I to tell my roommate and friend I'm moving out?

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Gunner182

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So ja I'm in this dilemma right now.

Let me start off by saying we've been friends our whole life and he recently asked me to look after his place while he was away, he moved back 3 months ago, but I stayed on. I however did hint that I might be moving closer to my work and the only reason for staying was the cheap rent.

I love this guy like a brother, but it feels like I'm living with a pig sometimes. He is messy as F and I'm a bit of a neat freak with slight OCD so you can imagine how I feel.

Anyway colleague/friend of mine asked me to move in with her sometime in April or May. Rent bit more expensive, but in nice secure area and I cut my petrol expense by more than half.

Only reason why I feel bad about moving out is that he recently left his old job and took a pay cut to work at a company where he sees potential growth, which to me was an idiotic move, but hey.

Any advice??:crying:
 
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Gunner182 said:
So ja I'm in this dilemma right now.

Let me start off by saying we've been friends our whole life and he recently asked me to look after his place while he was away, he moved back 3 months ago, but I stayed on. I however did hint that I might be moving closer to my work and the only reason for staying was the cheap rent.

I love this guy like a brother, but it feels like I'm living with a pig sometimes. He is messy as F and I'm a bit of a neat freak with slight OCD so you can imagine how I feel.

Anyway colleague/friend of mine asked me to move in with her sometime in April or May. Rent bit more expensive, but in nice secure area and I cut my petrol expense by more than half.

Only reason why I feel bad about moving out is that he recently left his old job and took a pay cut to work at a company where he sees potential growth, which to me was an idiotic move, but hey.

Any advice??:crying:
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Give him some notice so he can at least try to make other arrangements.
 
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Just be honest and upfront, don't leave it till the last minute.
 
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Sucks, especially since you're such great friends with him. But in the end, you have to look out for yourself and your best interests.

I recommend not delaying in discussing this with him, so if he can't sustain himself after you leave, he'll at least have time to sort himself out.

If he's truly that much of a great friend of yours, he'd understand. If not, well, that says a lot. Thinking of myself in that position, I'd wish you luck,
then do my damnedest best to get myself into gear and ensure I don't fall back after you leave. Simple as that. You can't rely on other people to get by.
 
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I dont understand the problem.

Give him a month's notice like you would anyone else and get on with it.

It's not like you'll change your mind suddenly so it's going to happen regardless. The longer you wait the worse it gets.
 
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I do wanna give him enough time to look for someone yes, but if I need to move in April that gives him half the month to look for someone else and I'm gonna feel like a sack of ****.

I do agree however that you have to lookout for yourself, but we all different and I'm the type of guy who beats himself up over stuff like this.
 
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Gunner182 said:
I do wanna give him enough time to look for someone yes, but if I need to move in April that gives him half the month to look for someone else and I'm gonna feel like a sack of ****.

I do agree however that you have to lookout for yourself, but we all different and I'm the type of guy who beats himself up over stuff like this.
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Sure, we're all different. But there's a reason some are doing better than others. They must be doing something right, surely? :p

All I'm saying is, don't beat yourself up over it. You've got an opportunity at improving your lifestyle a handful. Take it, and enjoy it.

You should beat yourself up, however, if you only mention your move at the last minute. That'd be a dick move. Don't delay, talk with him about the situation. All's done.
 
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Gunner182 said:
I do wanna give him enough time to look for someone yes, but if I need to move in April that gives him half the month to look for someone else and I'm gonna feel like a sack of ****.

I do agree however that you have to lookout for yourself, but we all different and I'm the type of guy who beats himself up over stuff like this.
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Pay him April's rent then and take the knock.
 
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Nerhzelok said:
Sure, we're all different. But there's a reason some are doing better than others. They must be doing something right, surely? :p

All I'm saying is, don't beat yourself up over it. You've got an opportunity at improving your lifestyle a handful. Take it, and enjoy it.

You should beat yourself up, however, if you only mention your move at the last minute. That'd be a dick move. Don't delay, talk with him about the situation. All's done.
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Not a truer word spoken, puts a lot of things into perspective now.

I'll have chat with him on Monday so we can sort this out. Still gonna be hard and our friendship will prob go down the toilet, but if that's the way its supposed to go, so be it. Thanks Guy.
 
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Gunner182 said:
Sheesh, that's a huge knock. If it comes to that I'd prob hold off moving, she can wait a month...
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Well that's the only way you can please everyone.

Otherwise you'll have to be the bad guy to either party.
 
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Since he's such a good mate I would give a month's notice or pay half a month's rent if I was only giving 2 weeks notice. It's the right thing to do.
 
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Sensorei said:
Since he's such a good mate I would give a month's notice or pay half a month's rent if I was only giving 2 weeks notice. It's the right thing to do.
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Ja I will obviously not be douche in this situation. I'll even help him find a new roommate.
 
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