My first scary gay experience

[AstroTurf]

That is why I ****en screen potentials with a fine tooth comb....sorry to say, but the number of unbalanced/psychos in the gay community is scary as hell. Had an incident, where I fell for someone,...and I am not one for falling...and turned out, fake extraordinaire...created his own little reality...and I was a guest in this reality.....case of fool me once, shame on you...-

I am pretty sure the main reason for this is the taboo in the more traditional (I think the word I am actually looking for is Jurassic) family "values".
It must be really messed up having to hide who you are from your protectors and loved ones half your life.

Trying to make sure my little family never grow up with any of that. My daughter at age 5 already knows boys can marry boys and girls can marry girls.

 

[Electric]

Lol, a little blunt aren't we ???

I could sugar coat it for you if you'd like?

The only bigot in here was that rather simple minded, ****ed in the head, female dog.

 

[Electric]

I am pretty sure the main reason for this is the taboo in the more traditional (I think the word I am actually looking for is Jurassic) family "values".
It must be really messed up having to hide who you are from your protectors and loved ones half your life.

Trying to make sure my little family never grow up with any of that. My daughter at age 5 already knows boys can marry boys and girls can marry girls.

Yep, my son is 14, likes girls, but we've sat him down and explained that regardless of his preference we will always support and love him and that he should never feel that it is wrong to like someone from the same gender.

 

[-Prismo-]

I could sugar coat it for you if you'd like?

The only bigot in here was that rather simple minded, ****ed in the head, female dog.

Lol much better..

You realize though that it was indeed an alt account and you could be calling someone out that you may possibly be getting along with ?

 

[Ninja'd]

Yep, my son is 14, likes girls, but we've sat him down and explained that regardless of his preference we will always support and love him and that he should never feel that it is wrong to like someone from the same gender.

You suspected him?

 

[Electric]

You suspected him?

Not even for a second.
We just want him to understand that a lack of acceptance in life is narrowminded and not the way we want him to live his life.

 

[Electric]

Lol much better..

You realize though that it was indeed an alt account and you could be calling someone out that you may possibly be getting along with ?

I aint no friends with no crazy bitches.

 

[USZA]

Based on the previous two posts, don't you guys think that maybe there's too much testosterone in a gay (male-male) relationship?

Look, males have always been the aggressors in relationships, whether it's a heterosexual or a homosexual relationship. When it comes to a male-male relationship though, you sometimes get the one who wants to dominate, and when paired with someone who is just as strong-willed, and who doesn't want to be dominated, you get **** like this happening - acts to display their dominance, or at least to attempt to display their dominance.

 

[yebocan]

I am pretty sure the main reason for this is the taboo in the more traditional (I think the word I am actually looking for is Jurassic) family "values".
It must be really messed up having to hide who you are from your protectors and loved ones half your life.

Trying to make sure my little family never grow up with any of that. My daughter at age 5 already knows boys can marry boys and girls can marry girls.

Agreed,...but like with most things in life, either deal or defer....overcome or be trapped in endless cycle of darkness. The choice is yours...I choose the light side of the force...

 

[AstroTurf]

Agreed,...but like with most things in life, either deal or defer....overcome or be trapped in endless cycle of darkness. The choice is yours...I choose the light side of the force...

Yea of course, It was just an observation.

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

I don't really know what I am into yet.

I made a 50 Shades reference earlier and it seems more likely you'll end up down that road. :twisted:

 

[ant_man]

Saw him again last night. I asked him about what he did the other night and why he did it. Asked if it is something he enjoys doing on a regular basis. He just said he wanted to see my reaction and his way of showing me he is boss. Said he wont do it again though if it unsettled me. I wanted to ask some more questions, but I just got a feeling it was not a good idea, so I left it.
He is definitely into some kink judging from his request last night. It is a bit strange, but harmless. Will try and relax about it and see what transpires. If I am not comfortable with something or don't want to do something I must just speak up.

Thank you for the advice everyone.

When I hook up with guys I first ask them what they into.

If they say they like the freaky stuff then at least I know, and they know that it will happen, as I like the kinky side of things.

I had one guy who wanted to try bondage and I said we can.
I took it slow with him as I didn't know what his threshold was.

I would never ever do something to a guy that they didn't consent to.

 

[Flip-Flop]

I made a 50 Shades reference earlier and it seems more likely you'll end up down that road. :twisted:

I really don't know. I am pretty standard when it comes to sexual things. I am open to new things, but cant say I need specific acts or anything to get turned on.

Maybe if I see him again I must try and take him by surprise, grab him from behind and get my arm around his neck and do the dominating and see what his reaction is.

 

[TofuMofu]

I really don't know. I am pretty standard when it comes to sexual things. I am open to new things, but cant say I need specific acts or anything to get turned on.

Maybe if I see him again I must try and take him by surprise, grab him from behind and get my arm around his neck and do the dominating and see what his reaction is.

lol and scare him *****less for a change

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Look, males have always been the aggressors in relationships, whether it's a heterosexual or a homosexual relationship. When it comes to a male-male relationship though, you sometimes get the one who wants to dominate, and when paired with someone who is just as strong-willed, and who doesn't want to be dominated, you get **** like this happening - acts to display their dominance, or at least to attempt to display their dominance.

I think that's what I was trying to say. If the couple doesn't set the boundaries from the outset it could become a problem.

 

[Zewp]

Maybe all of you men should actually try and understand that being a homosexual was forbidden for so long for all the right reasons. The recent acceptance of being gay does not mean it is right.

This affects me personally since good people have had to suffer due to the sins of their sons and brothers being homosexuals instead of doing the right thing and raising a family the natural way.

fukkoffeks.

 

[Jhbgirl]

But even so, he did scare me really badly and I dont want to ever experience that fear again. He should know I that.

It's really simple. Don't see him again.

 

[Zewp]

Lol much better..

You realize though that it was indeed an alt account and you could be calling someone out that you may possibly be getting along with ?

...and? If someone makes an alt account to troll like that, does it make a difference if you 'get along' with their real account? They're an ******* regardless.

Tell him to **** off or don't come crying to us later when you get abused.
Sorry to say but stuff like this just doesn't fly.
I'd rather be blunt and have you understand what a dangerous situation this can be.

It's really not that serious. Some people just like to make it clear who the dominating person in the relationship is. I'm sure the OP will see well before things reach a point where things are going into abuse territory.

I actually wish my current boyfriend was a bit more like the guy OP describes, because then at least I'd be sure what the power distribution in the relationship is. I'm generally a very submissive guy in a relationship and I like it that way, but with my boyfriend most of the time it feels like I'm the one with all the power in the relationship and I absolutely hate being a powerbottom. It doesn't suit me or my needs at all.

@Flip-flop, don't overthink the whole thing. Chances are it probably won't happen again. Just remember that relationships (even casual flings) are built on communication. The moment you don't feel comfortable with something, speak up. Your partner can't be angry at you for it and you're well within your rights. If you don't like being relegated to a completely submissive role, say it. In your situation I wouldn't be too worried though. It's certainly not necessary to tell him to take a hike based on this one incident.

 

[AfricanTech]

Rather that than the guy who just vanished from the forums one day...

Anyway, Have fun and do what you enjoy

This.

But seriously man, anyone who plays that kind of power game (not even sure I can call it a game given that he actually smothered you) with you right off the cuff is bad news.

Take it
Leave it

Just be safe

Good luck

 

[TehStranger]

I actually wish my current boyfriend was a bit more like the guy OP describes, because then at least I'd be sure what the power distribution in the relationship is. I'm generally a very submissive guy in a relationship and I like it that way, but with my boyfriend most of the time it feels like I'm the one with all the power in the relationship and I absolutely hate being a powerbottom. It doesn't suit me or my needs at all.

Have you raised these concerns with him?