How tough did/do you screen potential sexual partners?

[Rocket-Boy]

Im amazed in this day and age that people will have unprotected sex with strangers.
@zolly sadly your friend deserves what he gets for being dumb. He can *hopefully* count his blessings that he didnt pick up an STI from his one evening of fun.

 

[The_Mowgs]

Im amazed in this day and age that people will have unprotected sex with strangers.
@zolly sadly your friend deserves what he gets for being dumb. He can *hopefully* count his blessings that he didnt pick up an STI from his one evening of fun.

`friend`

 

[Rocket-Boy]

Your friend should get a paternity test just to establish what exactly is happening here.

Good idea.
When I was a lot younger there was a girl I was kinda interested in, not enough to want to pursue anything, but still interested.
She had recently broken up with her boyfriend and came over one night. She literally was trying to throw herself at me and I wasnt keen, it all felt very weird.

Two week later it came out that she was pregnant and was most likely going to try pin that on me.

So yeah, OP, get your mate to insist on that paternity test. It might scare a confession out if it isnt his kid.

 

[Herr der Verboten]

A friend of mine hooked up with a girl during lockdown from online dating, and while he liked her enough to sleep with her, he didn't like her enough to consider serious relationship material. However, she said she was on the pill and somehow ended up pregnant (I'm guessing he didn't use condoms). She refused to have an abortion, and after some soul searching he decided he's happy to provide and look after his kid, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with the mother.

Needless to say things have gotten messy.

Which brings me to my topic of discussion: I'm guessing I'm in the minority here, but I'll actually go months into a relationship without having full blown sex (even with both of us using protection). I'll do everything to lower my risk of accidentally knocking a girl up and then being stuck with her early on, while still having enough fun to keep me sane (I've been lucky enough so far to date women who don't want children, and my long-term partner doesn't want children AT ALL). This is for a number of reasons:

1) I don't want kids. I enjoy my life (for the most part) and don't want to raise a child (have been dealing with a problematic dog recently, and that's enough work). I like having time to do my own thing and when you have kids, their needs become your number one priority.

2) I don't want to be trapped in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship like my parents, and like some of my friends – having a kid ties you to a person, whether you like it or not.

3) Kids are expensive!

This made me wonder how many people here are probably super cautious when it comes to this sort of thing? Considering stories from most of my friends (male and female), I feel like I'm really in the minority.

What does one call the quick pull out technique: 'hello daddy!'

 

[zolly]

Im amazed in this day and age that people will have unprotected sex with strangers.
@zolly sadly your friend deserves what he gets for being dumb. He can *hopefully* count his blessings that he didnt pick up an STI from his one evening of fun.

He's a friend but I agree entirely. Unprotected sex if you don't want babies is just dumb. Even if you trust your partner and they're on the pill stuff can still go wrong.

 

[3WA]

Sleep with promiscuous girls. Even if you accidentally knock them up, they’re not gonna know who the father is.

 

[Herr der Verboten]

Sleep with promiscuous girls. Even if you accidentally knock them up, they’re not gonna know who the father is.

and sleeping with promiscuous boys
@Pineapple Smurf

 

[3WA]

and sleeping with promiscuous boys
@Pineapple Smurf

If it’s a boy, then you just get a BJ so it’s not too homo.

 

[Herr der Verboten]

If it’s a boy, then you just get a BJ so it’s not too homo.

unless the streams cross

 

[6spdmanual]

Only test I do is the eye test. If it looks good, then we're all good.

 

[rh1]

So I wanted kids but obviously not to have one when I was young and still studying... which case I think most people fall into the category of "not now not with this person"

So its hardly odd to not want kids when you are still young an banging.

Your friend should get a paternity test just to establish what exactly is happening here.

A younger colleague, years ago, came with a story out of the blue, his GF is pregnant. It was out of the blue because he did not have a gf.

Anyway, turns out the week before, a girl he knew from university, contacted him out of the blue, asked if he wants to go out with her younger sister. Which he ends up doing the deed with.

So, he insist it is his child, I asked him and the above is what he said together with this line:

He did the deed and a week later she contacted him that she suspect that she is pregnant as she was nauseus for a few days. This is mid to the end of November.

They go for a test which confirm that she is pregnant.

At this stage, I gave him some advice which he discarded, he was adament that the child was his. I told him then, did you screw before the date he stated, he said no.

Fast forward a few month, the doctor said the baby is quite large for its "age" .

The child is born in beginning of July, at a healthy weight and 1 month before due date.

 

[zolly]

A younger colleague, years ago, came with a story out of the blue, his GF is pregnant. It was out of the blue because he did not have a gf.

Anyway, turns out the week before, a girl he knew from university, contacted him out of the blue, asked if he wants to go out with her younger sister. Which he ends up doing the deed with.

So, he insist it is his child, I asked him and the above is what he said together with this line:

He did the deed and a week later she contacted him that she suspect that she is pregnant as she was nauseus for a few days. This is mid to the end of November.

They go for a test which confirm that she is pregnant.

At this stage, I gave him some advice which he discarded, he was adament that the child was his. I told him then, did you screw before the date he stated, he said no.

Fast forward a few month, the doctor said the baby is quite large for its "age" .

The child is born in beginning of July, at a healthy weight and 1 month before due date.

It's a miracle!

 

[rh1]

It's a miracle!

Yes it is, he ended up marrying her. Not before the following happened:
1. She accused him regularly of cheating.
2. He would come home and she would be on the couch with male friends. They moved into her parents house.

 

[Nerfherder]

A younger colleague, years ago, came with a story out of the blue, his GF is pregnant. It was out of the blue because he did not have a gf.

Anyway, turns out the week before, a girl he knew from university, contacted him out of the blue, asked if he wants to go out with her younger sister. Which he ends up doing the deed with.

So, he insist it is his child, I asked him and the above is what he said together with this line:

He did the deed and a week later she contacted him that she suspect that she is pregnant as she was nauseus for a few days. This is mid to the end of November.

They go for a test which confirm that she is pregnant.

At this stage, I gave him some advice which he discarded, he was adament that the child was his. I told him then, did you screw before the date he stated, he said no.

Fast forward a few month, the doctor said the baby is quite large for its "age" .

The child is born in beginning of July, at a healthy weight and 1 month before due date.

I think with that amount of denial he must have really wanted it.

I mean...for those not understanding - the earliest you would know is 6 weeks. Son, that pie has been baked already.

With all the modern tech available to us now there is no way people can expect to get away with it. The truth will come out.

Also, I sort of get it was an old flame from school. I would perhaps fall for the same but its the sister of the chick he liked... that's quite a jump.

 

[zolly]

Yes it is, he ended up marrying her. Not before the following happened:
1. She accused him regularly of cheating.
2. He would come home and she would be on the couch with male friends. They moved into her parents house.

So many red flags...

 

[zolly]

Also, I sort of get it was an old flame from school. I would perhaps fall for the same but its the sister of the chick he liked... that's quite a jump.

Na man, you date the sister, the sister will talk you up. Like how nice you are, how fun things are in the bedroom, etc. Then next thing you know, your crush is hitting you up for a piece of that! Then the sister walks in both of you getting busy, but she doesn't run away and joins in!

At least, this is what porn has taught me.

 

[gregmcc]

Why do I keep reading the subject as tough dildo

 

[rh1]

Wrong thread, you want the toe thread.

 

[Thugscub]

Party like a demon. Drink way too much, pass out.
Run like the wind when you wake up.

 

[Polymathic]

Personally I find girls that want you spray inside them early doors a bit on mentally disturbed side.