have been together. She is more of the "Indoctrinated by family, so I will call myself a Christian to simplify things, and I like the Christian family values" kind of person. Also she does believe in God, although when asked, it is not specifically the Biblical God that she believes in, just that everything must have come from somewhere argument.

Without getting too sidetracked, it is entirely possible to have a successful relationship with a religious person. Although I would suggest limiting it to the type that does not attend church or base their life on these things.

 

[copacetic]

Obviously if it's not an issue to either party involved, it's no problem.

It would be an issue for me, and I make no secret of that, but so what? It's just one of many criteria we may use when looking for a partner.

If I had kids with a religious person, I would not let them go to church until they are old enough to make that decision themselves (14/16?), and how would that work with someone expecting to take kids to Sunday school from when they are little tykes, etc...

 

[OrbitalDawn]

why not when she goes to church you sleep later on sunday mornings ..if she goes to church on NYE you party with friends

You can drag it 'til the relationship is established, and by this point if she isn't "getting it", then tell her outright that you don't mind if she goes to church, but you don't want to.

Edit: At the end of it all, you never really lied, but you refused to do something you're not comfortable with.

There's more to it than just not going to church. Especially since it's become something of a trend to eschew church and adopt the whole having a "relationship" with Jesus angle.

But why not, why do Christian people always try to push you into their religion, why MUST i also be a Christian for u's to date or get along?, i don’t get why she can’t just follow her believes and I’ll follow mine.

Depends how religious she is. If she actually believes the Christian doctrine then she has to believe you're destined for an eternity in fire and brimstone. She could also the choose not to associate with an unbeliever as she might fear you'd try and lead her astray. Or her family might, which could be equally as damaging to any real prospects for the relationship.

Same goes for you, would you be able to put up with someone who blames the devil when something goes wrong and thinks prayer is effective?

 

[RiaX]

Tits and arse can overcome most obstacles.

+1

 

[w1z4rd]

My wife is a non-religious liberal. I have a very loving and peaceful relationship. You dont need to compromise. Others are welcome to the crazy superstitious ones