Sign up with GoogleA friend of mine hooked up with a girl during lockdown from online dating, and while he liked her enough to sleep with her, he didn't like her enough to consider serious relationship material. However, she said she was on the pill and somehow ended up pregnant (I'm guessing he didn't use condoms). She refused to have an abortion, and after some soul searching he decided he's happy to provide and look after his kid, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with the mother.
Needless to say things have gotten messy.
Which brings me to my topic of discussion: I'm guessing I'm in the minority here, but I'll actually go months into a relationship without having full blown sex (even with both of us using protection). I'll do everything to lower my risk of accidentally knocking a girl up and then being stuck with her early on, while still having enough fun to keep me sane (I've been lucky enough so far to date women who don't want children, and my long-term partner doesn't want children AT ALL). This is for a number of reasons:
1) I don't want kids. I enjoy my life (for the most part) and don't want to raise a child (have been dealing with a problematic dog recently, and that's enough work). I like having time to do my own thing and when you have kids, their needs become your number one priority.
2) I don't want to be trapped in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship like my parents, and like some of my friends – having a kid ties you to a person, whether you like it or not.
3) Kids are expensive!
This made me wonder how many people here are probably super cautious when it comes to this sort of thing? Considering stories from most of my friends (male and female), I feel like I'm really in the minority.
Needless to say things have gotten messy.
Which brings me to my topic of discussion: I'm guessing I'm in the minority here, but I'll actually go months into a relationship without having full blown sex (even with both of us using protection). I'll do everything to lower my risk of accidentally knocking a girl up and then being stuck with her early on, while still having enough fun to keep me sane (I've been lucky enough so far to date women who don't want children, and my long-term partner doesn't want children AT ALL). This is for a number of reasons:
1) I don't want kids. I enjoy my life (for the most part) and don't want to raise a child (have been dealing with a problematic dog recently, and that's enough work). I like having time to do my own thing and when you have kids, their needs become your number one priority.
2) I don't want to be trapped in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship like my parents, and like some of my friends – having a kid ties you to a person, whether you like it or not.
3) Kids are expensive!
This made me wonder how many people here are probably super cautious when it comes to this sort of thing? Considering stories from most of my friends (male and female), I feel like I'm really in the minority.
