Meeting new people?

[Kitten]

One of my resolutions for this year is to meet new people, make new friends and adjust my current social life. My biggest problem is, how does one go about meeting new people?

Right, there is obviously the internet! which in my experience, hasn't always turned out to be the greatest. Then there is going out with current friends and "mingling". For me this is a problem, as most of my friends are married or have children and aren't keen on leaving the house. I am 25, surely making new friends shouldn't be the worlds most difficult thing? Any suggestions? Keep in mind that mingling whilst out with current friends is out :/

 

[seymour7]

Host a party.

 

[waynegohl]

come to the socials this forum has.

 

[Kitten]

Erm, this forum has socials? hrm.

 

[waynegohl]

ummm yes.

 

[Kitten]

Well I guess i'll be exploring the forum then. As I am finding out, it's not the easiest thing to meet new people ... and if I go to a bar on my own, I look like a woman whose waiting to be picked up :/

 

[waynegohl]

ha ha shame. when the other forumites come online they will give you lots of info regarding meeting new people. i came on a year ago and met lots of new people online then we had a social meeting here in cape town and met lots of the people i have only spoken to online and it was awesome. i was first worried because being a non drinker and smoker i thought i would not enjoy myself but it was fun and although my wife and i were only there for an hour or so we enjoyed ourselves just talking with the guys from the forum. we will definately go to another meeting. made some good friends there and here online.

 

[Surv0]

Internet works Just met a lovely girl through an app on facebook. We planning on getting together tonight or tomorrow
Im over looking for friends or meeting new people in bars and clubs, doesnt work for me. So ive been single for just over a month thought id try something new, and voila it worked. She has many qualities im looking for and probably more, couldnt be happier.

 

[Toitjie]

Internet works Just met a lovely girl through an app on facebook. We planning on getting together tonight or tomorrow
Im over looking for friends or meeting new people in bars and clubs, doesnt work for me. So ive been single for just over a month thought id try something new, and voila it worked. She has many qualities im looking for and probably more, couldnt be happier.

and then u get there...and she doesnt lo0k at all as what she has sent u in the pic... l0l dude for 1 im not an internet friend searcher.... if i wane meet new ppl... i go out.... just add myself to their conversations... not long and every1 is laughing... just grow some balls and start talking 2 ppl u dnt know...espc talking 2 the opposite sex...

 

[Kitten]

Well, sounds like you two are going for a more than friends at the moment I just want to expand my friends base, and just hang out with new, different and exciting people.

 

[Voldemort]

Well I guess i'll be exploring the forum then. As I am finding out, it's not the easiest thing to meet new people ... and if I go to a bar on my own, I look like a woman whose waiting to be picked up :/

*Sssssslithers over to Kitten*

Ello, please to meet ya and welcome to the forumssss

 

[Kitten]

and then u get there...and she doesnt lo0k at all as what she has sent u in the pic... l0l dude for 1 im not an internet friend searcher.... if i wane meet new ppl... i go out.... just add myself to their conversations... not long and every1 is laughing... just grow some balls and start talking 2 ppl u dnt know...espc talking 2 the opposite sex...

Safe to assume you're male? I don't feel right going out for example to a bar on my own, and just adding myself to a conversation. For starters, I wouldn't possibly know what to say to these strangers. On the other hand, it's probably really awesome to have courage like that and actually get them laughing ... TEACH ME!

 

[Kitten]

Bwahahahahahahaha, thank you snakey

 

[Surv0]

and then u get there...and she doesnt lo0k at all as what she has sent u in the pic... l0l dude for 1 im not an internet friend searcher.... if i wane meet new ppl... i go out.... just add myself to their conversations... not long and every1 is laughing... just grow some balls and start talking 2 ppl u dnt know...espc talking 2 the opposite sex...

ag please dude, ive been round the block and know how to flirt with women, i dont have any problems at all meeting random girls and starting conversations. Thats how ive started all my previous relationships. The only problem i have there is that what you see then is not necessarily what u will get if you persue her. Ive had a few relationships end badly because of not knowing the person well enough before dating. Yes could be a result of not talking enough before committing.
With online dating, you can talk and query things about a person, you can flirt and chat ask questions until both of you are happy to meet.
We have been in comms via sms, and yes i know what she looks like, got many a photo, so theres no issue there, she also knows what i look like. We have also talked over the phone etc. and really keen to meet each other, almost sounds quite serious. So dont be soo bloody negative about online dating, it works, its proven to work, and a few friends of mine found their wives via online dating site. Broaden your horizons man, the internet can be a very useful tool, especially when it comes to finding the right partner.

 

[Kitten]

Good luck Survo, hope it goes very well!

 

[supersunbird]

Safe to assume you're male? I don't feel right going out for example to a bar on my own, and just adding myself to a conversation. For starters, I wouldn't possibly know what to say to these strangers. On the other hand, it's probably really awesome to have courage like that and actually get them laughing ... TEACH ME!

Hey, thats how I feel! (I'm a guy BTW). What crap do I need to talk to these strangers with that they won't find boring? I guess it because I'm not drunk enough yet...

 

[Surv0]

Good luck Survo, hope it goes very well!

tx so do I.
Im at a point now where i need to find a future mrs surv0, and if the internets will help me, then awesome.

 

[Toitjie]

ag please dude, ive been round the block and know how to flirt with women, i dont have any problems at all meeting random girls and starting conversations. Thats how ive started all my previous relationships. The only problem i have there is that what you see then is not necessarily what u will get if you persue her. Ive had a few relationships end badly because of not knowing the person well enough before dating. Yes could be a result of not talking enough before committing.
With online dating, you can talk and query things about a person, you can flirt and chat ask questions until both of you are happy to meet.
We have been in comms via sms, and yes i know what she looks like, got many a photo, so theres no issue there, she also knows what i look like. We have also talked over the phone etc. and really keen to meet each other, almost sounds quite serious. So dont be soo bloody negative about online dating, it works, its proven to work, and a few friends of mine found their wives via online dating site. Broaden your horizons man, the internet can be a very useful tool, especially when it comes to finding the right partner.

ok it works, but im not willing to actually take a chance...theres many pedofiles out there

 

[Voldemort]

ag please dude, ive been round the block and know how to flirt with women, i dont have any problems at all meeting random girls and starting conversations. Thats how ive started all my previous relationships. The only problem i have there is that what you see then is not necessarily what u will get if you persue her. Ive had a few relationships end badly because of not knowing the person well enough before dating. Yes could be a result of not talking enough before committing.
With online dating, you can talk and query things about a person, you can flirt and chat ask questions until both of you are happy to meet.
We have been in comms via sms, and yes i know what she looks like, got many a photo, so theres no issue there, she also knows what i look like. We have also talked over the phone etc. and really keen to meet each other, almost sounds quite serious. So dont be soo bloody negative about online dating, it works, its proven to work, and a few friends of mine found their wives via online dating site. Broaden your horizons man, the internet can be a very useful tool, especially when it comes to finding the right partner.

Agreed, but ive also met some issue riddled women online, wowsas try breaking up with them
Same can be said about going out and meeting new people, its a double edged sword i guessssss...
Kitten, ure right about the whole going out by ureself thing, if you need someone to show you how to do it then rather dont, its something that comes naturally or not at all
Advice comes in many forms and heres mine:
making new contacts generally comes from new social activities, i started Karate and scuba diving about a year ago, these social clubs are abundant with new and interesting people, i mean its people that are all striving towards a common goal, so if you make new friends along the way then booya!

 

[Kitten]

lol well lets hold thumbs that this is the future mrs survo? ... right now kitty just wants new friends haha .... im actually about to be single, and going out with my "single bunch" of friends is more dangerous than it is enjoyable ... perhaps ill check out some stuff on facebook.