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ShannonS said:
Where are all the regular forumites to post their pictures?

Dolby, Pitbull ...
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They're at home playing with the wife and kids I s'pose.

teraside said:
If I was Shannon, I would adore you Acid :p ;) :D
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Aw faaaaaanks *much gay love*

CathJ said:
Hmm. Interesting tactic, but I'm not too sure about getting the result you expect...

Typing this on my phone, so can't really elaborate on this now, but remind me to come back to this because it's quite interesting :)
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You may elaborate later at will, however, by pushing the boundries to the point where someone gets mad at you is WAY more fun than playing it safe. I know I can always turn that frown upside down.... always. With no fail. I think the longest it took me to get someone un-mad at me was like a day.

But, then I know which boundries not to cross and I get to learn more about her personality and sense of humor and how much of a "hit" she can take. Some women just close up instantly when confronted with something that will upset them, others just roll with the punches and either joke with you or lash out at you. Either way I win. Because if you lash out at me in a sarcastic/intelligent way or a dull "**** you" manner; I know what I'm dealing with. The level of intelligence/humor/character .... I can go on and on. I basically have it down to an art form.

Just most of the time I don't give a **** in using it as I'm currently too involved in getting OUT OF DUBAI to care much about scoring with the wimmin's

Next week Wednesday should be interesting. I need to get from Cape Town international to Paarl without letting on that I'm back in the country so I can suprise my mom/dad/sister/nieces/nephew. So far a taxi ride there is going to cost R1200 :eek:
 
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teraside said:
Spill the beans... is he not who he says he is?
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He is who he is hey.... I have a friend who thinks he's awesome by spelling words backwards and stuff. And this being a small world I'm pretty sure I know who he is... and he knows me
 
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AcidRaZor said:
Aw faaaaaanks *much gay love*
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Remember, if I was Shannon, I'm not though ;) :D :p
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He is who he is hey.... I have a friend who thinks he's awesome by spelling words backwards and stuff. And this being a small world I'm pretty sure I know who he is... and he knows me
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That sucks. I know a friend who knows someone that doesn't have a pic in this thread :p
 
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AcidRaZor said:
You may elaborate later at will, however, by pushing the boundries to the point where someone gets mad at you is WAY more fun than playing it safe. I know I can always turn that frown upside down.... always. With no fail. I think the longest it took me to get someone un-mad at me was like a day.

But, then I know which boundries not to cross and I get to learn more about her personality and sense of humor and how much of a "hit" she can take. Some women just close up instantly when confronted with something that will upset them, others just roll with the punches and either joke with you or lash out at you. Either way I win. Because if you lash out at me in a sarcastic/intelligent way or a dull "**** you" manner; I know what I'm dealing with. The level of intelligence/humor/character .... I can go on and on. I basically have it down to an art form.
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Okay, here goes some painful typing because I have to respond :)

I agree that you can definitely learn a lot about a persn by doing that; you might be getting incorrect info, because I will most likely smile politely and move on; unless I know you and am comfortable around you in which case I'l respond very differently. Conversely they learn something about the way you approach relationships as well and they might not appreciate it; but in a way you're hiding behind testing statements instead saying what you really think or mean so they're not really getting to know you.

Challenging each other in a relationship is great fun, but there do have to be limits. I've had one relationship where everything turned into a debate with him playing devil' advocate, and while it was mentally stimulating it got really tiring after a while. Another guy I was good friends with was a bit like you - cryptic replies, often wasn't quite sure what he meant. We had great fun challenging each other, but a simple conversation was often just so much work - and I tend to read too much into things anyway, so I was second-(and third-)guessing myself every time I replied to him, which started eventually to weigh on my self confidence.

So yeah, it's an interesting tactic, maybe a good one when you're just starting off and trying to intrigue someone, but it's not something you want to do too much or for too long.
 
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CathJ said:
Okay, here goes some painful typing because I have to respond :)

I agree that you can definitely learn a lot about a persn by doing that; you might be getting incorrect info, because I will most likely smile politely and move on; unless I know you and am comfortable around you in which case I'l respond very differently. Conversely they learn something about the way you approach relationships as well and they might not appreciate it; but in a way you're hiding behind testing statements instead saying what you really think or mean so they're not really getting to know you.

Challenging each other in a relationship is great fun, but there do have to be limits. I've had one relationship where everything turned into a debate with him playing devil' advocate, and while it was mentally stimulating it got really tiring after a while. Another guy I was good friends with was a bit like you - cryptic replies, often wasn't quite sure what he meant. We had great fun challenging each other, but a simple conversation was often just so much work - and I tend to read too much into things anyway, so I was second-(and third-)guessing myself every time I replied to him, which started eventually to weigh on my self confidence.

So yeah, it's an interesting tactic, maybe a good one when you're just starting off and trying to intrigue someone, but it's not something you want to do too much or for too long.
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Oh how I love a great mind! I think that's one of the coolest comments I've read so far in my life CathJ and I'm saying it sincerely ;)

There's this girl at work that is really into me, smsing, phoning and the list goes on. I have not made advances, but she uses much of the same tactics. She tries to be cryptic one day and the next day she blurts out her whole persona, really weird.

I've made it clear I'm not looking for someone, but she even tried to kiss me (as in aaahhh) the other day, I was like :confused:

I'd prefer having a friend and I think she'd rock as a friend, but all these mind games are as you say, really tiring.
 
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Oh, and doing it to intrigue someone seems slightly manipulative to me, but then I'm probably not devious enough when it comes to these things :)
 
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CathJ said:
Oh, and doing it to intrigue someone seems slightly manipulative to me, but then I'm probably not devious enough when it comes to these things :)
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Manipulation is an art form for some people, it gripes me to the point of wanting to :mad:
 
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