Is it ok to leave a newborn to cry without supervision?

[InternetSwag]

Hi guys,

My mother in law looks after my newborn for an hour sometimes during the week.

I checked my CCTV footage today and found that she leaves my baby unattended in a separate room. Baby was screaming bloody murder for 25 minutes before it started whimpering and fell asleep. She was sitting in the lounge playing on her phone.

When I console my baby she stops crying like instantly. So this bothers me.

But I am not sure how you even ignore a screaming at the top of its lungs baby for that long. I would at least check.

So am I overreacting? Or do I just get a professional and pay them to do it?

Thanks,

 

[richjdavies]

Not regularly no... All that stress is not good for baby brain development.
Old school methods get old school results (previous generations are idiots with problems... Boomers!)

 

[Hemi300c]

Not regularly no... All that stress is not good for baby brain development.
Old school methods get old school results (previous generations are idiots with problems... Boomers!)

GFY

 

[Ninja]

Not regularly no... All that stress is not good for baby brain development.
Old school methods get old school results (previous generations are idiots with problems... Boomers!)

some people deserve a old school hiding

 

[Magandroid]

Geez, that's not right. 25 minutes is very long without checking on a screaming new born. I would have a word with the MIL or find someone else who would look after the baby properly.
Edit: ... and no you're not overreacting. It's your baby and you need to do what's best for the child.

 

[Kodi]

MIL hearing ok?

 

[unobeat]

How new born(weeks or months) is the baby?
Anyway when my child was a new born i never took it kindly to family members who left my kid screaming and crying herself to sleep. They kept on telling me that i am spoiling my child and at the end of tbe day i told them that it is my child and when i am around i will always jump to check on lil one and comfort her.

4 years later, my child is fine and not spoilt me thinks.
Do what is best for your child even when you dont agree on how you should raise your own child.

 

[richjdavies]

some people deserve a old school hiding

Haha... Think you made my point

I was somewhat serious. Old school people all think kids should cry themselves to sleep, drink bleach and freeze... Kids are more coddled nowadays, but its proven to be good (assuming this is a BABY!). Kids also used to work as chimney sweeps and in cotton mills.. But surely you dont think thats sensible!?

Dangers of “Crying It Out”

The practice comes from comes from a misunderstanding of child development.

www.psychologytoday.com

Future mental health is formed now, its important your child feels safe and attached.

 

[Archer]

You are the parent, you define how your kids are to be treated and raised, nobody else. So if that somebody else doesn't follow your ideals then either they must change or accept that they will play a lesser part in their upbringing. My in laws quickly learnt this lesson

 

[ShaunSA]

You want to pay a professional to scream for 25 minutes?

 

[Bicboi]

I just put them in my bed with us and all was well. From day one. Before dads got maternity leave.

 

[InternetSwag]

Geez, that's not right. 25 minutes is very long without checking on a screaming new born. I would have a word with the MIL or find someone else who would look after the baby properly.
Edit: ... and no you're not overreacting. It's your baby and you need to do what's best for the child.

Thanks, yes I also think so.

 

[InternetSwag]

You are the parent, you define how your kids are to be treated and raised, nobody else. So if that somebody else doesn't follow your ideals then either they must change or accept that they will play a lesser part in their upbringing. My in laws quickly learnt this lesson

Yeah, I do kinda feel like I can't really tell her anything because she's doing it for free/helping out.
I suppose I can tell her I checked the CCTV but I also can just tell her I got another arrangements to look after my baby.

I feel like telling her I saw/heard her on the CCTV could cause make things worse.

 

[InternetSwag]

How new born(weeks or months) is the baby?
Anyway when my child was a new born i never took it kindly to family members who left my kid screaming and crying herself to sleep. They kept on telling me that i am spoiling my child and at the end of tbe day i told them that it is my child and when i am around i will always jump to check on lil one and comfort her.

4 years later, my child is fine and not spoilt me thinks.
Do what is best for your child even when you dont agree on how you should raise your own child.

I agree. Baby is obviously crying for a reason. I can usually figure her out and get her to stop within a few minutes.
And I don't think you can even really spoil a baby lol - its a newborn baby. It needs 24/7 attention

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Is this even your baby because last time you said your girlfriend dumped you

 

[fruitbat]

Yeah, I do kinda feel like I can't really tell her anything because she's doing it for free/helping out.
I suppose I can tell her I checked the CCTV but I also can just tell her I got another arrangements to look after my baby.

I feel like telling her I saw/heard her on the CCTV could cause make things worse.

I get the softer approach to telling her, but I do find this interesting she doesn’t tell you guys abt her “technique”. Surely you guys ask her after you take over caring for jnr, how baba went down, did she cry a lot, etc?
Also because she’s doing it for free isn’t a thing. I mean this is her grand child? If she has an issue with it SHE must say so?