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[satanboy]

I have my matric dance on dvd :erm:

loooooser!

 

[abandonallhope]

I'm not sure what you mean by grow up? Be more responsible? You mean follow a path that society says you must follow? Grow pubes? Hit the gym? Take on responsibilities that will drive me into debt? Please define what you mean by grow up.

That depends. If you got yourself into debt (house/car/flat/etc) and the only way to keep yourself above water is to keep on making more money then yes, I can see that could be quite stressful. I chose a simpler life and I never put myself into debt to buy stuff I can't afford (except for plane tickets twice a year). I don't have things most 29 year olds have, but I also see the stress my friends go through and I don't think it's worth it. I have a regular part-time job in corporate that keeps my head above water, a bit of savings, and a pension plan. I pick up extra work which helps grow my creative skills (writing/illustration/other media related work) since this is what I am slowly growing into a career.

So you don't have any ambitions beyond living from hand to mouth ?

The very least responsibility you should have is to want to make your own living and not depend on falling back onto your parents like one does in school.

Again. You seem to think that the way you were bullied (if you were bullied at all) is the defacto. For example: for two years I had a guy and two of his buddies come looking for me after school (not all the time but enough that I had to make sure I was someplace safe until they left the school grounds). As a kid, the constant threat of physical and emotional violence can weigh on you pretty damn heavily. At least I didn't have to deal with that once the main guy got expelled. And this is just one example of two years of my awesome school life.

Bullied at school is an excuse. Seriously.

Um. So do your job to the best of your ability and chances are good you won't get fired?

And that's a responsibility champ, if you don't take that seriously in school your parents are still there. When you want to make your own living, you have no other option but to take it seriously.

But then again, the corporate world is such these days that even the idea of a "permanent position" is a bit of a joke.

Another excuse.

Again, no debt makes your career far less stressful.

Ok Bro. I have a steady job, and don't have a single cent of debt, are you saying I should save up until I can buy property with cash ?

TLDR: as an adult you have WAY more control over your life than you do as a child. As an adult I can limit and deal with the stress that comes into my life. As a child? Yeah, not so much.

And as an adult I have a dream, to have my own little spot under the sun and scratch out a living on my own. That involves buying property, that necessarily causes at least a bit of stress.

 

[thestaggy]

I do not miss my school years. Had to get lifts everywhere, needed permission to do anything, curfews, no thanks.

I will be attending my 10-year reunion this year. I'm not expecting anything to be different, but will just go and hang around for a bit.

 

[zolly]

@abandonallhope

So you don't have any ambitions beyond living from hand to mouth ?

The very least responsibility you should have is to want to make your own living and not depend on falling back onto your parents like one does in school.

I only really had one question that you needed to answer. What do you mean by grow up?

You couldn't give me a solid answer so you changed it to being a question of ambition, to which I will respond. Ambition can exist without short/medium term compensation in terms of finances, and with the possibility that these projects will fail completely, but this is the way I choose to pursue my career. Much better to do that than be some bitter wage slave which seems to be the case for a lot of my friends.

Bullied at school is an excuse. Seriously.

I'm not sure what you mean. I pointed out my experiences in school as being bad for particular reasons and gave you an example. In one of my previous posts I also point out two work situations that were stressful but these were isolated incidents compared to school which was pretty bad most of the time. Again, not sure what the excuse comment has to do with my experience of school.

Another excuse.

I'm not sure what you mean here? I'm guessing it ties into your idea of "growing up" but as I have said before I pay my own way so maybe I'm missing your point.

Ok Bro. I have a steady job, and don't have a single cent of debt, are you saying I should save up until I can buy property with cash ?

No. That would be stupid. I am quite happy to rent for now but if you want to buy property, I am going to highlight one simple fact: that is your CHOICE. You want the property, you choose to deal with all the stress and bs that comes with it. You ACCEPT that if you want to buy certain things that you are going to have to take on the financial pressure of making monthly payments. As a child, more often than not, you can't control the stress that comes into your life. As an adult, you have far more control over it.

Which brings me back to my original point: as an adult, a lot of stress is "self-inflicted". My experience of school is that a lot of the stress that was caused was COMPLETELY out of my control, which is why I never want to go back.

@OP Don't look back. Keep moving forward. Good luck to you and your lady.

 

[abandonallhope]

@abandonallhope

I only really had one question that you needed to answer. What do you mean by grow up?

Geez. Finishing school and be financially independent. As I mentioned previously, but in a very cryptic and ambiguous manner.

With most people along with it comes ambitions. No, it's not owning a boat and a holiday house. You can't just drift through life and avoid all the tough choices.

Much better to do that than be some bitter wage slave which seems to be the case for a lot of my friends.

What a flattering thing to say about your friends.

Looks like you won't really care if you lose your job then.

 

[Celine]

yep got the invite , same night as Gf'S birthday party

Yeah maybe i will find something new to do etc, just thought it would be nice to have it again


Yeah i know its called Matric Dance here , just thought it is better English word to use , most people call soccer , football anyway

most people grow up.

 

[abandonallhope]

most people grow up.

I know of at least one person who will need "growing up" defined.