Money mistakes wealthy people should avoid in marriage

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High-net worth individuals who have made a commitment to marry their life partners should not overlook the importance of mutual understanding, trust, open and honest communication to grow and preserve their wealth.

Eric Enslin, CEO of FNB Private Wealth and RMB Private Bank, says “One of the attributes of successful wealth management is working together as a family towards a common goal. As a result, both partners should be intimately involved in their wealth journey in order to build a family focused wealth legacy that can be transferred to the next generation.”

Having advised many families about wealth building, Enslin has noted a few common mistakes that high-net worth couples make.

Not consolidating wealth advisory – working with the same advisor who provides tailored services for the entire family has many advantages. Couples can save on advisory fees, consolidate financial commitments such as investments and bank accounts as well as benefit from wealth management advice that takes both their goals and aspirations into account.

Neglecting estate planning – a fundamental mistake that high-net worth couples make is taking estate planning for granted, leaving them vulnerable in the unfortunate event that one partner passes away. This poses a serious threat to the family’s wealth if there isn’t an updated will in place that provides certainty on issues related to debt, trust structure, personal and business assets.

Lack of transparency – it is often said that communication is one of the building blocks of a successful marriage; the same principle applies to wealth management. Couples should openly talk about money management issues and reach mutual understanding on investments, tax strategies, business decisions and challenges, as well as long-term wealth strategies.

Not sharing responsibilities - entrusting one partner to manage the entire family’s financial affairs is a mistake that can lead to long-term ramifications. Both partners should be actively involved to be in a good position to pass on knowledge to their heirs.

Poor prenuptial agreement – an agreement should be reached upfront on how assets and income acquired prior to the marriage should be distributed in the event of a divorce. Failure to enter into a comprehensive prenuptial agreement can lead to a lengthy and costly legal battle.

“Growing and preserving wealth requires both partners to actively work together to hone and develop family values in order to build a lasting legacy. Moreover, getting the right wealth management advice that takes into account the whole family’s needs is equally important,” concludes Enslin.
 

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I don't understand how peoples minds work when it comes to prenups... very naive to think it'll last forever. Just look at divorce stats.
 

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I don't understand how peoples minds work when it comes to prenups... very naive to think it'll last forever. Just look at divorce stats.

Our philosophy was always, "plan for the worst, and hope for the best" (well, we don't just sit around hoping our marriage will work, we actively work on it, but you get the point)

Some people have this perception that a prenup is somehow a precursor to divorce, it is not, it is a contract that deals with the mess when emotions are sky high, regardless of the reason behind the break in marriage, death or divorce.
 

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Exactly, most of our friends got married in COP - wives said they wouldn't otherwise. In my case I wouldn't have gotten married without a decent contract in place, take it or leave it.
 

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Reckon that advice applies to any couple, not only the wealthy ones.
Talk about stuff, be open and honest, work together towards a common goal, have an updated will, share responsibilities.
 

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That is such an outdated system.

You can achieve exactly the same effect by doing an ANC with Accrual

Marriage is an outdated system :p Why do you need to law, or some religion to recognize you as a couple.
 

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Marriage is an outdated system :p Why do you need to law, or some religion to recognize you as a couple.

Good point.

However, lets be honest, a formal arrangement makes it that little bit more official..
 

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Wish I insisted on a prenup. COP is kicking me in the balls atm
 

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just don't get married

problem solved

I read somewhere that living with a partner without getting married is recognized almost as in COP. Otherwise how will the wealth be split if no mutual agreeement is reached and one partner takes it to court?
 

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I read somewhere that living with a partner without getting married is recognized almost as in COP. Otherwise how will the wealth be split if no mutual agreeement is reached and one partner takes it to court?

AFAIK - Not in SA
 

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I read somewhere that living with a partner without getting married is recognized almost as in COP. Otherwise how will the wealth be split if no mutual agreeement is reached and one partner takes it to court?

yeah I should have been more clearer

be like Henry Rollins

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I don't understand how peoples minds work when it comes to prenups... very naive to think it'll last forever. Just look at divorce stats.
I thought the divorce rate was low in SA. I know in the states it's over 50%. It's like at 75% if you are in the military
 

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Couples should spend less on their wedding. They (the women!) use this special day of theirs to show off and spend a ton of money that sometimes comes close if not more to a deposit on a house.

Why start your marriage with financial strain?
 

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I thought the divorce rate was low in SA. I know in the states it's over 50%. It's like at 75% if you are in the military

Even if its only 10% - that's a 1 in 10 chance you're going to have a ****ty time if you don't plan properly.
 

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Some people have this perception that a prenup is somehow a precursor to divorce, it is not, it is a contract that deals with the mess when emotions are sky high, regardless of the reason behind the break in marriage, death or divorce.

I remember when I told my mother in law (when we got married, i just started working) , she flipped out at the mention of prenup. You are already looking for a way out etc was her words. You would have sworn I was divorcing her daughter before marriage even

Wish I insisted on a prenup. COP is kicking me in the balls atm

Yip.. same here. COP is the biggest load of ****. And if your soon-to-be-ex-wife is being a douche by not settling .. you can do fck-all (buy house/car etc).

I just tell my single friends, if you are getting married is fine, but COP? You are insane if you marry in COP.
 
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Couples should spend less on their wedding. They (the women!) use this special day of theirs to show off and spend a ton of money that sometimes comes close if not more to a deposit on a house.

Why start your marriage with financial strain?

Oh.... I know of a few lavish fellas who insisted on a very luscious wedding.
 
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