My first scary gay experience

Flip-Flop

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I always considered having a gay experience would mean penetration, I mean actual sex.
BJ and HJ? What a waste of time :D

It is more than enough for me at the moment. Was nice to touch and feel. Sensations rather different.

Once I feel more comfortable with being with him then maybe I will start going in that route. But last night left me unsettled after a otherwise enjoyable experience.
 

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It is more than enough for me at the moment. Was nice to touch and feel. Sensations rather different.

Once I feel more comfortable with being with him then maybe I will start going in that route. But last night left me unsettled after a otherwise enjoyable experience.

I am sure, I would not go back if I were you, sounds like he has a serious issue in his head.
 

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Ok...
1. Stay away from the strange man who seems to enjoy asphyxiation. Trust me on that one.
2. Over share. This tread has really left a bad taste in my mouth. (Ouch, ouch. Stop hitting me)
 

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We have been talking for a while before meeting and he is a very nice guy. I still believe that. He obviously is into strange things sexually and the one he tried last night without warning ended up scaring me to no end.
I think I know what I must do. Have a open talk and discuss what he likes and what my boundaries are. He obviously did not want to kill me, otherwise I would not be here typing this. But even so, he did scare me really badly and I dont want to ever experience that fear again. He should know I that.

now that sounds like a mature approach.:D
 

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People, any ideas how I should bring this up with him today? Just blurt out "Why did you try and kill me the other night?" :wtf: - ok just kidding with that.

Just politely ask if he remembers what he did and tell him it really frightened me, but I would like to know why he felt compelled to do it and if there is a need it meets for him?
 

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I would have shat my pants as well :p

Especially seeing that it's your first experience so you're already scared to begin with. He should have known better, but perhaps he was just testing you. A good talk should do to clear things out. :)

People, any ideas how I should bring this up with him today? Just blurt out "Why did you try and kill me the other night?" :wtf: - ok just kidding with that.

Just politely ask if he remembers what he did and tell him it really frightened me, but I would like to know why he felt compelled to do it and if there is a need it meets for him?

Just say you want to talk to him about something that's been bothering you and go for it. He should understand, I'm sure.
 

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People, any ideas how I should bring this up with him today? Just blurt out "Why did you try and kill me the other night?" :wtf: - ok just kidding with that.

Just politely ask if he remembers what he did and tell him it really frightened me, but I would like to know why he felt compelled to do it and if there is a need it meets for him?

First things first...


Do you enjoy being with this guy and are you enjoying the sex? If yes...

Just a simple, Bud I did not enjoy the other night. It scared me. And discuss boundaries from there.

If he is into asphyxiation etc, and you not comfortable with that. Guess this hook up is not going to work for you. walk away!
 

Flip-Flop

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I would have shat my pants as well :p

Especially seeing that it's your first experience so you're already scared to begin with. He should have known better, but perhaps he was just testing you. A good talk should do to clear things out. :)

Just say you want to talk to him about something that's been bothering you and go for it. He should understand, I'm sure.


Ja. I was really nervous meeting him but once we got going I relaxed a bit and started enjoying it. Then the whole smothering thing happened and completely unsettled me. Driving home I was very unsettled and kept on thinking that this could have been my first and last experience. But after settling down and thinking calmly I realized that he did not intend to hurt me.

I guess I could look for someone else to explore with, but it took me a really long time to feel comfortable enough to meet this guy. And we get along actually. We could maybe become friends and that would be good for me to have a gay friend.

I hope marine1 was not correct in his theory that he wanted to kill me because I was talking too much, because if I bring this up tonight and try and have a conversation about it I am dead for sure. :p
 

Flip-Flop

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First things first...


Do you enjoy being with this guy and are you enjoying the sex? If yes...

Just a simple, Bud I did not enjoy the other night. It scared me. And discuss boundaries from there.

If he is into asphyxiation etc, and you not comfortable with that. Guess this hook up is not going to work for you. walk away!

You are right. Good point.
 

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You want to look him deep in the eyes, grasp his neck firmly with your two hands and squeeze.
When you think he is super uncomfortable, rustle his fringe and say, "You really shouldn't trust me so much!!!" don't forget to laugh manically.
 

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You want to look him deep in the eyes, grasp his neck firmly with your two hands and squeeze.
When you think he is super uncomfortable, rustle his fringe and say, "You really shouldn't trust me so much!!!" don't forget to laugh manically.

Two things however. He has a really thick neck. Don't know if my hands will be able to actually strangle him. I don't think I am getting across how big he really is. He really is large. Not fat but muscular. Secondly, he does not have hair. He shaves his head. :)
 
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