We will be having this conversation with our 14 year old son and 12 year old daughter too in the next few weeks but with the addition that their dad is gay too. It's a very hard thing to discuss - not the fact that you can love the same sex but the reasons why people hide it from society. We are dreading it.
do you think it's something you should discuss with them? do you think what their daddy and mommy do with their lives is really important to their path and future in life?
i ask this not because i encourage hiding, but i've hidden my entire life because of my sexual issues and how people have reacted in the past. i am engaged in a poly relationship with multiple partners at the moment, and my partner's boyfriend recently had a discussion with my landlord about my lifestyle, who he is, how he fits into, what i get up to in my personal time, yada yada, and it infuriated me not because they
now knew, but for the reason that they needed to know in the first place.
people also know about my kinks and issues on the forum - the forum doesn't know 90% of it. nobody knows because i keep this side of me hidden not because of shame(shame can be a small part of it tho), but because then knowing doesn't benefit my life in any way. me being me online is how i deal myself out in small doses in real life.
i could just never imagine having a discussion with my son unless he asked. obviously you guys know what is best for your family, but to me "coming out" has always been overrated, perhaps i'm jealous because coming out is easier for others than it would be for me. all i want my son to know in life is not what i get up to behind bedroom doors, where i go some times, but that his daddy loves his mommy very much, that love is not something that you can control, and that he'd never ever treat a woman like ****. i want him to have those values while growing up