I'm not having as much fun as I thought I would...

[Mila]

You are not there for fun, Study. After that you can have fun.

 

[Pooky]

You are not there for fun, Study. After that you can have fun.

After that you must find a job and then slave away doing something you hate for the rest of your life.

 

[I.am.Sam]

You are not there for fun, Study. After that you can have fun.

this

i wish i had this advice

After that you must find a job and then slave away doing something you hate for the rest of your life.

this as well

 

[satanboy]

You are not there for fun, Study. After that you can have fun.

My thoughts too....and friends are overrated.

 

[ShaunSA]

My thoughts too....and friends are overrated.

Not if they come with benefits :erm:

 

[I.am.Sam]

Not if they come with benefits :erm:

at campus there is alot

 

[ShaunSA]

at campus there is alot

Pity you never got any

 

[I.am.Sam]

Pity you never got any

thats what you think

 

[DerpiesFreud]

thats what you think

Thats what she said


anyway after my failed attempt at conversation do what I do:
make random small talk....
I walked around barefoot oncampus and asked people where they got their shoes from
I`d also take a picture of a person I know and stare at people "mistakenly" thinking that they were the person I was looking for

my old highschool had 3000 students and I had plenty of friends

failing that start fapping more than usual.
fapping is a proven antidepressant and happy time thing.
else join clubs outside of uniick up chess,tennis,judo,hiking anything

 

[Pooky]

Thats what she said


anyway after my failed attempt at conversation do what I do:
make random small talk....
I walked around barefoot oncampus and asked people where they got their shoes from
I`d also take a picture of a person I know and stare at people "mistakenly" thinking that they were the person I was looking for

my old highschool had 3000 students and I had plenty of friends

failing that start fapping more than usual.
fapping is a proven antidepressant and happy time thing.
else join clubs outside of uniick up chess,tennis,judo,hiking anything

I wish I knew you

 

[Knyro]

Hey don't feel so bad.

I have been at a big University for over 2 years now and haven't made one friend.

University I would say so far has been the worst time of my life.

Wow even the LHC isn't that anti-social :erm:

Just plop yourself next to a random person and start talking about class. Eventually you'll segue into other topics. A few days of idle chit-chat and presto new friends. I know what what a jarring experience it can be though. I went to the same school and had the same friends from Grade 2 to Matric.

Not to be funny but BA students have a reputation for partying all the time. Find out where they hang out and go, people are surprisingly welcoming. Also university is the best place to develop your chick-magnet skills. There are thousands of girls to practice you game on so make the best of it

 

[Davey]

how long are you there ?

move out next year ?

This is my first year, Monash makes a ton of money on people who enter something called a "foundation phase", so if you do not get fantastic grades in matric you do that course for one year and you get in to a full time degree. apparently only 60-70% pass that so my faith in humanity is lost because you need only 24 points to get in. Anyway everyone you speak to automatically thinks you're in the bridging program and because the bridging program is so popular a lot of people make friends there and don't really bother with the other students, I'd love to move but my parents may not be too happy about that even though I'd be saving them a **** load! They have this whole "It's an international degree and you will be prepped for when you life this country one day" blaaaa blaaaa blaaa ( I don't actually have plans to leave SA anyway, I'm only 18 :erm:.

You are not there for fun, Study. After that you can have fun.

My thoughts too....and friends are overrated.

Not if they come with benefits :erm:

You guys give me hope for a brighter future

Thats what she said


anyway after my failed attempt at conversation do what I do:
make random small talk....
I walked around barefoot oncampus and asked people where they got their shoes from
I`d also take a picture of a person I know and stare at people "mistakenly" thinking that they were the person I was looking for

my old highschool had 3000 students and I had plenty of friends

failing that start fapping more than usual.
fapping is a proven antidepressant and happy time thing.
else join clubs outside of uniick up chess,tennis,judo,hiking anything

In my old school I was friends with everyone, and doing things every friday/saturday life was amazing! Although I said was social I didn't mean that outgoing although it sounds like you were fun in college!

 

[DerpiesFreud]

I wish I knew you

Me too

In my old school I was friends with everyone, and doing things every friday/saturday life was amazing! Although I said was social I didn't mean that outgoing although it sounds like you were fun in college!

Yeah I remember transferring schools for 6 months,was hell... I was socially isolated,people purposely ignored me,gossiped about me behind my back etc)
at the end I had the option of transferring back,which I did in a heartbeat.

I started cutting myself and eating too much
Luckily I had martial arts which is probably what kept me going.
Like I suggested try out a sport/hobby/martial art?
I made quite a few friends that way

I find that people need a bit of a push in initial introductions thereafter things tend to flow smoothly.
just my 20c(inflation these days )

and trust me your future is as bright as the sun.don't let cloud cover get you down,no matter how bad it seems there`s always hope. life changes in the blink of an eye

 

[ponder]

First world problems, pfft!

 

[zolly]

Dude, I feel your pain. At university I was quite shy, never drank, and really struggled to make friends in my year. I did slowly make a few new friends through group projects and that sort of thing. I also had some friends from school who I hung out with and I made friends with their friends. But yeah, I never really connected with any people in my year.

Then I actually screwed up a course and it took me an extra 6 months to get enough credits for my degree so I could apply for post-grad.

It was probably one of the best things to happen to me. I ended up in honours with people who started a year later than me and I ended up making quite a few friends there. It turns out my year was super jock-ish and distinctly lacking in geekier people.

My only advice regarding your situation is to try and join clubs and things outside of uni, or to start drinking. You'd be amazed how much of uni culture and relationships are based around getting drunk and **** faced.

 

[AfricanTech]

Eish! 18 - such a long time ago.

Hang out in the cafeteria, eating spots, join random clubs - you'll hook up / click with someone

Gads - I forgot how slowly time passes for the under 30's - 4 months seems like a lifetime.

Hang in there - and if you really hate it after the first year - man up and transfer to another uni - I suppose you are still a 'teen' but you really need to take your life in hand and start making your own decisions (and be prepared to face the consequences of those decisions).

Good luck.