My first scary gay experience

[AfricanTech]

...and? If someone makes an alt account to troll like that, does it make a difference if you 'get along' with their real account? They're an ******* regardless.



It's really not that serious. Some people just like to make it clear who the dominating person in the relationship is. I'm sure the OP will see well before things reach a point where things are going into abuse territory.

I actually wish my current boyfriend was a bit more like the guy OP describes, because then at least I'd be sure what the power distribution in the relationship is. I'm generally a very submissive guy in a relationship and I like it that way, but with my boyfriend most of the time it feels like I'm the one with all the power in the relationship and I absolutely hate being a powerbottom. It doesn't suit me or my needs at all.

@Flip-flop, don't overthink the whole thing. Chances are it probably won't happen again. Just remember that relationships (even casual flings) are built on communication. The moment you don't feel comfortable with something, speak up. Your partner can't be angry at you for it and you're well within your rights. If you don't like being relegated to a completely submissive role, say it. In your situation I wouldn't be too worried though. It's certainly not necessary to tell him to take a hike based on this one incident.

That kind of power display just doesn't work for me - too disrespectful of the other person.

If it's a kink, then you have to be very upfront - you don't sommer haul your kink out and smother someone - fck man!

Edit: Mebbe I'm just a old toppie now, but I sure wouldn't take a chance like that.

 

[Flip-Flop]

Thank you Zewp and AfricanTech. Both have good points. Please excuse me for a bit while I go and google "powerbottom"

 

[Zewp]

Have you raised these concerns with him?

On more than one occasion, yes. I think he's just not the dominating type. It's not something that will drive me to end the relationship, but I do wish he took a bit more control during sex.

That kind of power display just doesn't work for me - too disrespectful of the other person.

If it's a kink, then you have to be very upfront - you don't sommer haul your kink out and smother someone - fck man!

Edit: Mebbe I'm just a old toppie now, but I sure wouldn't take a chance like that.

Don't get me wrong, I would also be freaked out if someone smothered me as a display of dominance, but I don't think he should necessarily run for the hills just yet. People sometimes do weird things without really thinking it through first. If there was a repeat of that kind of behavior, I would definitely gtfo as soon as possible.

 

[EMAM]

Yep, my son is 14, likes girls, but we've sat him down and explained that regardless of his preference we will always support and love him and that he should never feel that it is wrong to like someone from the same gender.

We will be having this conversation with our 14 year old son and 12 year old daughter too in the next few weeks but with the addition that their dad is gay too. It's a very hard thing to discuss - not the fact that you can love the same sex but the reasons why people hide it from society. We are dreading it.

 

[Fudzy]

We will be having this conversation with our 14 year old son and 12 year old daughter too in the next few weeks but with the addition that their dad is gay too. It's a very hard thing to discuss - not the fact that you can love the same sex but the reasons why people hide it from society. We are dreading it.

Does mr_ant_man know you're spilling the beans on a public forum? Do the kids know their dad is gay or is this the big announcement?

 

[EMAM]

Does mr_ant_man know you're spilling the beans on a public forum? Do the kids know their dad is gay or is this the big announcement?

I think everyone on mybb knows.....we have nothing to hide on here - the kids don't know as yet but due to circumstances that are happening in the next few weeks we will be telling them.

 

[marine1]

I think everyone on mybb knows.....we have nothing to hide on here - the kids don't know as yet but due to circumstances that are happening in the next few weeks we will be telling them.

So now? ?????

How do you feel

 

[tRoN]

We will be having this conversation with our 14 year old son and 12 year old daughter too in the next few weeks but with the addition that their dad is gay too. It's a very hard thing to discuss - not the fact that you can love the same sex but the reasons why people hide it from society. We are dreading it.

There is only one reason why people hide it from society; it's because it is unnatural and sick. :vomit

A arsehole is designed for sh:tting and not designed for intercouse!

Rather save those poor kids and keep the hideous news from them as it may scar them for life.

 

[Fudzy]

There is only one reason why people hide it from society; it's because it is unnatural and sick. :vomit

A arsehole is designed for sh:tting and not designed for intercouse!

Rather save those poor kids and keep the hideous news from them as it may scar them for life.

While coming across as quite narrow minded you do raise an interesting question, does being homosexual always equal anal intercourse?

 

[ant_man]

There is only one reason why people hide it from society; it's because it is unnatural and sick. :vomit

A arsehole is designed for sh:tting and not designed for intercouse!

Rather save those poor kids and keep the hideous news from them as it may scar them for life.

You are a despicable human being.

 

[EMAM]

There is only one reason why people hide it from society; it's because it is unnatural and sick. :vomit

A arsehole is designed for sh:tting and not designed for intercouse!

Rather save those poor kids and keep the hideous news from them as it may scar them for life.

You don't know me and you don't know my SO and any reasons behind our life - I wouldn't want to know a person like you anyway. Our relationship between ourselves and our kids is far better than most families we know and you have NO right to judge so keep your f'd up comments to yourself.

 

[Falco]

I think everyone on mybb knows.....we have nothing to hide on here - the kids don't know as yet but due to circumstances that are happening in the next few weeks we will be telling them.

Erm, are you terminally ill? Sorry for the direct Q

 

[EMAM]

Erm, are you terminally ill? Sorry for the direct Q

Erm...yup....but life carries on

 

[Flip-Flop]

While coming across as quite narrow minded you do raise an interesting question, does being homosexual always equal anal intercourse?

Does not seem that way

http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/not-all-gay-men-have-anal-sex

 

[Falco]

Erm...yup....but life carries on

Yip, life does not pause when these things happen.

Sorry, I had some idea but couldn't place it straight away. Now I remember. You and your husband have a great relationship in love, respect and tolerance. Iirc he will stay with you all the way, yes? Inspirational to say the least, and you girl are a pillar of strength and courage for your family.

 

[EMAM]

Yip, life does not pause when these things happen.

Sorry, I had some idea but couldn't place it straight away. Now I remember. You and your husband have a great relationship in love, respect and tolerance. Iirc he will stay with you all the way, yes? Inspirational to say the least, and you girl are a pillar of strength and courage for your family.

Thanks for that. Yes, he will be by my side whenever I need him to be, no matter what. And yes, we have an awesome relationship - better than most hetero couples I know!!

 

[Falco]

Respect!

 

[R13...]

But mrs ant why isn't necessary to tell the kids? Doesn't that just reinforce the notion that this is something abnormal that the kids need to know about, I mean you're still together, right? Rather raise your kids to accept all people as they are.

 

[Zewp]

There is only one reason why people hide it from society; it's because it is unnatural and sick. :vomit

A arsehole is designed for sh:tting and not designed for intercouse!

Rather save those poor kids and keep the hideous news from them as it may scar them for life.

I never expected tRoN to be a homophobe. Oh well, what a pity.

tRoN, please tell me, if homosexuality is so unnatural and sick, why is it rife in nature?

A arsehole is designed for sh:tting and not designed for intercouse!

A mouth is made for eating and talking. I sincerely hope you've never received a blowjob.

 

[Falco]

A mouth is made for eating and talking. I sincerely hope you've never received a blowjob.

You mean giving a blowjob?