Men beaten by their female partners: does society turn a blind eye?

[rubytox]

Much have been said about women in abusive relationships. Men, however, seem to just fade into the background.

Are men too ashamed to talk about it or admit that they are being beaten by a female partner?
Would you think less of a man who is being beaten by his female partner?
Why would a man stay in a physically abusive relationship?

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[OGroteKoning]

They are sh*t scared of the crazy. It will stalk you, haunt you and then when you least expect it boil your bunny!

 

[RiaX]

slash your tyres destroy your relationships paint your car (no I have not experienced this and i hope i never will)

I think the problem is that view. I would think its pointless because no one will believe you and its not exactly you can defend yourself properly the court will always favor a woman

 

[rubytox]

slash your tyres destroy your relationships paint your car (no I have not experienced this and i hope i never will)

I think the problem is that view. I would think its pointless because no one will believe you and its not exactly you can defend yourself properly the court will always favor a woman

Exactly my point.
I've met some scary women in Cape Town. One nearly attacked me because my dog was too frisky with her poodle.

 

[Alan]

Pretty much the backward knuckle dragger mentality that you are supposed to 'man up'.

Sure as hell arent allowed to defend yourself physically.

 

[copacetic]

I get beaten off all the time.

 

[RiaX]

so what would an oke in this boat do ? this might be some valuable information one day lol

 

[DerpiesFreud]

I was in a physically abusive relationship with a female once.
She was physically stronger and more muscular than me :erm:

She`d slap me or shove me,sometimes infront of people
our friends would think it was a joke,they laughed and ridiculed me for letting her wear the 'pants' in the relationship,not that I cared...I even thought it was normal and she was just playing at one point.
Till one day she shoved me too hard and I ended up with a concussion,our friends were more serious about this but they just said she should get anger management,case closed.

Pretty much the backward knuckle dragger mentality that you are supposed to 'man up'.

Sure as hell arent allowed to defend yourself physically.

Oh hell yeah!
if I hit her(not that I ever did) People would be telling her to dump my ass....yet she was physically stronger than me

so what would an oke in this boat do ? this might be some valuable information one day lol

Move to another city
end things with an SMS
answer phonecall
listen to abuse and crying
crawl under ones bed and shake in fear

 

[Singal]

Pretty much the backward knuckle dragger mentality that you are supposed to 'man up'.

Sure as hell arent allowed to defend yourself physically.

Who says? If some crazy ass woman is beating on you, you have the right to defend yourself...but the best thing you could do is get out of the relationship.

 

[TJ99]

They do sometimes report it, but the courts, police and society in general tends not to give a **** about men, or claimed they "deserved" it. Male abuse is seen as a joke and women doing horrible things to their partners are hardly ever held responsible for their actions.

When a man hurts his wife in even the slightest, even in self defence, all hell breaks loose, he's called a monster and an army of white knight compliant douchebags rush in to take him down. When a woman goes ape **** and mutilates her husband while he's sleeping, it's seen as a massive joke and "empowerment", with talk show hosts cackling hysterically about it. It's because of this generally sick, bigoted attitude in society of women always being blameless victims and men being evil attackers, that you hardly ever hear the real stats regarding domestic violence, and men hardly ever report it. They feel (know rather) that the establishment isn't in their side.

 

[noxibox]

More common is verbal abuse. I've always been amazed at how men are supposed to just put up with constant verbal and emotional abuse from their partners. Then if he wanted to get rid of the witch he had to give her half his assets and keep supporting her.

They do sometimes report it, but the courts, police and society in general tends not to give a **** about men, or claimed they "deserved" it. Male abuse is seen as a joke and women doing horrible things to their partners are hardly ever held responsible for their actions.

Even violence perpetrated against male children is downplayed.

When a man hurts his wife in even the slightest, even in self defence, all hell breaks loose, he's called a monster and an army of white knight compliant douchebags rush in to take him down. When a woman goes ape **** and mutilates her husband while he's sleeping, it's seen as a massive joke and "empowerment", with talk show hosts cackling hysterically about it. It's because of this generally sick, bigoted attitude in society of women always being blameless victims and men being evil attackers, that you hardly ever hear the real stats regarding domestic violence, and men hardly ever report it. They feel (know rather) that the establishment isn't in their side.

It's a very unfeminist attitude too.

 

[Tinuva]

Alright I haven't been in an abusive relationship myself before, so this is my opinion and you can ignore this viewpoint if you want.

I believe the man can defend himself without ending up on the wrong side of court or how people view it. If you are a real man, you have the ability to let the woman understand when something has to stop, WITHOUT having to ever hit her. If it is in the moment, you can block the attack, much like you would do in a fight with any guy. Most importantly, you will have to stand up for yourself and let her know this has to stop.

I have found in the past, if someone hits me once, and I don't want to hit the person back because it is someone I have too much respect for, I warn the guy once in a very serious and body language, that if it happens again he will end up on the other side of MY attacks. Whatever it was, this has worked more than once, and I am pretty sure it will work even on crazy woman, but you have to get that understanding over, that you will not give a damn about the consequences that may follow your inappropriate action when you hit the person back. You will be surprised how the situation changes, and the person will respect you for that.

I can just imagine how effective this will be if you warn the person you will hit her back, infront of your friends, because then you have witnesses that you did warn her before hand, and they will possibly be on your side and get a chance to explain the situation.

When in a difficult situation like this, I think you need to control what people think and then act.

Either way, like I said, this is my opinion, I have never had a woman abuse me, but I know how to deal with men, and I will apply the same principle if I have to, to a crazy abusive woman.

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

I was in a physically abusive relationship with a female once.
She was physically stronger and more muscular than me :erm:

She`d slap me or shove me,sometimes infront of people
our friends would think it was a joke,they laughed and ridiculed me for letting her wear the 'pants' in the relationship,not that I cared...I even thought it was normal and she was just playing at one point.
Till one day she shoved me too hard and I ended up with a concussion,our friends were more serious about this but they just said she should get anger management,case closed.

Hotdaym nigga!

 

[abandonallhope]

How many women do you guys know that would physically be able to abuse you ?

 

[Datura]

I was engaged to a woman that threw tantrums that got physical. Punching, kicking, knives, flying cutlery etc. I never laid a hand on her except once when I thought she was going to stab me and had to restrain her to get the knife out of her hand. The funny thing is that when I eventually called the cops on her, I was the one that got locked up when she laid a charge of domestic violence against me. Backwards cops.

 

[visrot]

I think abused men are too embarrassed to go to the police. How do you say to the officer your wife beat you up?

 

[Datura]

I think abused men are too embarrassed to go to the police. How do you say to the officer your wife beat you up?

In my case it totally backfired. And even when she came to the police station to try drop charges they said she could only do it with the prosecutor on the day of my court appearance. Problem with domestic abuse charges is that they have had too many cases where the charges are dropped and the person gets out and kills their partner so they now make it the court's responsibility. The absolute highlight of my situation was that I got locked up on Friday and had to wait until Monday to be released. Bitch.

 

[Icarium]

How many women do you guys know that would physically be able to abuse you ?

There's a difference between "would be able to beat you in a fair fight" and "would be able to physically abuse you". Physical size and strength has very little to do with the latter. And that's the crux of the matter - how many men would be willing to admit that a woman half thier size is capable of hurting them?

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

I have a drinking buddy who's about 1.6m tall and weighs about 60kgs.

He's married to a hippo who weighs about 100kgs. When she calls him to come home...

 

[CamiKaze]

And as a man, the law is against you...Women take advantage of this.