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This is really hard for me to talk about but here goes anyways. I am a male and was sexually abused by Andy Le Monnier (pictured above) at around the age of 7. I tried when I was younger to push this aside and pretend it didn't happen. But it was always there in the back of my mind, reminding me of why I was different.
I grew up always questioning why this happened to me, what I had done to deserve this. I spent half of school life thinking I could have AIDS because of the stigma associated with the disease and gays. I thought the worst every time I got sick, this goes without saying what this did to my self-worth.
I told myself over and over that what he did was a mistake, that he would never do it again. But I know now that that is very seldom true. Child molesters/abusers are repeat offenders. I was so ashamed of what he did to me I was glad no one knew at the time, but in hindsight I really wish someone had picked up the clues.
The turning point came when I had read this online: "There is no end to this man's potential as he specialised working with Down-syndrome children in his line of work as a physiotherapist." This is the sole reason I am coming forward. This struck a chord with me and all the guilt I tried to suppress for not telling anyone and maybe prevent this from happening again came flooding back.
I have spent the passed 6 months trying to report this through the proper authorities, trying to find out what I should do. I was just passed around and around to the next department. I even contacted Child Line who couldn't really understand what I was asking of them, which is very sad. I'm not sure how a child, especially a mentally challenged child who would battle to convey themselves would get help. I contacted OpenDoor as my last attempt and spoke to some very helpful sounding people. I was promised they would do everything in the power to help. Weeks and months went by with me phoning up to find out nothing had been done. Very disappointed, I really hope children are treated with more urgency.
If you notice any changes in your child's behaviour. Don't doubt yourself, get to the root of it. In this instance, you'd much rather be wrong than right only further down the line. Your child's well being is much more important than some adult's pride. Everyone loved Andy, he was charismatic, funny and friendly. He was the last person you would ever expect to do anything like this to a child.
So here is my story for everyone to see. I'm not sure how else to tell it. If you have been abused by Andy Le Monnier or know of someone else that has, you can contact me here. Any correspondence will be treated with the utmost confidentiality. You can also leave an anonymous comment below.
I grew up always questioning why this happened to me, what I had done to deserve this. I spent half of school life thinking I could have AIDS because of the stigma associated with the disease and gays. I thought the worst every time I got sick, this goes without saying what this did to my self-worth.
I told myself over and over that what he did was a mistake, that he would never do it again. But I know now that that is very seldom true. Child molesters/abusers are repeat offenders. I was so ashamed of what he did to me I was glad no one knew at the time, but in hindsight I really wish someone had picked up the clues.
The turning point came when I had read this online: "There is no end to this man's potential as he specialised working with Down-syndrome children in his line of work as a physiotherapist." This is the sole reason I am coming forward. This struck a chord with me and all the guilt I tried to suppress for not telling anyone and maybe prevent this from happening again came flooding back.
I have spent the passed 6 months trying to report this through the proper authorities, trying to find out what I should do. I was just passed around and around to the next department. I even contacted Child Line who couldn't really understand what I was asking of them, which is very sad. I'm not sure how a child, especially a mentally challenged child who would battle to convey themselves would get help. I contacted OpenDoor as my last attempt and spoke to some very helpful sounding people. I was promised they would do everything in the power to help. Weeks and months went by with me phoning up to find out nothing had been done. Very disappointed, I really hope children are treated with more urgency.
If you notice any changes in your child's behaviour. Don't doubt yourself, get to the root of it. In this instance, you'd much rather be wrong than right only further down the line. Your child's well being is much more important than some adult's pride. Everyone loved Andy, he was charismatic, funny and friendly. He was the last person you would ever expect to do anything like this to a child.
So here is my story for everyone to see. I'm not sure how else to tell it. If you have been abused by Andy Le Monnier or know of someone else that has, you can contact me here. Any correspondence will be treated with the utmost confidentiality. You can also leave an anonymous comment below.
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