How tough did/do you screen potential sexual partners?

Polymathic

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zolly said:
A friend of mine hooked up with a girl during lockdown from online dating, and while he liked her enough to sleep with her, he didn't like her enough to consider serious relationship material. However, she said she was on the pill and somehow ended up pregnant (I'm guessing he didn't use condoms). She refused to have an abortion, and after some soul searching he decided he's happy to provide and look after his kid, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with the mother.

Needless to say things have gotten messy.

Which brings me to my topic of discussion: I'm guessing I'm in the minority here, but I'll actually go months into a relationship without having full blown sex (even with both of us using protection). I'll do everything to lower my risk of accidentally knocking a girl up and then being stuck with her early on, while still having enough fun to keep me sane (I've been lucky enough so far to date women who don't want children, and my long-term partner doesn't want children AT ALL). This is for a number of reasons:

1) I don't want kids. I enjoy my life (for the most part) and don't want to raise a child (have been dealing with a problematic dog recently, and that's enough work). I like having time to do my own thing and when you have kids, their needs become your number one priority.

2) I don't want to be trapped in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship like my parents, and like some of my friends – having a kid ties you to a person, whether you like it or not.

3) Kids are expensive!

This made me wonder how many people here are probably super cautious when it comes to this sort of thing? Considering stories from most of my friends (male and female), I feel like I'm really in the minority.
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Similar thing happened to a friend of mine. Ended up marrying her and last time I saw him he was pussy whipped guy who spends his evenings alone sipping on whiskey not allowed to have any friends
 
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Your mate should definitely require a paternity test. Also if you are gonna have casual sex never trust the other party to do the birth control. Like dr House says people lie and that lie can change your life forever. So do it yourself.

Not that I have any experience, I have only had a single sexual partner my whole life and we waited till married.
 
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jdido87 said:
Correct we have two and my wife was on the pill with both.
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I impregnated my first ever "lover", her name was Rosie and I impregnated her and her five sisters multiple times... Rosie Palmer. Maybe you've heard of her??
 
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sand_man said:
I impregnated my first ever "lover", her name was Rosie and I impregnated her and her five sisters multiple times... Rosie Palmer. Maybe you've heard of her??
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Why did you keep on cumming in your hand?

Also, after how many times of behavior did you pull a @Ninja'd ?
 
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epah said:
maybe your wife wasnt really on the pill, she wanted to lock you in, how much money do you have?
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My son was a surprise baby as my ex had her contraceptive injection in front of me and was on the pill, so it's definitely not a complete impossibility.
 
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Polymathic said:
Similar thing happened to a friend of mine. Ended up marrying her and last time I saw him he was pussy whipped guy who spends his evenings alone sipping on whiskey not allowed to have any friends
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Do I know you? :oops:
 
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zolly said:
A friend of mine hooked up with a girl during lockdown from online dating, and while he liked her enough to sleep with her, he didn't like her enough to consider serious relationship material. However, she said she was on the pill and somehow ended up pregnant (I'm guessing he didn't use condoms). She refused to have an abortion, and after some soul searching he decided he's happy to provide and look after his kid, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with the mother.

Needless to say things have gotten messy.

Which brings me to my topic of discussion: I'm guessing I'm in the minority here, but I'll actually go months into a relationship without having full blown sex (even with both of us using protection). I'll do everything to lower my risk of accidentally knocking a girl up and then being stuck with her early on, while still having enough fun to keep me sane (I've been lucky enough so far to date women who don't want children, and my long-term partner doesn't want children AT ALL). This is for a number of reasons:

1) I don't want kids. I enjoy my life (for the most part) and don't want to raise a child (have been dealing with a problematic dog recently, and that's enough work). I like having time to do my own thing and when you have kids, their needs become your number one priority.

2) I don't want to be trapped in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship like my parents, and like some of my friends – having a kid ties you to a person, whether you like it or not.

3) Kids are expensive!

This made me wonder how many people here are probably super cautious when it comes to this sort of thing? Considering stories from most of my friends (male and female), I feel like I'm really in the minority.
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So I wanted kids but obviously not to have one when I was young and still studying... which case I think most people fall into the category of "not now not with this person"

So its hardly odd to not want kids when you are still young an banging.

Your friend should get a paternity test just to establish what exactly is happening here.
 
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